Nistan Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Is there some sort of link between being cruel and searching for a mate? I have no problem with not finding some people attractive or finding them uncompatible. But do people need to bee vitriolic? It's a little pathetic. Can't people just say that you aren not into somebody without sounding like a five year old?
louise_23 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Is there some sort of link between being cruel and searching for a mate? I have no problem with not finding some people attractive or finding them uncompatible. But do people need to bee vitriolic? It's a little pathetic. Can't people just say that you aren not into somebody without sounding like a five year old? out with the details? im all ears.
Philosoraptor Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I've not met anyone since grade school that was incredibly immature. If they were immature you need to be glad nothing happened with them.
Author Nistan Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 LOL. No nothing happened to me. it's just the general tone of the people around me when these issues comes up with kinda makes me uncomfortable. Example: "Ew, s/he have a big nose", behind the persons back. Or laugh about somebody being "out of their league". Whatever that means. I really don't know why this bothers me so. Maybe because I was a dateless wonder with a severe depression in my younger days. I had to become really positive and learn to see how normal I really was by comparing myself with others and see the positive in both myself and me. i feel that people say stuff like that to emphasize how unique they are. It's kinda lazy. Perhaps it's because I learnt being a indiviual the hard way I have a different perspective?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I think a lot of people spend time picking apart others becaue then they don't have to spend too much time looking at themselves. If something is wrong about someone else, they can talk about it and feel good about themselves. I understand not being attracted to someone. I don't understand the "eww, omg they are *insert adjective here*" and making a joke of them. But that is our current culture. You ever get those mean "People at Walmart" chain mails? I have. Making fun of people has become really really popular in the digital age. My brother is a little guilty of this behavior. One day we came across a man that was loosing clumps of his hair at the back of his head. My brother made a comment about it, making a joke about it and I just said to him, "do you really think if he had a choice, he would choose to be losing his hair like that." He also took a picture on his Iphone of this older African American guy in these plaid 1960s pants. I thought the guy looked really adorable. My brother thought it was funny. I kind of pointed out to him that it wasn't cool to take pictures of other people to save on your Iphone to laugh about when they don't have any say in the matter. You can say anything you want without any repercussions for it.
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