xxSRMxx Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Theres a guy around the same area as me who I have always kind of flirted with etc. Whenever weve seen each other out weve always been friendly etc. Ironically the same night i met my now ex boyfriend he was also asking me to go out with him on a date, but i never because he was rebounding (he'd just split with his gf) and I wasnt interested in stepping on any crazy ex's toes... so i chose my now ex who has broken my heart. Anyway, obviously its been heard im single again and hes been in touch since, nothing tooooo flirtatious but weve been texting, ive spoke to him about things etc. Tonight he asked me if i wanted to go out to dinner sometime...... Its only been a month since i split with my ex so i really dont know? I dont want ANYTHING serious, hes not really somebody i could imagine myself ending up with, I dont even wanna hook up and have sex, but as for dinner and drinks and a chat, I think I would probably be up for that to be honest. Or dya think leave it?............
Philosoraptor Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Just let him know your interest is strictly platonic and go for it. That way you didn't lead him on, you don't have to feel any pressure, and you can fully enjoy the chat.
Exit Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Yeah just be open about only wanting dinner and some conversation. Maybe you could even find a way to joke about the fact that last time you knew he had just gotten out of a relationship and now you've just gotten out of one, and you're just looking for some dinner company. Don't try to just wing it, don't let him show up thinking he's gonna get something out of it and then figure out how to bail at the last second or refuse an awkward offer to go home together. Make sure the terms are clear and have a nice time. If you feel it's too awkward to even have to outline all of this ahead of time, then maybe pass.
Author xxSRMxx Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Yeah thanks guys..... I will tell him straight lol
robkris8079 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 without a doubt you should go out with him!!! You should be talking to everyone, making friends, doing things just like this. Being upfront with him is a great idea too. No need to for huge explanations or details. I been doing just what you are and all I say is "I'm just looking for friends right now". I have never been walked away from or given a dirty look or anything negative by saying that. And I'm at a point in my life that if I was I'd just move on. No room for stuff like that in my life.
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