I havent heard from my boyfriend in 2 weeks.. whats going on? !

[rubyrage986]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 5 months. Everything was great up until about 3 weeks ago when his attitude changed towards me. We got into an argument at the movie theatre and everything went down hill from there. His calls and texts stopped coming as much. The sweet language almost completely stooped, and he stopped making time to spend with me. His tone and language in how he talks to me got very disrespectful to the point that he would get irritated everytime i would try and talk to him. I could ask him "do you miss me"? and he would blow up and get angry and respond by yelling " why you ask a stupid *** question!? I couldnt believe it. I told him not to ever talk to me like that I asked him if he wanted me to stop calling and leave him alone and he told me to shut up and if i ever said anything like that again, to dead my self and move on with life because the realtionship will be over with. Those words hurt like hell and the convo ended with him hanging up on me. The following day he ignored all my calls and texts and for the next 4 days after that I didnt hear from him. the fifth day i couldnt take it anymore so i went over to his house and he was just purely cold. Everytime i tried to touch him, he would tell me to get off of him, he didnt want me to touch him, kiss him, nothing, he even told me to fix my dress when i sat down because he didnt want to see that! All of this was shocking and hurtful. He told me that he wasnt going to call me and that he is acting like this because he doesnt want to talk to me and needs space away from me because he said that i ask him too many questions and argue with him to much. I asked him how he felt about me and he said " I care about you" I asked him if he loved me and he said " im not gonna answer that because I dont have to" in the end, he said "lets just be friends" i asked him if he doesnt want to be with me and he said no. he said i deserve better and he has some ****** up ways and he doesnt want to end u hurting me.

 

I just dont understand how his feelings could go from loving me to death to hating me in just 3 weeks. If i didnt go over there, he would still be ignoring and not calling me. He couldnt even confront me about all this, i had to make him. HELP ME UNDERSTAND AND MAKE PEACE WTH THIS, PLEASE! He did just get out of prison 2 months ago from doing a 10 year bid, if that helps with anything.

 

Being away from me and not hearing from me doesnt seem to bother him not one bit! Ever since the day he told me wanted to be friends, i haven't heard from him. But he told a friend of his that we were ok and he just needed his space because he felt like he was still locked up. He said I was still his lady and he still loved me and wanted to marry me. On the other hand, he told his sister that he just wants us to be friends until he gets himself together, and then he told another friend that he just wants to be friends because I am acting childish. Isnt this confusing, please HELP!

[hotchilenadd67]

I hate to say this but I think the problem is the fact that your relationship with him was primarily while he was locked up. Men in prison fall in love easily out of need rather than typical reasons like mutual interests and compatibility. It's sad but he may have just been running game on you. Either way its seems pretty clear that he doesn't have feelings for you anymore. Give him up as hard as it may be.

[flitzanu]

sounds like he's being a prick. plus he told you he wanted to "just be friends".

 

i'd walk away, let him be a baby on his own and stop giving him your time and attention.