pgm2525 Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Well my girl and I broke-up last Saturday because she wanted to be able to explore the world and date other people, make mistakes etc. She's 21 and I'm 24 and she thought that if we continued our relationship it would end her life and she won't be able to accomplish certain things. I know this is GIGS and that's why I let her go... I spoke to her for the last time yesterday and told her that I will be gone for a while and I don't know if I will ever be ready to be her friend.. Now I'm OK!! After 3 days of feeling bad.. I just accepted the fact its over and I'm moving on... I have started going to the gym, focusing on work and trying to find a new hobby.. Is what I am doing right?? I know that if she really wants me back or wants to be with me she will make her own way to contact me.... I don't want to be her doormat anymore... Let her find her way, I still do care about and love her.. But I guess I have to do the no contact to be completely healed... So I just wanna ask what's next?
Svet74 Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Let her Do you and you do you. Just be careful because she will try to contact you but it prob won't be of the intentions to get back together. She will be trying to test you to see if you moved on. If you want any chance of winning her back don't fall into that trap
Chi townD Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 You're doing everything right...gym, work and new hobby. You can also get a new hairstyle and new wardrobe. Change your self-image. And travel. Take a trip somewhere! Get out of the norm and your comfort zone and have an adventure. Go someplace that you've always wanted to go.
Author pgm2525 Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 Thanks man.. I know I shouldn't fall in the trap... Its going to be a long process but I guess I made a big step to recovery..
Sweetheartt Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Well my girl and I broke-up last Saturday because she wanted to be able to explore the world and date other people, make mistakes etc. She's 21 and I'm 24 and she thought that if we continued our relationship it would end her life and she won't be able to accomplish certain things. I know this is GIGS and that's why I let her go... I spoke to her for the last time yesterday and told her that I will be gone for a while and I don't know if I will ever be ready to be her friend.. Now I'm OK!! After 3 days of feeling bad.. I just accepted the fact its over and I'm moving on... I have started going to the gym, focusing on work and trying to find a new hobby.. Is what I am doing right?? I know that if she really wants me back or wants to be with me she will make her own way to contact me.... I don't want to be her doormat anymore... Let her find her way, I still do care about and love her.. But I guess I have to do the no contact to be completely healed... So I just wanna ask what's next? I got rid of my bf to for smuggling me lol. Yea go find another hobby to be busy so u dont lose sleep
Svet74 Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 I wouldn't call 3 days a recovery. It's takes about 3 weeks to reach the lonely stage. Which will prob be the same time she will reach out. But be strong and don't fall into it.
Boynextdoor Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 I wouldn't call 3 days a recovery. It's takes about 3 weeks to reach the lonely stage. Which will prob be the same time she will reach out. But be strong and don't fall into it. Well I agree to this because my ex-gf texted me after 3 weeks. However she texted me the same thing that she said from day 1 and that is "to let her be. That she gave up of herself. and she was trully sorry for her decision and for me to take care always" Even told me not to contact her family and friends who shows support to me as well. Knowing that everything is still fixable by time. (maybe). So I replied in the sense that I agree to her decision giving her 2 possible answers for everything but not really to win her back but to support her on her endeavors and future plans. She replied with "I dont hate you. I just can't be with you. I'm sorry". Same concept but texted and explained in a different maner. Now I dont know if I am progressing or what not. But all I know is that I stoped communicating with her friends few weeks ago. Spoke to her mom 3 days ago showing her support that "I should never give up on her daughter and give her time" My purpose of contacting the mom was to have a push of sending her the ultimatum that im leaving her life for good. But did not do it because I did not get that push. So more or less I just accepted the fact now and just try to cope with the scenario. Hard and tough but we hafta survive right? But still the belief and hope is there that there is a chance.. someday..
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