blindesided Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I have read all the advice you LS'kers give & take it heart - there are some really great stuff and people on this board & I am soaking in the knowledge to try to learn & grow as a person. - Thanks everyone! Anyway - I posted a couple days ago about a guy I met who just dropped off the face of the planet out of the blue after all the sweet texts of "I am really starting to like you" & " I cant wait to see you outside of work"....ect.. My friends and I frequent the place he works at (that is where I met him & saw him a few times while he was working before we were supposed to go on a date) Not going back there isnt an option - its one of our favorite places to hang out & I'm not changing my life around for some douche bag. My question is this - the next time my friends and I end up at his workplace & see him - how should I handle it? I could act like nothing happened & say Hi & chat like usual - like it really didnt bother me (but it did) I know better than to ask him why - I'll never get a real answer & it really doesnt matter. What I want to do is just to walk up to him & tell him what a dick move he did & then walk away and ignore him from then on. So what would you guys do in this situation? I really do listen so if you have other suggestions on how to handle this - I would love to hear it.
Million.to.1 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Be polite. Be formal. Pretend it hasn't bothered you. You don't need to act like nothing happened, cause it did. You can display your coldness to him without saying "what a dick move". Best plan is to stop giving him any energy. Including your thoughts.
carhill Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 How would you act if he were a stranger? Go with that. His privilege of familiarity ended when he 'just dropped off the face of the planet' without an explanation. It's fine to be cordial but stop at the familiar/flirting/sweet talk, etc.
Author blindesided Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Thanks for the responses - I think you both are saying roughly the same thing. That's good advice. This situation has never happened to me before so I didnt know if it would be weird not to acknowledge it at all in some way when I saw him - but it sounds like treating him like a stranger is a good plan
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