Something I wonder about some of the users on here.......

[joystickd]

Can some of the "bitter" women acknowledge there are good men out here?

Can the "bitter" men acknowledge there are women that would want them?

Have you all accepted that men and women are different and the approaches to dating and relationships are different? I think some understand but don't want to accept it. Hell stop complaining about this and that. You can't make men date like women and women date like men because it won't work. Can you honestly say you will do the things you ask men/women to do? ex. not check out opposite sex out on the street or control your thoughts

[mesmerized]

I think we all (not sure about dasein lol) acknowledge that there are good members of the opposite sex out there, just that they are RARE!

[joystickd]

I think we all (not sure about dasein lol) acknowledge that there are good members of the opposite sex out there, just that they are RARE!

Not really that rare.

[TheFinalWord]

Can some of the "bitter" women acknowledge there are good men out here?

Can the "bitter" men acknowledge there are women that would want them?

Have you all accepted that men and women are different and the approaches to dating and relationships are different? I think some understand but don't want to accept it. Hell stop complaining about this and that. You can't make men date like women and women date like men because it won't work. Can you honestly say you will do the things you ask men/women to do? ex. not check out opposite sex out on the street or control your thoughts

 

I feel ya. I tried posting about this a few weeks ago. I think a lot of people use this forum to vent. They're not here to learn anything for the most part. They want people to reinforce they're negative experiences.

[joystickd]

I feel ya. I tried posting about this a few weeks ago. I think a lot of people use this forum to vent. They're not here to learn anything for the most part. They want people to reinforce they're negative experiences.

Venting lol. That serves really no purpose if you are not being proactive about changing your life.

[ThaWholigan]

I have become quite tolerant of most things, it is simply in my individual nature to do so. So I accept things as they are and I work accordingly. Sometimes I make my own rules as I go along for my own amusement. I acknowledge that men and women all individually do things in their own way, and I like it as such. It makes it a little more fun for me too. I'm not worried about dating or have any bitterness towards women at all. In fact I seem to be loving them more everyday (except today, brother had 2 good looking girls over and I actually found it hard to talk to them a little earlier, I froze like a bitch many times......life eh? ). I accept these things, and I move accordingly, and improve as it goes along.

 

As for good members of either sex being rare, I'd say that in my case, I have yet to meet anyone of either gender who is even remotely like me. Is that good or bad?

[SmileFace]

I think most members of the opposite sex are good. Just got to understand life happens and everyone isnt for everyone(you).

[mesmerized]

Not really that rare.

 

To me it seems like it is. Depends on your standards I guess.

 

I have become quite tolerant of most things, it is simply in my individual nature to do so. So I accept things as they are and I work accordingly. Sometimes I make my own rules as I go along for my own amusement. I acknowledge that men and women all individually do things in their own way, and I like it as such. It makes it a little more fun for me too. I'm not worried about dating or have any bitterness towards women at all. In fact I seem to be loving them more everyday (except today, brother had 2 good looking girls over and I actually found it hard to talk to them a little earlier, I froze like a bitch many times......life eh? ). I accept these things, and I move accordingly, and improve as it goes along.

 

As for good members of either sex being rare, I'd say that in my case, I have yet to meet anyone of either gender who is even remotely like me. Is that good or bad?

 

You have a great energy about you. If you can keep your optimism and don't get bitter like the rest of us you will have no issue finding a good girl and boy that girl will be lucky

[joystickd]

To me it seems like it is. Depends on your standards I guess.

 

 

 

Not really standards. If all you can focus on is how someone will f**k you over or how men/women will do you wrong then a good man/woman is rare because your mind if focused on negativity.

[mesmerized]

I think most members of the opposite sex are good. Just got to understand life happens and everyone isnt for everyone(you).

 

Wait a few years. Younger guys are much better than their older versions You'd think men learn to be better people with age. But it seems like they just learn how to treat women worse and get away/be fine with it

[joystickd]

Wait a few years. Younger guys are much better than their older versions You'd think men learn to be better people with age. But it seems like they just learn how to treat women worse and get away/be fine with it

This is exactly what I am talking about

[SmileFace]

Wait a few years. Younger guys are much better than their older versions You'd think men learn to be better people with age. But it seems like they just learn how to treat women worse and get away/be fine with it

 

Are you saying I should be bitter? People of all ages and genders can treat some one horrible. I just have to allow time to find the one who will treat me right -- be it for 3 months or forever -- that's just life. You can't expect people to not sometimes be horrible. Life goes on.

[mesmerized]

Are you saying I should be bitter? People of all ages and genders can treat some one horrible. I just have to allow time to find the one who will treat me right -- be it for 3 months or forever -- that's just life. You can't expect people to not sometimes be horrible. Life goes on.

 

No, I'm saying with time you might start to get bitter.

[joystickd]

At some point people have to take it upon themselves to man/woman up and end the cycle of bitterness. One person hurting you shouldn't dictate how you treat a new person in your life. No one should be punished for what somebody else did. It hurts them and possibly makes them bitter and hurts you too

[mesmerized]

At some point people have to take it upon themselves to man/woman up and end the cycle of bitterness. One person hurting you shouldn't dictate how you treat a new person in your life. No one should be punished for what somebody else did. It hurts them and possibly makes them bitter and hurts you too

 

I'd never hurt or punish anyone.

[SmileFace]

No, I'm saying with time you might start to get bitter.

 

I grow bitter now but when I find myself doing that I take some time away from dating and guys completely. Which I am actually doing now -- which explains me being more active on the boards. However to keep myself leveled and not bitter - I allow myself time to reevaluate what I may have done wrong and how I can respond better and improve for better results.

[joystickd]

I'd never hurt or punish anyone.

You say that but bitterness shows in subtle ways.

[joystickd]

I grow bitter now but when I find myself doing that I take some time away from dating and guys completely. Which I am actually doing now -- which explains me being more active on the boards. However to keep myself leveled and not bitter - I allow myself time to reevaluate what I may have done wrong and how I can respond better and improve for better results.

that is a great thing to do

[mesmerized]

You say that but bitterness shows in subtle ways.

 

Well so far I haven't had complaints.

[joystickd]

Well so far I haven't had complaints.

Guess you are not as bitter as you make out to be or you are not looking for a relationship

[Star Gazer]

Can some of the "bitter" women acknowledge there are good men out here?

 

Not bitter at all, and can fully acknowledge that there are some AMAZING men out there.

[mesmerized]

Guess you are not as bitter as you make out to be or you are not looking for a relationship

 

lol a bit of both.

[DjinnAgain]

People are mostly good, men or women.

 

There is some good even to those who are not.

 

Better to use time being annoyed at specific people verse a gender.

 

Posting here could give you an inaccurate idea on how things are viewed and how things are presented on a forum shouldn't let you mark people or a gender as whole either. (I admit I was a little nervous about the comments about single moms etc I first saw before I realized there doesn't seem to be much behind them.)

[MrNate 2.0]

I would hope we all know phenomenal people of the opposite sex out there.

[verhrzn]

I've acknowledged several times there are plenty of good guys out there. Just most of them are taken. And the rare ones that are single don't want to date me.

 

I don't think I've ever advocated that men should date like women, or visa versa. Though a lowering of the double standards would be nice.