db1000 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Hi guys, I posted earlier and need updated help if possible. Long story short - my ex-girlfriend an i broke off a one year long-distance relationship seven weeks ago (over the phone). There has been limited contact on text and phone, mainly initiated by me. I got a text from her a week ago saying she and her friend were planning on visiting my city to see a mutual friend. My ex said she would like to meet up for a drink or dinner if i was free. I said it would be cool and left it at that. I haven't heard from her for a week and not definitely sure if she is still coming. Should I just wait and see if she gets in touch? Would it be too much to text or phone later in the week to see what her plans are? Many thanks in advance.
january2011 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Personally, I would just leave it and make sure I've made plans so that I'm not left to my own thoughts. Seven weeks is too early to be meeting face-to-face with an ex and pretending to have a good time when deep down inside you just want her back. And if she doesn't have the courtesy to confirm plans when she was the one who initiated the meetup, then I think that says a lot about how important she views your time. That is, not important at all. I suspect that she thinks you will just drop everything for her when she calls. I suggest that you ignore the breadcrumbs and return to NC. 1
olivec Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Hi guys, I posted earlier and need updated help if possible. Long story short - my ex-girlfriend an i broke off a one year long-distance relationship seven weeks ago (over the phone). There has been limited contact on text and phone, mainly initiated by me. I got a text from her a week ago saying she and her friend were planning on visiting my city to see a mutual friend. My ex said she would like to meet up for a drink or dinner if i was free. I said it would be cool and left it at that. I haven't heard from her for a week and not definitely sure if she is still coming. Should I just wait and see if she gets in touch? Would it be too much to text or phone later in the week to see what her plans are? Many thanks in advance. Honestly man I would not give her another thought. Shes a ex for a reason. Do you feel by meeting her for a drink theres a chance to get back together? If I was you i'd be very cautious and not even mention that subject unless shes does first. Also if she doesn't contact you then its not that important to her , which means your not important to her either. See what I mean.
Svet74 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 She is still making plans. And your her last option if her other plans don't work out. If I were you I wouldn't wait around. And if she does call you say sorry I made other plans already. Be hard to get. Act like u don't care 1
Author db1000 Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 Thanks guys, i think u r all right. I just went on to facebook and on the wall noticed she' become friends with a guy. He is friends with my ex's mate and i'm certain they are dating. The fact i'm looking into things like this probably proves i need to move on. Why is nc so difficult?
PegNosePete Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Why do you want to meet her for drinks/dinner? Do you want to get back with her or what? Or are you totally over her and just want ot be friends (doesn't sound like it, if "nc so difficult")?
Author db1000 Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 Hey pete, thanks for the reply. Im totally mixed up. Part of me wants to getback with her. I think it's becaue i fear she is seeing someone else - that weird post breakup situation. Just cant work how what she is feeling. Think i prob need to man up!
PegNosePete Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Think i prob need to man up! I certainly wouldn't disagree with that She clearly does not want you back. She wants to justify her actions. You are a backup plan in case her other plans fall through. Don't be that guy. It never ends well. NC her dude.
Author db1000 Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 Thanks Out of interest, why r u so sure she does not want to get back together?
PegNosePete Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Simples. If she did, she would have said to you, "I want to get back together". Instead she strung you along with vague plans and did not respond any more. Her actions are screaming out, "I am not really interested".
Boynextdoor Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Thanks Out of interest, why r u so sure she does not want to get back together? Simple. She will make herself available to you and just be there for you. She cant be testing you or what not. Thats why they went NC in the first place.
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