GG3 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. He is a jokester which tends to be my type. I am a jokester too. In my previous relationship which ended over a year ago and last about 5 years, my ex became abusive over time. He was verbally and emotionally abusive. And had I stuck around, I think he would have became physical. During our honeymoon stage, he used to make a "joke" that I never liked and asked him to stop many times but he would not. After we would sleep together, he would say lay in bed and say, "Now get out!" and laugh. I just never thought it was funny. I think sometimes there is underlying truth to humor. (49 years old btw) It was one of many things that in hindsight I wondered if it were a red flag. My new boyfriend has been super sweet. (41 years old) He has seemed to be very caring so far, very sweet and attentive. We tend to joke at each other and aggrivate each other. But over the weekend, we pulled into his garage. And as the door dropped down...he said, "Now get out!" I thought, "Am I reliving a nightmare?" LOL. He did it twice over the weekend. Is there some manual out there for guys that says, "This is a great joke for when you get a girlfriend...." I just don't like that joke. I don't find it funny. I didn't laugh...I just got quiet. What does everyone else think? Am I just taking this wrong?
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Sounds like you are good at finding your exact type again and again and after this I'll assume again.
Onlyjonley Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Why does it bother you so much? Because of your ex? My boyfriend makes the same joke, and he's the sweetest guy in the world. If it reminds you of your ex, explain that to the new guy.
SJC2008 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 You are totally within your rights to not liking your last bf to say that I mean the man must have a "black" sense of humor because I'd never say that after a round of exchanging pleasantries with a woman. Sounds like he's a woman hater IMO. As far as the new guy is concerned I'd tell him that that your last bf did that joke and it was funny at first (even if that's not true you don't want to seem like you are sore over it) but he drove it into the ground and when he says it it reminds you of him. If he still does it then tell him it's a don't go there and if he can't respect that after that then dump his arse.
Author GG3 Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Why does it bother you so much? Because of your ex? My boyfriend makes the same joke, and he's the sweetest guy in the world. If it reminds you of your ex, explain that to the new guy. Thank you God. lol. So maybe it's just a common joke. Yeah it does because my ex was passive aggressive.
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Multiple women liking the same exact type? Who knew..... Maybe obnoxygen is a real thing.
Eddie Edirol Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Thank you God. lol. So maybe it's just a common joke. Yeah it does because my ex was passive aggressive. You cant expect to have the fun of aggravating each other for fun, and then get upset something like this joke comes out. You cant pick and choose when it comes to that kind of joking. You can explain it to him, but he might use that against you, if you say something that bugs him. You either have to figure out a good comeback for "now get out" or stop joking in that way. BTW I think "now get out" is a hack joke, I would have pulled into the garage, closed the door and said "Stay in the car, Im leaving it running, do me a favor and open your window".
Author GG3 Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 BTW I think "now get out" is a hack joke, I would have pulled into the garage, closed the door and said "Stay in the car, Im leaving it running, do me a favor and open your window". That really made me laugh out loud.
dasein Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Yeah, it's not a good joke. Have been guilty of the same kind of thing, threatening to "spank" in my case (learned it from my grandfather who used to get my g-mother howling uncontrollably by saying it). It has always gone over well, but yes definitely trite and lame. Your BF doesn't mean anything by it most likely, if he does it again, ask him if it's part of his act and tell him not to quit his day job in a laughing, not angry way. He should take a hint.
RiverRunning Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 "That reminds me of my ex." BOOM. I can guarantee it's solved. He will -never- say it again.
Eddie Edirol Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Your BF doesn't mean anything by it most likely, if he does it again, ask him if it's part of his act and tell him not to quit his day job in a laughing, not angry way. He should take a hint. "That reminds me of my ex." BOOM. I can guarantee it's solved. He will -never- say it again. GG you see how this works? When you're dealing with jokes, All you need is a good comeback.
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