Is the no contact thing always the best? Can we still be friends with no problems?

[woodstok23]

So i have heard a lot about this no contact thing and it being the best for a relationship that ends, well the question i have is does anyone disagree that sometimes the no contact thing is not necessarily the best thing to do. My ex and I have just split like maybe 3 weeks ago after 8 months and 5 months of living together, i know she is already seeing somone and she continues to lie to me about it and i am just going with it because i figure confronting her will just make it easier for her to move on if we get in a fight about it. The thing is i have been there for her through some tough times and even now i have many friends and family members i can talk to about things and it helps me, but she really has no one . I know she has been untruthful with me about everything she has been doing but little does she know i know everything that is going on and in a way i feel i deserve my chance at playing her little game. I am no psycho, but i feel she also needs someone to talk to and she knows i am here as a friend so after 3 weeks and little contact at first and mainly coming from her because i avoided her phone calls until she got mad we have been talking a little more lately, we have been talking about maybe 10 minutes when we do talk, but its been stricktly friendship levels, then we still say we love each other, and we have even talked about getting together to watch a movie and hang out. Anyways i have tried to avoid her but in the mornings i have been text messagin her wishing her a great day and also to let her know i am here and even though she is going through a tough time i am here for her....is this wrong? She calls me usually later in the day just to see what is going on but if she does not call i dont call......what do you guys think of this approach, its contact but its out of care and concern and just to keep in touch to let her also know i am here and the **** she is doing to me is not cool and me being here will eventually get to her. She is just not honest with me and i feel she is looking at me like a dumbass but i know the truth but at the same time i am concerned for her well being and i want to continue to be a friend, i dont really see us getting back together because i dont think i could trust her again, but is anyone here still friends with an ex girlfriend or boyfriend. does it work? how is the relationship? i would like to continue a friendship with her if possible and hang out even if we are with other people......thank you for reading this

[honey2005]

I really wanted to be friends with my ex, but it didn't work out. I'm planning on having no contact with him for awhile, and then after I'm less hurt, maybe writing him and trying to be friends. I don't see why you can't be friends with someone you've dated, but I don't think you can do it really soon after the break up. Maybe you should both have a little time to yourselves, and then start it over as just friends. But it really depends on how you feel when you're around her, and if it bothers you to be just friends with her so soon after a break up.