sal110104 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Ok a bit of texting exchange with this guy: Him: Thank u for making my night wonderful Me: Your welcome - thank you for saving me from a boring night Him: I wish I could see you before Sat - Its nice thinking about u though Me: I feel the same - hope these next 2 days fly by Him: I feel like I could talk to u all night - we have a lot in common Me: Yeah im looking forward to getting to know u better & find out how much we have in common Him: I want that! Me : Sat seems far away Him: U r making me smile but I havent stopped all night - u r gorgeous - one of the guys asked me if u were my Gf - I told him not yet Me: now u r making me blush Next day Him: good morning sunshine Me: Hey u - did u make it to work Him: yes set for slow day - I slept well last night - it helps to have someone to think of - hint I cant wait to see u again me: me too Later in day me: I realized my schedule freed up for Fri - want to grab coffee or lunch? no response by him until next day Him: I feel like a jerk - my phone died Me: actually coming up to bar to see u ltr - nice treat to see u Him: Im smiling Me - If i keep hanging around bar - they might put me to work Him: the more I see u the more I wantu - I mean to go out with u See him at bar - tell him to txt me when he gets off - I hear nothing til next day Him: hi gorgeous just got up - didnt leave until 1 figured u were asleep Me: no problem - looking forward to seeing u today Again saw him that night - texted him to let me know when he gets off- (I thought we made plans to go out Sunday) Me: I am so giving up on seeing you outside of work Sunday: Me: Hope the bar can survive without me today Him: Bar can but I cant Me: lucky for u - u dont have to - u can see me all night:) Me: Jumping in shower - let me know what plans are No reponse Me (later): so it seems clear u dont want to see me outside of work - why the nice texts saying otherwise & why the game playing. That was last I heard from him!!!! What the hell happened? Did I scare him away?
pteromom Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Maybe his phone died again? I think only he knows why he isn't responding. Could be he's crazy, and could be you scared him away. Or he's seeing someone else. Or he is just rude and insensitive. Who knows? But it shouldn't be that hard. You shouldn't be left waiting to hear from him. I'd just move on. 1
SJC2008 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Hard to say by this transcript. Yall work together but you tell him to text you when he gets off so yall work different shifts or what? Have yall been out on an official date?
daphne Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Me: Jumping in shower - let me know what plans are No reponse Me (later): so it seems clear u dont want to see me outside of work - why the nice texts saying otherwise & why the game playing. That was last I heard from him!!!! What the hell happened? Did I scare him away? The last text was too much and too negative. You guys were light and fun, and then you did a 180 on him. I don't know if it sounds like he was going to stand you up or if you jumped the gun. Either way, I don't think it was a good idea to get insecure. I would have waited for a response to your last text, and moved on in the case that he stood me up.
truth_seeker Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 The last text was too much and too negative. You guys were light and fun, and then you did a 180 on him. I don't know if it sounds like he was going to stand you up or if you jumped the gun. Either way, I don't think it was a good idea to get insecure. I would have waited for a response to your last text, and moved on in the case that he stood me up. Maybe she was right and he got scared and ran away? Usually when people disappear without an explanation you're either onto something or close to the truth.
Author sal110104 Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 The last text was too much and too negative. You guys were light and fun, and then you did a 180 on him. I don't know if it sounds like he was going to stand you up or if you jumped the gun. Either way, I don't think it was a good idea to get insecure. I would have waited for a response to your last text, and moved on in the case that he stood me up. I dont think I did a 180 - a bit I didnt add for sake of keeping story short was the 1st time I asked him to hang out - he didnt answer & then claimed his phone died. The other weird thing was the other 2 times when I saw him at work (we dont work together - a bunch of us just hang out at the bar) I said let me know when you get off - we can hang out. Both times I get excuses the next day of he got out too late & thought i would be asleep (even after I texted 1 night that I was still out at like 1am) So for me to not get a repsonse for our "date" on Sunday when I texted him at like 6pm & heard nothing so that last text was around 11pm when it was abvious it was a pretty blatant stand up. And the only reason I am asking for input to is to see if maybe I misread the situation - because the signals I was getting were so mixed. I am in no way pining for this guy or wanting him (hell if this is the way he acts before we even had a date - I could only imagine trying to have a relationship with him - that would be a nightmare) I am just trying to learn from my maybe? mistakes of maybe coming on too strong (even though I really dont think I did) but maybe outsiders see it differently
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