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Why is this girl so rude without even knowing me?


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I tried it. It was so boring. I deleted my account.

 

 

Tried Facebook you mean? I totally respect people who are not into this...My two best friends are not even on it (one was on it for a while but suspended his because of the same reason). I'm just saying it's not all about narcissism and status. I care less if my friends have pricey toys that they brag about. But I get curious once in a while and comment on people's toys and accomplishments.

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After awhile of searching I only found two people I knew on there which I thought was funny since supposedly everyone is doing it.

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Thanks for all the advices! I'm going to bump into her again because of our social circles. But I'm going to be just courteous and leave it at that. Admit it people, FB is a big part of our social lives now. That's cool if your not into this but many people are.

 

Don't even be courteous. Just completely ignore her.

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Don't even be courteous, just ignore her.

Being discourteous will just make you look bad and then you'll be the monster. Only interact with her if she tries first. Don't go out of your way for her.

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Reminds me of a girl at work.

 

75% of the time she is cold to me and I've done nothing to her at all. She is friendly and chatty with everybody else except me. She's also the only girl who is like. I just don't get it.

 

OMG that sounds just like my XW LOL!

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It's a big deal to me too. I add the men I want to add, they don't need to approach me with the request. There was a time when a guy would keep sending me requests and messages, I had to ban him. I've never even met him but he still wouldn't take no. Some men are weird.

 

They are stupid then.

 

Exactly!

 

That is my golden rule on FB. I dont befriend people ever. I only added family. If they want me to be friends then they can ask me and I will usually accept.

 

Takes all the hastle and gameplaying out of the equasion. Now maybe thats why I have 40 friends and my Fiancee has 80. But you know what? Im OK with that.

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Being discourteous will just make you look bad and then you'll be the monster. Only interact with her if she tries first. Don't go out of your way for her.

 

It wont make you look bad, if the person you're ignoring was ignoring you in the first place, they don't deserve any better.

 

Ingoring someone who has never ignored you will make you look bad, and that's what she was doing.

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She sensed you liked her and she does not feel the same way about you. If she accepted you on Facebook then you're privy to her personal life and she doesn't want that. You may be a good guy, a nice guy, and have no bad intentions towards her, but she doesn't know that and doesn't want to risk you having access to her Facebook page, family and friends. Take no offense to this. I would be cordial like others suggest, but I would also add to befriend another woman in your circle. This will get back her and just might get her interested in you.

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I'm not seeing how she was rude. She was cold to you and it's generally not considered rude to be cold as many people are impersonal and polite and there's usually a distinction between polite and friendly. She declined your friendship request and it's generally not rude to reject friendship requests from people you don't want to be friends with.

 

She was likely so cold towards you without even getting to know you because she didn't want to know you.

 

She's likely very friendly towards and chatty with all her friends because they're her friends while you're likely a complete stranger. She has no obligation to be friendly, chatty, open, warm, etc towards you societal wise she's expected to be polite.

 

I suggest you move on as she's shown you want to be friendly while she wants to be polite.

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