black_shemer Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 ,i am really desperate to move on.we actually broke up september 2011 then months after we still do communicate,playing sweet.but i dont want it anymore just to be like that.weve been in 2years relationshp thats y i just cant let him go just like that.i dont know. his parents dont like me,me neither.just tell me how to stop the pain that i feel.i just wnt to move on but i dont knw how to start.i always dream of him having someone else and i felt really bad when i woke up. This is really ridiculous! Somebody please help. I want him,love him and i believe he feels the same way but we cant really work out together because of family problem. Please an advice.i just want to die because of this pain!
Zabs Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Hey there, I am sorry to hear about your recent upset and I can tell by the way you have written your text exactly how painful this all is:( The best way to move on..I don't know to be honest..I guess it's about trying to keep yourself occupied for a while until the feeling passes..or at least our emotions are not ruling us. How to do this? Small steps..set little goals for yourself each day to help you through and see where that takes you. I will not follow this through with 'and then you will start to see' because who knows how you will feel? The key is not to berate yourself for feeling as you do. We have all been where you are and I personally don't think it is wise to cast too many opinions on something when the basiscs need to be ironed out. The fact that you say his family don't like you, in my opinion, that is too much to take on board at this time for you. Concentrate on you and getting yourself to a point where you can talk a little more calmly, have interests that don't include him and a raise in self esteem before you begin considering 'anyone else's view' on your inperfect relationship. And in any case, who's relationship is ever perfect? Good luck Much love Zabs xx
Author black_shemer Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 ,thank u for sharing ur advice towards my problem.ive just gotten to a point that i dont know what really to do.i really appreciate the things u told me. I will set goals everyday and not include him as possible.its hard being in this knd of situation. he always told me dat if we are really for each other,we will but gven ths knd situaion,i dont know if we will still be fore each other. thank u anyway
Author black_shemer Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Love is a wonderful feeling.its not supposed to cheat on you,hurt you or make you feel inadequate. Its not love,its a toxic attachment. #eve
budley12 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 there really is no "fast" way to move on. Losing someone that important to you is like a death, and you will most likely grieve for a long period. I honestly felt extreemly depressed for about 5 months. The 6th month I finally accepted it and had started to move on. It takes time, just stay busy, and just "keep swimming"
Author black_shemer Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 ,thank u for sharing ur advice towards my problem.ive just gotten to a point that i dont know what really to do.i really appreciate the things u told me. I will set goals everyday and not include him as possible.its hard being in this knd of situation. he always told me dat if we are really for each other,we will but gven ths knd situaion,i dont know if we will still be fore each other. thank u anyway
Author black_shemer Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 ,wat do u mean by keep on swimming.hmn,its been 8months since we broke up but that time we have communication.so i have to start working everyday no contact wd him.thats tough.thats hard.
MissBrunette84 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 (edited) Keeping in contact and keeping some kind of communication actually just hurts you more than going no contact, because you still have a tiny hope to cling to, miss read into words or things hes saying, miss read situations and you'll find yourself slamming into the ground over and over again. It does hurt I know, but I've been through this, made every mistake possible and can honestly hand on heart say, no contact is kinder to yourself. Edited May 8, 2012 by MissBrunette84 typos
Author black_shemer Posted May 9, 2012 Author Posted May 9, 2012 ,i appreciate all ur advices.sorry to bother u guys out there.i dont want u to feel the pain dat i have right now,just wnt to share my pain so as to not to keep it all by myself.i wish i have d exact answer with this.thak u guys again i really want to come up real fast. wtching prison break the whole day was probebly the best start to move on with no contact.i feel much better now though
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