4givrnt4gtr Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 So, in the past few weeks Ive given online dating a chance.. In one of the sites I met this guy, whom at first I thought was cute and then once we started talking, I thought had a great personality, funny, and pretty much same sense of geeky humor as me. However, somewhere along there I realized this guy is almost three years younger than me. But, i thought, he seems cool, Ill give it a shot. So, anyhow I met him and to my surprise he is ridiculously hot. Like, his pictures did not do him justice at all. So there I am, first date, completely dumbfounded...why is this guy online?? He is successful, mid twenties, good looking and funny...what in the world. So I ask him..and he says he is pretty shy and has difficulty approaching women. During the date he does seemed kinda reserved, and I have a hard time reading him. However, the date went pretty well, had a good time and by the end of the night (after a 3 hour date) we kissed goodnight. I was pretty much in cloud 9 So second date was this past Sunday. We went on a long hike, and the first half we spent a lot of time talking joking and laughing. At one point he randomly kissed me and much later we sat down to eat some snacks, talk an ofcourse kiss some more. At this time he tells me he hasn't had many relationships and in fact has only kissed less than a handful of girls, counting me which totally surprises me. He does note that he did have a long term relationship of 2 years..but she was the pursuer. In any case, I take note and keep wondering why...but continued having a good time with him. We kept talking and joking and kept on going on our trail. And then suddenly, when we decided to turn back, he became really really quiet...Barely any talk at all. In fact, we basically made our way back to the car in almost complete silence. I couldn't help but wonder if he was annoyed, upset, bored...I dont know. Specially because he was in front of me, walking kind of fast and barely waiting for me. So in any case, once we got to the car he continued with this silence until i brought it up. He said that he sometimes likes to be "happily quiet". I mean..thats all fine and dandy but..on the second date? and a whole like hour an a half or more???? So anyhow, he started to make more conversation on the drive and by the time we got to his place I felt good about us again. He walked me to my car, kissed me and told me he would be online later, if i wanted to chat. Now this took me aback...we spent a whole day together, he didnt talk to me for a gooood long while and now he wanted to chat more online?? :confused: I thought he had just said that for the heck of it but to my surprised about two hours later he messaged me online and we talked until about 2am. In this chat he tells me he tends to be quiet sometimes, reserved, but doesn't mean anything bad by it...so ok, I give him the benefit of the doubt. He also tells me he likes me and though he may be slow to warm up, he hopes he can get to know me better...ok, so good! i think. THEN Yesterday evening I texted him, just to say hi. He messaged me back and tells me he was going to cook and if he didn't answer he was probably doing that. I said ok and made a joke, which he didnt respond to. About an hour later he messaged me, but I was away from the computer so I didnt get it until maybe 10 minutes later. I messaged him but by that time he didn't respond and basically didnt answer that messaged or texted me at all. So basically, my struggle is...is this guy even interested in me at all?? or is it his inexperienced that is making him act....awkward?? As I said at first I was definitely into him but now...Im not so sure.. and Im definitely not sure how (or if ) to proceed. He mentioned how he was looking forward to hanging out again, and how excited he was to get to know me and how he was happy to have met someone like me...but somehow after last night's message fiasco...Im not sure... Am i looking too into this??
veggirl Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 You are reading WAY too much into this. He sounds totally interested, to me. Last nights messaging was hardly a fiasco. Relax
lovelydovey Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I think you're looking way too much into it. He totally sounds interested, but he sounds like he may be a little socially awkward? Like you mentioned, it may be because of his inexperience. Go out on a few more dates, if he's still being weird, and you don't want to deal with it then break it off. Otherwise, enjoy yourself!
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted April 5, 2014 Author Posted April 5, 2014 Almost two year update.... He was, in fact, interested..... So much so, that I am marrying him!! 1
Valen Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 LOL that's awesome. Love hearing happy endings. I didn't even realize it was two years ago. I was about to commment about his "happy quiet" moment. I could relate as I am that type of guy as well. Sometimes we just run out of things to say but we are happy just to be next to you.
GemmaUK Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 Awwww! That's fantastic news! Congratulations! ..and there was me just about to reply to say I like quiet times too and that I thought he did seem interested........
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