Juninho Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Broke up with my Girlfriend of 1year 2months ago. Wasn't the best of break ups. We haven't spoken in 2months and im not even sure if she's seeing anyone else. But i've been hurting ever since, but she wouldn't have any idea. Anyway, Were going to be at a mutual friends party this Friday and was just wondering how should i act if we bump into each other. .I know shes going to be there, but she doesnt know i will .I still Love her .I want to get back with her in the future How do i go about this, without looking weak or bitter?
Gulf-Delta Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Prepare for her showing up with someone else. I know it sounds brutal and painful, but expect it. If she goes alone, just be cool. Be yourself. Maybe apologize for the breakup being ugly if you haven't yet. If she's with someone else, leave er alone.
daisy088 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 why did you end it with her? at what point did you begin to regret it? immediately? Why have you not reached out to her yet? Have you been completely NC for 2 months? If you want to reconcile (and she is alone), I would approach her in a friendly manner, ask her how shes doing and tell her a specific time you thought of her which reminded you of a fond memory you have together, as Im sure you have many. See how she responds to this. If you are getting semi receptive responses, perhaps ask her if shed want to get lunch one day so that you two can catch up. Do not lose the person you love because you are too proud. It is your job to fix this if you are the one who broke it off. If she is not open to a relationship with you anymore, that is the consequence of you decision and simply means you two weren't meant to be anyway. Im sure it will work out as its supposed to. Best of luck
Author Juninho Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 She broke up with me, i probably should have worded it better. Its sad but she said she just didn't feel proper love for me and was worried that she hadn't fallen for me in a whole year even though i was a great boyfriend to her(her words) The original conversation about breaking up was as civil as it could be, even though i was crushed. We broke up 1st week of March,The week after the break up we saw each other at this club we both used to go to and we ended up sleeping with each other and acted like we never broke up :s was weird but felt right as well. Then we spoke about it next morning had a lil joke about then the following weekend i had a drunken moment where i got mad at a status she put on FB, regretted it so much the next morning and apologised, but she was kinda cold with her responses. So I went NC to 'try' move on and I've maintained it for 2months. During the NC she's deleted me of Blackberry Messenger which was weird because we had spoke everyday on it for a whole year, so that was sad. Surprisingly she's kept me on FB ad kept all our pics up. I'm dying to know what she's been up to these past 2months and for us to reconcile like i daydream, but I'm preparing for the worst
daisy088 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 If she broke up with you and has not attempted to make contact, she does not want you back. Im sorry that hurts to hear (Ive heard it from many others on this board as I was broken up with and left in the dust very suddenly from my ex). If she wanted you, she would be at the very least throwing breadcrumbs trying to feel out the situation. She may or may not be with someone else but my best advice to you for dealing with this would be to smile and say hello but then try to stay away from her and busy yourself talking with other friends. If you cannot help yourself from going up to her and trying to convince her to take you back- do not go. Seriously Saving your dignity is the MOST important thing you can do at this point (trust me... I begged for my ex back around a week ago, he only got mad, said cruel things and made me feel worse than before!). Please believe me when I say staying away and maintaining NC is not only best for you and your mental health but also your best chance of getting her to miss you/want you back (even though Im not encouraging this mindset). I hope youll make the right decision
Author Juninho Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Well that's painful to hear, I really think she doesn't want to look like the weak one to make contact. I truly believe that. Friday is my D Day. What happens that night will basically shape up how i act in the future. If she's dismissive and shows no sign of having any feelings for me. I'll leave her forever and leave her to it. These 2months have been so hard, its like we both know what's going on with this no contact but both to stubborn or scared of the others reaction. It'll be interesting seeing her again even if its from across the room haha
Chi townD Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 I agree with the other posters. Just be prepared for her to show up with someone else, ESPECIALLY if she doesn't know you're going to be there. If she knew ahead of time, she would make arrangements to meet up with him later and not to bring him to the party so as to not cause a possible scene.
ToyWithMe812 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 She broke up with me, i probably should have worded it better. Its sad but she said she just didn't feel proper love for me and was worried that she hadn't fallen for me in a whole year even though i was a great boyfriend to her(her words) The original conversation about breaking up was as civil as it could be, even though i was crushed. We broke up 1st week of March,The week after the break up we saw each other at this club we both used to go to and we ended up sleeping with each other and acted like we never broke up :s was weird but felt right as well. Then we spoke about it next morning had a lil joke about then the following weekend i had a drunken moment where i got mad at a status she put on FB, regretted it so much the next morning and apologised, but she was kinda cold with her responses. So I went NC to 'try' move on and I've maintained it for 2months. During the NC she's deleted me of Blackberry Messenger which was weird because we had spoke everyday on it for a whole year, so that was sad. Surprisingly she's kept me on FB ad kept all our pics up. I'm dying to know what she's been up to these past 2months and for us to reconcile like i daydream, but I'm preparing for the worst You mean you are dying to know about the guy(s) she's been with? why? What good will that ever do you? Unless it is someone you know, then it will suck even worse. Sorry dude, but all signs do not point to do pass go and collect 200. It is hard as f*ck, but honestly, there is nothing you can do. Either you guys reconnect down the road or not, but right now, there is not one damn thing you can do.
Author Juninho Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 The Party Happened. She turned up with her mum, dad, auntie, cousin and EX BOYRFRIEND I kinda expected it, so was prepared. I was having a good time and my mates saw her walk past me 2x and noticed her looking at me to see if i would look at her which i never. about 20mins later her mum and dad saw me from the other side of the room and waved and smiled at me, and i did the same back. About 5minutes after that i caught a glimpse of my ex dancing with her ex boyfriend, pretty sicking, but i managed to keep my cool. I was annoyed because she looked stunning, and her ex looked like a tramp I went about 2 hours without bumping into her then the inevitable happened and we saw bumped into each other, i was dignified and said hello and smiled, she did the same suprisingly. Its so weird because while i was smiling all i could think was how much i hate this girl. I'm happy with how i acted at the party, I was calm, didnt act emotional or heartbroken and i even managed to have a little flirt and kiss with this girl( found out today she's my ex's bestfriends cousin) lol It was strange seeing and speaking to her for the 1st time in 2months but i feel i now have the closure i needed, i'm leaving my ex to it with her cheating ex boyfriend and moving on. **** her. 1
flitzanu Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 i guess that's a good outcome. now just follow through with what you said.
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