laid off and dumped in the same week

[nyc12]

went from feeling like i had it all, to having nothing at all. if that didnt suck enough a family member was diagnosed with cancer and my father spent a week in the hospital for a heart condition, and was told he likely only has 5 years left. all in the same month.

 

its been about a month or two since this all went down. ive had some time (a lot of time since im jobless) to reflect on things. it was easy to stay in bed all day. it's easy to dwell on things. but even with all this, i still feel so lucky to be healthy, alive, and free.. and im happy, i love my life still. theres nothing i can do to control, prevent, or change the outcome of anything that happened recently. as i enter my late 20's im learing the best way to live life is to just roll with it and see where it takes you. learn for every experience. enjoy what you can out of every experience. so many people take so much for granted - especially their health if they are lucky enough to have that.

 

for everyone here who feels hopeless after a breakup, or whatever you are going through. 1.. it could be worse. 2.. you're still alive. and if you're fortunate enough to be an able-bodied healthy being, you should never ever complain about a thing. so many people out there would kill just to have that.

 

and thats the end of my rant.

[Mcnulty]

I like what you wrote, makes a lot of sense.

 

I am, I guess the other side of the coin. Since my gf dumped me in the most horrendous of ways, 6 months ago, I lost a lot of my family for a few months, due to them staying friends with her, I lost a dear friend to phneumonia, had a serious time in hospital for 3 weeks, (3 operations...nearly lost me) am trying to recuperate, work wont let me come back, I'm restricted to what I can do physically....and i still love her and miss her like hell...it still hurts alot.

 

So...my point is, nyc12 is so right, if you have your health, you have a springboard...please use it and remember how lucky you are.

 

I'm not asking for sympathy, I may get better, i may not, I still don't know, but I will try my damndest to get out of what seems like at times to be a long tunnel with no light at the end of it.

 

To quote nyc12.."1.. it could be worse. 2.. you're still alive. and if you're fortunate enough to be an able-bodied healthy being, you should never ever complain about a thing. so many people out there would kill just to have that."

[xenomorph]

went from feeling like i had it all, to having nothing at all. if that didnt suck enough a family member was diagnosed with cancer and my father spent a week in the hospital for a heart condition, and was told he likely only has 5 years left. all in the same month.

 

its been about a month or two since this all went down. ive had some time (a lot of time since im jobless) to reflect on things. it was easy to stay in bed all day. it's easy to dwell on things. but even with all this, i still feel so lucky to be healthy, alive, and free.. and im happy, i love my life still. theres nothing i can do to control, prevent, or change the outcome of anything that happened recently. as i enter my late 20's im learing the best way to live life is to just roll with it and see where it takes you. learn for every experience. enjoy what you can out of every experience. so many people take so much for granted - especially their health if they are lucky enough to have that.

 

for everyone here who feels hopeless after a breakup, or whatever you are going through. 1.. it could be worse. 2.. you're still alive. and if you're fortunate enough to be an able-bodied healthy being, you should never ever complain about a thing. so many people out there would kill just to have that.

 

and thats the end of my rant.

 

I'm going through something nearly identical at the moment.

 

Close family member is battling cancer, I'm going through a divorce, and while I haven't lost my job, I am doing double the work load due to cut backs. Very stressful time, but for some reason, all the adversity is making me want to fight back.

 

It's almost as if that things are so bad it's almost... comical. Do you feel this way too?

 

With that said, my biggest fear is going insane, and I have entertained suicidal thoughts in the past, so I've been doing a lot writing, reconnecting with friends, and keeping up with stories here on LS.

 

Painful period, but deep in my gut I know that I will make it through. Any more -bad- to this pile of bad will hardly affect me at this point, it seems.

 

We have the tools to create a new life for ourselves, and it's good to hear someone else going through the same kind of experience but not letting it tear them away from seeking happiness.

 

The only unknown is how long the healing and growth will take. Wish I knew...

Edited May 8, 2012 by xenomorph

[geegirl]

My best girlfriend was diagnosed with brain cancer a few years ago. She was in remission at the time when I was struggling with my ex. She was 31. I remember crying on her shoulder one night about him, and she said, "You have so much Gee. You have life. I don't. I want you to live." At the time, I looked at her puzzled and said, "You're doing great too R, don't talk like that. It's gone."

 

At 33, she passed. I never knew that when she was diagnosed, she was told she would have 5 years to live. No one knew except her mother. She passed exactly 5 years and 1 week from the time she was diagnosed. On Easter Sunday. Every moment was precious to her and I, most times took everything for granted.

 

At her funeral, I mourned the death of my best girlfriend, suffered the pain of knowing that my ex was possibly cheating on me (at the funeral, I crossed paths with a woman whose colleague was "flirting" with my ex) and only days before had to run tests for cancer and was struggling to keep my family together because of my father's abusive ways.

 

I had unbearable pain and could barely stand at the funeral, seeing her lay there, knowing my ex was possibly cheating, wondering if I may have cancer and feeling alone with no support from my family.

 

Through all that, a couple of years later now, she remains in my heart. My ex is a distant memory, my health has improved and my parents life together has improved and I've met a wonderful person who fulfills my life.

 

There would be no good days if there we no bad ones. And there are times when it rains, it pours but hitting rock bottom is not always a bad thing because life will soon enough cradle you and nudge you to swim up again! It won't always be this way. It won't.

Edited May 8, 2012 by geegirl

[xenomorph]

beautiful, moving, and inspirational post geegirl. I teared up and smiled...

thank you so much for sharing this. -hugs-

[geegirl]

You are most welcome xeno! It brought tears to my eyes too for many reasons.

 

Isn't it comical!? I remember when I was going through my divorce. My family had disowned me. I moved into an empty, dark apartment with only a towel and my clothes. I had no money. No friends. I was laying on the floor, in the middle of an empty living room crying and then laughing and then crying and I remember I kept saying out loud, "This is just a funny joke." I'd cry again and laugh. "This is just a funny joke" in a robotic manner. And continued crying for days on that floor trying to brainwash myself into believing it wasn't real. It does get so bad sometimes that you feel the universe is truly playing a funny joke on you.

 

It's good to hear your optimism and you already BELIEVE that it's going to get better! That in itself is half the battle won!

[Mcnulty]

"Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars."

 

 

 

If there is hope, there is a way.

 

 

I wish you all luck.

[rAFC]

I was also laid off and dumped in the same week. Dumped on a Sunday and laid off the following Friday. Then I was in a car accident and my car was totaled. It is sometimes difficult not to dwell on these things and feel depressed as not too long ago I felt that I had everything I wanted, only to have it all disappear.

 

I am thankful that I have my health and an amazingly supportive family, I'm not really sure what I would do or where I would be without them. No matter what happens, it could be much worse. The way I see it, I have no where to go from here but up! I just keep reminding myself that things will get better and one day I will look back on all of this as necessary events to get me where I need to be in life.

[xxSRMxx]

Thats lovely

 

It really is true, we are still alive, we are in pain...but nothing lasts forever.