sal110104 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Friend & I are at bar - trying to take a picture of a funy scene - our phones are crap. A guy comes up ant takes the picture for us. I tell him to text it to me. Didnt think much of it - I went to talk to a guy friend of mine - wasnt looking to "pick up" anyone. My friend gave her his number and they talked for a bit that night. Later that night picture guy texts me asking if I made it home...blah blah. We start a little bit of texting conversation over the course of a few days. Wants to know if I want to grab a drink soon. I didnt think much of it - I come to find out today - he has been texting my friend too. I didnt tell her yet - he has been texting me - Not sure if she is into him or not Question is - do I ask him why he is texting me & her? I am ok with getting to know people & keeping your options open - but dont you think it is weird to text a girl & her friend?? Not sure if I should just ignore this guy now, tell my friend, or am I reading waaay too much into it & go meet him for a drink & see if we have chemistry?? Sorry if I sound naive - I am new back on the dating scene - so much has changed since I dated a decade ago - lol
mike88 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Seriously, why wouldn't you tell your friend? So you can date a guy she may or may not be interested in behind her back? If that's the case then it can't be much of a friendship.
CarrieT Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 he has been texting my friend too. I didnt tell her yet - he has been texting me - Not sure if she is into him or not How can she be? How can you be? Neither of you know the guy yet. It is just texting and getting to know people. Question is - do I ask him why he is texting me & her? No - this is how people get to know each other these days. There is no big deal with folks texting multiple people before starting to date. I am ok with getting to know people & keeping your options open - but dont you think it is weird to text a girl & her friend?? No, I don't think it is weird. He started texting both of you because he didn't know if or how either of you would respond. I don't see any reason why both of you couldn't go out with the guy to see who might have more in common or a better connection. You two could even compare notes and keep it all up front and honest. 1
TigerCub Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 You should mention it to your girlfriend. Personally if it were me, I wouldn't want to continue with him and I'd let my friend have him AS LONG AS SHE KNOWS ALL THE FACTS - so tell her. Don't ask him anything. He's just trying to up his odds by chatting with the both of you. multi-dating isn't bad, but if its between 2 friends, its weird.
LittlePrince Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Multi-dating is a common practice though it is disgusting.
dasein Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Is there flirtation in the texts? to you or her? If not, he may be just looking to get together again for drinks as he says. He may also find you both attractive and wants to see if there's anything there on either end, if so whether you will divvy him up of your own accord, so thinks if he can get you both out together, he may find out, or if he texts both of you, you will steer him one way the other or neither.
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