Yogio Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I have been split from my ex for three years the split was a good split..... Well as good as they can be i guess, a lot of love still remains and care. Yesterday my ex come round for a cup of tea and i recived the biggest shock of my life my eyes could not believe what i was seeing there was a huge bruise on her back larger than a two fist put together and nail marks all over her back where she had been kicked out of bed while sleeping throw against a wardrobe and repeately beaten. It crushed me as i still love her i took a step back to soak in what i had seen and been told she admited she makes excuses for this behaviour and belives that she is in love with this monster and in a horrid relationship. I spent a long while talkin about what she wanted to do and how on bias that she would only recive a open ear and a shoulder till she made her mind up about how to get away from the violence. I know i have to think rational and protect my self but im heartbroken to see her treated this way. Im lost Need clear advice please help. X
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I have been split from my ex for three years the split was a good split..... Well as good as they can be i guess, a lot of love still remains and care. Yesterday my ex come round for a cup of tea and i recived the biggest shock of my life my eyes could not believe what i was seeing there was a huge bruise on her back larger than a two fist put together and nail marks all over her back where she had been kicked out of bed while sleeping throw against a wardrobe and repeately beaten. It crushed me as i still love her i took a step back to soak in what i had seen and been told she admited she makes excuses for this behaviour and belives that she is in love with this monster and in a horrid relationship. I spent a long while talkin about what she wanted to do and how on bias that she would only recive a open ear and a shoulder till she made her mind up about how to get away from the violence. I know i have to think rational and protect my self but im heartbroken to see her treated this way. Im lost Need clear advice please help. X You cannot help a person who doesn't want to be helped. I am surprised she didn't try to cover it up; almost like she wanted you to see it. I always covered my stuff up; didn't want anyone asking questions; I had to be ready to talk. Let her know there are places she can go/outlets for help. But you cannot intervene or you could make it worse for her.
geegirl Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I'm sorry Yogio. I know it must be hard for you to witness a loved one suffering physical abuse. I have been there as a witness and as a victim to physical abuse. You cannot help her. She has to want to seek help because she wants to and when she is ready. You can advise her on ways to find help, be there for her, only if it is not too hard on your emotional health. You have to also look out for yourself and your sanity. 1
xenomorph Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 exposing her wounds comes off like a cry for help to me. I wonder if it would be possible to anonymously tip the authorities of this? (Or would that just make things worse for the victim?) Is there anyone you can contact that could help her out other than yourself? ugh, this really sounds like horrible abuse and no one should endure that. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 You don't want anything getting to her b/f that she came to her ex b/f. That would make things bad for her. But her choice to stay with him.
EgoJoe Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Well she is a retard for staying with someone like this. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Well she is a retard for staying with someone like this. And desperate for attention.Does her ex know she's over your place for tea?
wilsonx Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 What you people fail to realize is he hosed her years ago because he wanted to chase butterflies and unicorns. He gigsed out on her, left her alone so she had to find something to grab on to 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 What you people fail to realize is he hosed her years ago because he wanted to chase butterflies and unicorns. He gigsed out on her, left her alone so she had to find something to grab on to and now she's having tea with the ex showing off her bruises hoping to get some attention.
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