doowah Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I met my friend online a couple of years ago. He was in a relationship which wasn't going very well. We talked about that a lot. After a year or so we met in person, and got along in real life as well. We've been good friends ever since, always platonic. He broke up with his girlfriend eventually and now has been single for a year. He's been dating girls, but never serious, he didn't want to be a relationship yet. He wants to enjoy his life alone for a while. All the time he's always talked to me about his dates and his life. A few weeks ago I noticed my feelings for him where going beyond friendly feelings. I didn't like it, he's my friend, I valued that. So I sent him an email about my feelings, wanting him to tell me they weren't mutual so I could get over them. A few days later we sat down and talked about it. He told me his initial reaction was 'no', but in the days following he realized he had had feelings for me earlier (which he'd never acted on, because I had once told him I could never be attracted to him) and that there was something there now. So we decided to give a shot. After a week and a half he told me he didn't think it was going to work for him. We'd seen each other 4 times, never long, only once did we have the chance to talk a bit. The last time he told me he was having doubts. He'd realized that when being friends with me, after spending an evening with me, he was happy to say goodbye again (that hurt). He also told me he wasn't ready for a relationship yet. A week before he'd already told me he needed space. I'm not extremely sad about it, but I find his reasoning hard to believe. At first his comment about not liking me enough to spend more than one evening with me hurt, but later I started thinking. How can you be close (yes, we are actually close) friends and feel like that? And how do you know you'll feel like that in a relationship if you've only tried for one and a half week? He does want to see me again soon and we will. Other than that, I want to give him space. I told him we should go back to being friends and just see what happens. But what do you think? Is there any chance we'll actually get together some day?
smith9800 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Dont really know, but you must talk on this matter again in the future...
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