Why has he become so emotionally unattached?

[candyapple89]

Hi I have been dating this guy for about two months now. We share a house and soon after I would go and see him till eventually we both started liking each other. Now on the beginning we were done he would always hug me touch me kiss me he would always text me. Basically I felt like he was falling for me. However in the past couple of days when I'm with him he seems emotionally unavailable to me , he has reassured me he still likes me but he's also said he can't trust me as, he knows I still talk to other guys. Today his texts are like non existent and it's making me want him more. He has also been hurt before in the past I'm wondering if it's something to do with that and also we spend every day together so I'm wondering whether he is bored of me. When he looks in my eyes now it's like he ain't got no feelings towards me. I have told him already we can go back to just being friends but he says he wants to be with me. I'm just a little confused right now

P.s we live in flats and he lives directly below

[d'Arthez]

Sounds like a manipulative ploy to me on his part. Thread carefully ...

[InJest]

Are you talking to other guys or does he just think you are?

[Quiet Storm]

I would say that he probably heard something about you with other guys or maybe snooped in your phone or email and saw things that you said to other guys.

 

Whatever it was, I think it changed his view of you and he no longer wants to invest emotionally in you. In other words, he thinks you are too risky to give his heart to. This can be confusing for women, because men will often still want to keep the sex and companionship going even after he has decided that he doesn't see a future with you.

 

It could also be because when some men get into a new relationship (especially young ones) their hormones & brain chemicals are often raging because of the pursuit and the new and frequent sex. These feelings often prompt romantic guestures because they feel happy, and connected and enjoy being with you. However, those hormones & chemicals drop off after awhile, and since they are what is really prompting him to be romantic, he may begin to question his feelings for you or even feel suffocated. It feels to the woman that they were being led on and used for sex, but that's not really true. At that point in time, his feelings were genuine, although fleeting.