SmileFace Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I have a male school mate that I have known since I was 8. We went to multiple schools together but lost contact in high school. We have been friends on fb for some time and recently exchanged numbers, upon his request. We casually text about sports, food , protein powders and weight lifting. We have no history together -- we were the outcast(single) in our social circle when younger. Our friends always tried to hook us up. I was the fat chick and he was the ugly kid but we have both come into own truthfully. Anyway he is a cool kid and I know he is in a relationship, that is always announced on fb. Which is fine with me. We live a couple hours apart anyway He sent me a flirty message as a reply to my text. I haven't replied yet. It said he will reward me with hugs and kisses. I know how to deal with things like this in person however I am not sure what to do in this situation. I am not interested in him but him even flirting a little bit while being a relationship, I'm not ok with that or even ok being a part of it. Granted I am not flirting with him. Should I just blatantly just tell him or just ignore the jesture?
somedude81 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I'd ignore it. If he does it again, tell him that you're not cool with it.
veggirl Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Agreed with SD. He will hopefully get the hint if you ignore that (I would!) but if not, say something next time.
Author SmileFace Posted May 9, 2012 Author Posted May 9, 2012 Yeah I will just ignore it. If it continues then I will address it. I don't even like being a part of these things. I seem to be a magnet to guys in relationship.
MrNate 2.0 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Yeah I will just ignore it. If it continues then I will address it. I don't even like being a part of these things. I seem to be a magnet to guys in relationship. Don't say that. I sense a bit of sadness in this post. It's cool that you're in to weight lifting and such. I enjoy it myself. As for that guy, I agree. Just ignore it, and if it continues, address it.
Author SmileFace Posted May 9, 2012 Author Posted May 9, 2012 Don't say that. I sense a bit of sadness in this post. It's cool that you're in to weight lifting and such. I enjoy it myself. As for that guy, I agree. Just ignore it, and if it continues, address it. Yeah I really wasn't trying to make that the topic but this is a reoccurring factor. I fall for a guy while away(he wasn't in a relationship when we were together but we were only friends)-- guess what, he is in a relationship back home. Guy shows interest in me - guess what he is in a relationship and gets his girl to be in a open relationship to try and be with me Coworker who shows interest in me - we hook up at a party to only find out he cheated on his girlfriend with me Now this kid... I just don't get it. I don't care if this continues however I will never be ok being the next women. I just want to understand why. I am sick of being the relief to guys. 1
WhiteChocolate Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 It's not your fault. Sounds like you have just had terrible luck so far. It's okay, next time! 1
Author SmileFace Posted May 9, 2012 Author Posted May 9, 2012 It's not your fault. Sounds like you have just had terrible luck so far. It's okay, next time! Well feels better knowing its my luck and not me, lol
MrNate 2.0 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Yeah I really wasn't trying to make that the topic but this is a reoccurring factor. I fall for a guy while away(he wasn't in a relationship when we were together but we were only friends)-- guess what, he is in a relationship back home. Guy shows interest in me - guess what he is in a relationship and gets his girl to be in a open relationship to try and be with me Coworker who shows interest in me - we hook up at a party to only find out he cheated on his girlfriend with me Now this kid... I just don't get it. I don't care if this continues however I will never be ok being the next women. I just want to understand why. I am sick of being the relief to guys. Don't beat yourself up over it so much. I'm sure quite a bit of us have had those kind of people. Just keep on pushing along, and making sure people know what you're after. If you want it bad enough, it will happen. From what I read on your posts, you are pretty chill. So, it's only a matter of time. 1
dasein Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Eh, they may be on the outs, people do branch swing today and you never know what's on the other end, GF could be cheating, behaving badly, any number of possibilities. I wouldn't flirt back, but would keep the channel open in light of how long you two have known each other.
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