username123 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 (edited) I don’t know if I should really post this in ‘second chances’cause you really never get a second chance like this, but I am wondering howmany people really think about what they lost or missed out on when they were youngerand ‘offered’ opportunities which they didn’t take (could be male or female)and will never, ever have the chance again and how different their life couldhave been had they (… or should say ‘I’ had the courage, where-with-all, strength,ability, cognizance, understanding of life, whatever-it-takes, to actually gowith it and experience what it was like to have been ‘loved’ (or at least hadsex with someone! Lol at a younger age? Edited May 9, 2012 by username123
january2011 Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Exes from a long time ago don't really get much mind or heartspace. I'm a completely different person now and subscribe to the belief that once it's over, it's over. There's no going back. And playing a game of "what if" is only mildy amusing for just a moment. Not entertaining enough to occupy my mind for a few hours. 1
Phanpooh Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 It is called "break up" cause it break! One of you decided to break it, and exactly it is a heart, time, tears, emotions, bla bla bla... And tell me about a love you once had? When you hit on people face, who will kiss your ass back? And if that person do that, do you still get your respect or trust ?
Tiera D Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Never put all your eggs in the same basket (not encourage cheating) just that there is many more things than love.. TD
MissBee Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Exes from a long time ago don't really get much mind or heartspace. I'm a completely different person now and subscribe to the belief that once it's over, it's over. There's no going back. And playing a game of "what if" is only mildy amusing for just a moment. Not entertaining enough to occupy my mind for a few hours. I agree. I think it's a knee-jerk response for people to want their exes back, esp if they were the one dumped. Somehow upon the relationship ending this person is elevated to sainthood as the single best person on earth and the key to your happiness and life will end if you don't get back together....well....that's usually part and parcel of the breakup delusion and nowhere near the truth. When I firs got to LS 3 years ago, I was scouring the second chances forum, posting every minute detail of exchanges with my ex for signs that someone would predict we'd get back together. We did not. He came back a couple times with false alarms, but 3 years later I am HAPPY it ended and realize most things end for a good reason and you just have to trust that something better is in store so don't get hung up on wishing and hoping for what was...as you have no idea in the coming months or years how your life will be and for me, where I am now, there was NO WAY I'd be able to be here if I had continued to date him. 1
gibson Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 There is no real 'second chance'... That's horse crap. Second chances can and do happen. Most of us know family, friends or co-workers who have broken up with someone and later got back together with them. Some are even married. Having said all of that... Odds are that if your Ex does come back... You are healed, moved on and already involved / in love with someone else or just are not interested.
Jo90 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 I am against second chances, I think one attempt is enough to understand that nothing good will come out of the relations. This talk about second chances is a kind of self-disillusion.
gibson Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 I am against second chances, I think one attempt is enough to understand that nothing good will come out of the relations. This talk about second chances is a kind of self-disillusion. To say second chances do not happen or they never work out... is delusional. Why? We all know of Family, Friends, Co-workers or Celebrities who have broken up, got back together and even married. If you said second chances rarely work out... I would have agreed with you.
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