swfc_77 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Iv been with current gf for nearly a year, and I'm not sure whether to end the relationship or stick with it. I'm 25 she is 24, we are quite committed to each other, and I want us to enjoy ourselves, the problem is she doesn't seem happy, I mean settled and enjoying our time. I recently met her family who live in NZ we are in uk so it's hard for her, I did not get along with them, they were rude and quite bossy toasted me, even though I'd brought their daughter to see them after 3.5 years apart. Her sister tried to boss me around, tell me what to do. At 25 I'm not going to let this happen from a 20 yr old Her mum was so patronising it was unreal, her dad was great btw top bloke but a bit of a doormat. My gf changed when we got there kind of actin like her mum an sister. She never stood by me when I tried to hold my own with her mum an Sis. Her mum also offered to pay for her to go back to NZ if things didnt work out, which to me is disgusting, this the day before we left. Her sister also has pm'd her on fb saying she wants her to return soon, this is driving a wedge between us because I know the sister is only saying this because she tried to order me around and I stood up to her. Her sister and mother are awfully close and I actually felt my gf was pushed out while we were there, regardless on how long my gf had been separated from her family. Since we've been back my gf has become moody, miserable then extremely affectionate the next minute. I feel like I am being blamed for not liking the way her family treated me. I think she wants to return there, she has become distant with my mother since back and I don't know why maybe she is playing games, they were close before. She doesn't seem to appreciate me, and I don't expect much but some appreciation would be nice and for her to stand by me would be nice also. She said the other day she couldn't wait form me to go back to work as she missed having her own space. I do love her btw, I don't want to hurt her. Is this the time to say enough is enough and move on.
Author swfc_77 Posted May 9, 2012 Author Posted May 9, 2012 Ps. I think it's the family thing that is driving a wedge between us. Everything is out in the open, her family me and my gf know I don't like them. I feel like my gf's family are trying to pull us apart because they don't like me and I dont like the way they treated me. It's hard for my gf. I feel like her family want her too choose between me and them, like competition. But it shouldn't be like that, this is a fight I don't want.
TaraMaiden Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Personally? I think you're on a loser here. At one point or another, families re-unite. Just ask yourself if you decide to hold on, and you and your GF actually make it as far as the altar, where you will live, how often you will travel back and forth, or whether you actually want them as in-laws.... Then choose.
Author swfc_77 Posted May 9, 2012 Author Posted May 9, 2012 (edited) Hello Tara, thanks for reply. I hope your good. I want to be with her, we were fine before we went to NZ, I cannot for the life of me understand why her family are more bothered about bringing this fight towards me. I look after their daughter/sister, I make sure she is safe and well and loved by me and my family. We could holiday once a year there, the family seem dead set on bringing this choice to my gf. But didn't really show her the love and appreciation when she was actually there. The mother and sister were more interested in each other than my gf, another reason I'm pissed off with them. Her immediate family live together in NZ btw Edited May 9, 2012 by swfc_77 Spelling
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