justagirrl Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Hi LS, Haven't been on here in a while, but I was hoping I could find some helpful support and advice. I've been seeing this guy since we met in September. Back in february we discussed the "reason" why we're not in a committed relationship right now... He was entered into the 2012 NFL draft and his reason was that he could be drafted anywhere so for now let's just see how things go. (I bought it) He lives about 40 minutes from me, which to me is nothing, but that also played into his reasoning. When we first started seeing each other, he went to college 5 minutes away from where I live so we were able to see each other all the time. I don't think it's an issue but I guess he feels like since it would be more difficult to see each other, he wouldn't wanna have to go thru something that would potentially cause us to "break up" and ruin our relationship even as friends. So...he ended up getting drafted to the Giants, so he got to stay home!! Which was a big concern of his, and is super close to me, maybe 30 minutes and he will be living in a hotel by the stadium for a while. I'm just trying to figure out what's going thru his head, and idk if i should even bring that up because he's getting so much attention from everyone about his recent accomplishment. He hasn't been texting me as much since the big day, and I'm trying to tell myself it's because of all the attention and he's just dealing with that. But I'm seeing on twitter it seems like he's becoming really friendly with his stretch therapist. He didn't answer my text the other day, and he always does...and then i saw on HER twitter she's posting tweets saying "Getting this workout in, @_______ (his twitter name) is nowhere to be found" "I'm so lonely @_________ (his twitter name again)" [with a picture of the empty gym] and then later in the night tweets like: "M.I.A." "In a cuddly mood #whereAREyou" "My bed is so comfy tonight #ONEthingMISSING" I don't know what this means, but it sort of makes sense since he kinda was M.I.A. and not even answering me........but I feel like this means they're talking or maybe even seeing each other. Today he tweeted a picture at the gym of his foot standing next to her sneaker saying "so small and colorful" I'm really upset and I hope I'm not over analyzing this, but I'm so confused. I texted him that day I guess he wasn't answering anyone and he never answered it I just said Hey Should I text him and see what's up? I should probably just drop it and forget him, but I really like him a lot
veggirl Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Yes forget him. Seriously if he really is going into the NFL he will have women throwing themselves at him NON STOP. If he just finished college and is like 22....he's not gonna turn down the temptations. Best to get out now.
Author justagirrl Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 He's such a shy person, and he's not really hott, he's attractive, but I'm sure just because of the fact that he's going to be on the Giants will be enough. should I even try to talk to him?
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 He's such a shy person, and he's not really hott, he's attractive, but I'm sure just because of the fact that he's going to be on the Giants will be enough. should I even try to talk to him? How can you talk to him when you can't get in contact with him?
Imajerk17 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 (edited) Hi LS, Haven't been on here in a while, but I was hoping I could find some helpful support and advice. I've been seeing this guy since we met in September. Back in february we discussed the "reason" why we're not in a committed relationship right now... He was entered into the 2012 NFL draft and his reason was that he could be drafted anywhere so for now let's just see how things go. (I bought it) Yes you did buy it. It's a rationalization for "I'm just not that into you". He lives about 40 minutes from me, which to me is nothing, but that also played into his reasoning. When we first started seeing each other, he went to college 5 minutes away from where I live so we were able to see each other all the time. I don't think it's an issue but I guess he feels like since it would be more difficult to see each other, he wouldn't wanna have to go thru something that would potentially cause us to "break up" and ruin our relationship even as friends. LOL. Yeah that's it exactly, he's not committing to you because he cares so much about the friendship the two of you have. Right.... Sorry. So...he ended up getting drafted to the Giants, so he got to stay home!! Which was a big concern of his, and is super close to me, maybe 30 minutes and he will be living in a hotel by the stadium for a while. I'm just trying to figure out what's going thru his head, and idk if i should even bring that up because he's getting so much attention from everyone about his recent accomplishment. He hasn't been texting me as much since the big day, and I'm trying to tell myself it's because of all the attention and he's just dealing with that. But I'm seeing on twitter it seems like he's becoming really friendly with his stretch therapist. He didn't answer my text the other day, and he always does...and then i saw on HER twitter she's posting tweets saying "Getting this workout in, @_______ (his twitter name) is nowhere to be found" "I'm so lonely @_________ (his twitter name again)" [with a picture of the empty gym] and then later in the night tweets like: "M.I.A." "In a cuddly mood #whereAREyou" "My bed is so comfy tonight #ONEthingMISSING" I don't know what this means, but it sort of makes sense since he kinda was M.I.A. and not even answering me........but I feel like this means they're talking or maybe even seeing each other. Today he tweeted a picture at the gym of his foot standing next to her sneaker saying "so small and colorful" I'm really upset and I hope I'm not over analyzing this, but I'm so confused. I texted him that day I guess he wasn't answering anyone and he never answered it I just said Hey Should I text him and see what's up? I should probably just drop it and forget him, but I really like him a lotYou texted him twice. Ball's in his court. Writing's on the wall too. Sorry. Edited May 8, 2012 by Imajerk17
veggirl Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 He's such a shy person, and he's not really hott, he's attractive, but I'm sure just because of the fact that he's going to be on the Giants will be enough. should I even try to talk to him? You have tried to talk to him. He isn't responding. And clearly he has the time too, he has time to flirt with his trainer and likely is sleeping with her based on her twitter thingers. And yes, many girls will throw themselves at a pro athlete regardless of his looks / personality. I'm sure he'll manage to break out of his shy shell... Sorry
Imajerk17 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 (edited) Yes forget him. Seriously if he really is going into the NFL he will have women throwing themselves at him NON STOP. If he just finished college and is like 22....he's not gonna turn down the temptations. Best to get out now. I agree with you veggirl, that justagirl needs to move on, but that he is a 22-year-old professional athlete about to have all that poon thrown at him, has nothing to do with my decision. It is instead how he didn't commit to her AND now he is ignoring her. While getting palsy-walsy with his stretch therapist. EDIT: I'm not laughing at justagirl, it's painful to be on the end of these things. I AM hoping though that she sees that he and she are just on different pages. EDIT II: I used the pronoun "he" to specify that guy. What else was I supposed to use? He is NOT her boyfriend because he didn't commit, and FWB would sound too harsh (even though it's accurate). Edited May 8, 2012 by Imajerk17
Author justagirrl Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 You're all right... it just sucks because being a pretty girl I keep getting taken advantage of. I just really genuinely liked him. And he's even introduced me to his family, taken me out on dates....that's why I didn't see it as just FWB ;(
TigerCub Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Hey Justagirl, Don't feel so bad. Honestly this guy has a whole new world opening up for him. He wouldn't resist temptation and be faithful to you AND, at least he didn't commit to you (hence the excuses in the past). I don't know if you were used as a FWB for sure, maybe he didn't see it that way, maybe he thought it was just casual dating. Either way, don't get too down on yourself AND Don't contact him anymore. He saw your texts, he knows you want to talk and he's not getting back to you sorry. Oh and please please resist the urge to follow him or anyone connected to him on any of these social network tools - you'll just be prolonging the hurt.
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I like how people are protecting his promiscuity and cheating just because he is a pro-athlete.
Author justagirrl Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 I like how people are protecting his promiscuity and cheating just because he is a pro-athlete. I agree with you, I have a friend who's boyfriend is on the Giants and they are completely fine and have been together for 2 years...so I don't think being a pro-athlete should be an excuse...but there will probably be temptations and that's what separates a mature man from an immature boy.
Author justagirrl Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 I really wanna text him =( And I'm being really down on myself about it...it's upsetting ;/
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Don't you have anything else you could be doing? Do that instead of fixating.
blindesided Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Im sorry you are dealing with this. It sucks - I know. Trust me - dont be that girl & text him. You say you are a pretty girl - you will have many more guys hitting on you. Dont focus on the "fantasy" of being with him - pro athlete, lifestyle, money, ect... its easy to get caught up in that fantasy. I had a tough time getting over a guy who worked in the entertainment business - we were always going to events & parties & concerts ect.. while he was a great guy & he broke up with me over lifestyle differences (children, marriage..) I think I missed the excitement of having things to do with someone rather than missing the actual person after while.
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