Savaris Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 After a period of NC, when she initiated contact and misses me. Should I tell her that it was for the best this way and that we should work on our friendship(so like agree with her) so i can re attract her after meeting up OR should I just say nothing about the breakup and tag along? Thanks
Boynextdoor Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 After a period of NC, when she initiated contact and misses me. Should I tell her that it was for the best this way and that we should work on our friendship(so like agree with her) so i can re attract her after meeting up OR should I just say nothing about the breakup and tag along? Thanks I would say that you go with the flow first. But dont make it too awkward. DO everything naturally and I guess everything else will follow
Shinobi Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Initially do not speak about the break up or the reasons for it even if she takes the conversation in that direction- try to avoid it. Believe me, you will talk about the reasons and the break up but when the time comes. For the first catching ups stay away from this topic and see where it goes.
Author Savaris Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 Thanks! Pegnose, NC doesnt work for every girl. Or for me for that matter... The way i am, when I let go of someone I want them more.. and I cant get them out of my head. But when the ball is in my court and I got the power(just like now) i can either forget her or try to get her back..
PegNosePete Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Pegnose, NC doesnt work for every girl. Or for me for that matter... "Work"? What do you want to achieve? NC is not a trick to win her back. It's a tool to help you feel better in the long run. And yes it does work for everyone. The only people it doesn't work for, is the people who are too weak to stick to it, or the people who are using it for the wrong reason. 1
geegirl Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Thanks! Pegnose, NC doesnt work for every girl. Or for me for that matter... The way i am, when I let go of someone I want them more.. and I cant get them out of my head. But when the ball is in my court and I got the power(just like now) i can either forget her or try to get her back.. This is the woman that said that she loves you but is not in love with you anymore. Your past threads were about ways in trying to turn her heart around. So, the power is in your hands? The power is in her hands. She is the one that is not in love with you. NC is not a game. It's a tool to help you heal and detach yourself from an emotional bond with an ex. If you have to use it to manipulate someone into loving you, then that in itself should tell you something about yourself. Understand that dumper's suffer from dumper's remorse as well. It's not an indication that they are rethinking their decision but just a reaction to a fleeting sense of uncertainty. 1
muzik_lvr Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 This is the woman that said that she loves you but is not in love with you anymore. Your past threads were about ways in trying to turn her heart around. So, the power is in your hands? The power is in her hands. She is the one that is not in love with you. NC is not a game. It's a tool to help you heal and detach yourself from an emotional bond with an ex. If you have to use it to manipulate someone into loving you, then that in itself should tell you something about yourself. Understand that dumper's suffer from dumper's remorse as well. It's not an indication that they are rethinking their decision but just a reaction to a fleeting sense of uncertainty. I have to agree with this, as I am experiencing the same things right now with my ex.
Author Savaris Posted May 11, 2012 Author Posted May 11, 2012 (edited) nvm going nc I just told her the breakup was for the best. Edited May 11, 2012 by Savaris
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