RonChalant Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 its been 6 months since the end of my 7 year relationship and there has yet to be a day where i haven't thought about her. last week a song actually made me cry because it made me think about her (big baby i know). today i was listening to a bunch of music and thinking about her even more. its been 2 months of nc since i've seen/spoken to her last. my new gf asked me if i still think about her and is it daily, of course i lied and said no. i feel bad when she tells me she loves me...i've been saying it back out of trying to forget about my ex by forcing myself to fall in love, but i dont mean it. she likes me soooo much, but i dont like her AS MUCH as she likes me and i feel bad about it. i feel like i should break up with her, but that would crush her. i really dont know what to do...i still love my ex, think about her constantly. i really like my new gf...but, i dont even know. input please
baguette Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 I was with someone for 5 years and it took me over a year to get over her, so that sounds about right. Not sure what to tell ya. You probably shouldn't be in a new relationship but life isn't always that simple.
Feelsgoodman Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 but, i dont even know. input please You'll get over it.
Mutant Debutante Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Dude, never tell people you love them if you don't mean it, that's just messed up. It will hurt her if you break up with her, sure...but it'll hurt more if you do it after another six months of lying that you love her. Get out now, quick and clean, and then try to get your **** together a little bit before getting serious with anybody else. 1
FrustratedStandards Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 It's been 2 years since my 6 month relationship with my ex... and yet somehow I think about him all the time. I guess it's just something you have to accept. There are people you forget and others that you simply can't.
carhill Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 input please IME, once one processes the ending in a healthy way, the freedom and peace is simply amazing. After processing a generational love affair and a decade long marriage, I'm continually amazed at this. In fact, I'm smiling right now. The secret for me was marriage counseling. Set me right as rain.
Emilia Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 I think about my ex all the time and part of me will always love him. It is something I have grown to accept and it doesn't impede my life the slightest. I think of it has having him in a little room in my heart somewhere and from what I heard from him recently, he feels the same I think you haven't had that much time to heal OP. 6 months after 7 years is nothing, you are being hard on yourself. 1
ThatDudeXO Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 If you keep yourself busy you'll find you won't think of them as much in time. Sometimes I have so much fun or keep so busy I think to myself "Oh...I forgot I had an ex I think about all the time, then I just carry on" Now 6 months later I don't think of her as much, possibly because I've met someone else who I like that likes me back. Best of luck.
Pierre Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 OP Try reconciliation with old GF. She seems to be the one.
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