Warrior Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Ok quick history my previous girl is also my first love, first person i felt VERY emotionaly attached to. 3 year relationship, I was her first boyfriend I had girls before her, she decided to see what is out there. Now its been 7 months since we separated. I dreamed one moment when we were in the bed and she was touching my face. And I dreamed it 3 times in 3 night in a row. This is really bringing me down, when that happens I feel like my soul is connected to her and like she is crushing it. I can't even picture her face in my head anymore, it is all blurry (well I am happy because of it because I want to get over her and be myself). I feel I can't control my dreams. I was doing really good I feel like I am almost healed, about 2-3 months and I am back on my tracks again, I hope I wont have this dream tonight. This situation is very messed up to cop with. Anybody had similiar situation going on? Any advice? Any reply just talk with me and share your thought; point of view. Warrior
Philosoraptor Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 All I can say to you is that dreams happen and you just need to let them pass. I'd change your bedtime routine and see if that helps change where your mind is before bed. 1
Author Warrior Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 (edited) Update: I think I know what caused me to dream her those 3 nights... Yeah, I was NC all this time and made a stupid decision in checking her youtube account. I found that she has alot of music that we used to listen together added lately... Then I asked myself stupid questions... which led to fantasying for a few moments. It is very hard to describe it, I guess there is still some little doze of hope left in me (I want it to dissapear and it will, no I wouldn't take her back she is dating some guy). I think thats the reason why these dreams happened. Damn what a wasted mind concentration. What do you say? Edited May 10, 2012 by Warrior
Tree_Salmon Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Dreams will always mess you up in the morning but eventually you get used to them too. Funny thing is I only dream about her now, never for the 5 years I was with her. Shake it off and move on in the day. 1
firegy23 Posted May 11, 2012 Posted May 11, 2012 I feel you on this one. Its been about almost a year and a half since my break up. Same circumstances over a three year relationship and my first love that I had strong emotions for. While ive met new girls and gone on dates and have great friends and a new career. Things just dont seem to make me too happy still. I went into NC for about over 7 months and around easter I saw her driving in the town we live in since she was back home from college to visit family ( she goes too school about 35 min away) and the surge of everything... all my emotions came back.( keep in mind this was the first time ive seen her in almost two years and it was just in passing). I literally turned ghost white. I felt like things were getting better until i saw her that day things just kinda spiraled down hill again. Ive noticed ive had a couple dreams of her and keep bringing my self down, but i feel that its easy to numb the thoughts if you keep your self occupied and when your alone try to not think of it too much. Indulge in a hobby, and find a new passion in life. im still a firm believer that time heals but its really up to you how long that takes. Hardest part for me is I have constant reminders of her since we live so close to each other and our parents are still great friends... Hang in there things can only get better from here!
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