deadhead88 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Does it mean anything if a girl is very talkative to a guy, asks him questions about his life, reveals intimate details of her life (How she has only had one one night stand and it was a bad experience, past relationships), talks about similar interests and things in common, wants to know everything about you and your life, teases you and can be seen staring at you at times or flirting and joking with you as well as laughing at all of your jokes and taking interest in everything you say. Is this just basic friend zone stuff? Especially if you know she has a lot of guy friends? If she is comfortable and relaxed with you and shares personal info such as the one night stand story and her life in general, does this mean you're a friend and so it doesn't matter to her what you think. Does this mean that there is no attraction whatsoever and no chance of it ever escalating? I think it does, but I wants girls opinions
verhrzn Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Here's a good test of the friend zone. You: Can I take you on a date this weekend? If yes, not friend zone. If no/maybe/anything-other-than-yes, friend zone.
mtber75 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 She's probably tomboy who likes hang out with guys. Just ask her, you'll probably have to be direct with her. If she thinks of you as one of the guys, no chance of dating her.
carhill Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 When I was younger, I used to think this (the OP) was a sign that she 'liked' me. Much experience taught me that she (general she) 'liked' my response. Who I was, as a person, was generally irrelevant. I was mistakenly applying my own psychology, one where I feel comfortable and open with someone I 'like', meaning romantically, to those women I was interacting with, inferring erroneously that they felt the same way. Further excursions into the realm of MW's reinforced this dynamic. Those experiences, along with having healthy platonic female friendships, taught important life lessons regarding the differences in psychology which were/are out there.
Author deadhead88 Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 I know I should just ask her. What confuses me is the opening up and sharing personal information about her past, especially the one night stand part. She also asks me if I ever had one, myself. I always hear that if a girl does this, you're either her close friends or are already dating. I wouldn't consider myself a close friend seeing as I never hang out with her outside a school setting, except for studying together (which mostly involves talking to and goofing around with each other and one time we had lunch together because we were at the same sandwich place by coincidence. I am not in her social circle, and only just started talking to her this school year (We are both in the same major).
thatone Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 verhrzn is right, everything you've told us means nothing, because you've done nothing.
Gulf-Delta Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Here's a good test of the friend zone. You: Can I take you on a date this weekend? If yes, not friend zone. If no/maybe/anything-other-than-yes, friend zone. LOL. No. To the OP: The friend zone isn't real. I suppose it MAY be if you aren't making any effort at all, but usually, if you have any shred of cool/confidence in the way you carry yourself, there is no friendzone.
NateC Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 The "friendzone" is a word that gets tossed around so much...and it's just that: a word. Well, more of a mentality, but a word all the same. Get up the courage and ask her.
motive2002 Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 I think there's a small window of opportunity to make a move on a woman if there's sexual attraction going on. Miss that window and you'll be lumped into the friend zone. Her conversations where she's revealing intimate info simply means she sees you as harmless and figures she can trust you. Here's a really good acid test for the "friend zone". Does she complain at all about any of her shortcomings? If she does she is fishing for compliments.. and is NOT interested in you sexually. Women that are interested in you sexually HIDE their shortcomings. They don't bring them up to the light. It sounds hokey, but I find this little test to work more often than not.
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