Chacha8 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Went to lunch with coworkers today. Shortly after we were seated, the waitress seated another couple directly behind us, but I couldn't see them at the time. After a few moments, I heard his voice and realized it was him. I didn't know at the time who he was with, because I was too afraid to turn around. My coworkers knew what was going on, and in an attempt to spare my feelings, they tried to keep various conversations going so I wouldn't get upset. At one point, I turned around and saw that he was with HER. He saw me, and immediately looked away. They were seated in the booth directly behind ours, so he was just a few feet away. At that point, I started shaking inside and could not eat, but being the composed woman I am, I simply continued on with conversations with my coworkers and didn't let on like I was too upset. Once we finished our lunch, we stood up and walked past their table, because there was no other way out of the restaurant. He never acknowledged or even looked at me again. That was the hardest part for me. Seeing them together has been inevitable, and I already knew that I would eventually run into them somewhere, but just the simple fact that he acted as if I didn't even exist is what hurt the most. Maybe she is not aware that he is still married....I don't know. About 4 hours later, he sent me a text that said he was sorry he didn't acknowledge me, but he didn't want to make things awkward for HER. Make things awkward for HER?? Are you kidding me? I am the mother of his child and still his wife. I didn't respond to his text, because I knew I would just end up feeling worse later. Just knowing that he didn't even care about how it affected me really shows me alot about his character. So cold and dismissive. I can't believe this is the same man I was in love with and married to. Okay, enough of that. I just wanted to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening/reading
daisy088 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Im so sorry This sounds so miserable. At least you can recognize this as a fault of his Clearly this man is a cold and selfish individual. I hope and know you will find someone who would never treat you or anyone else this way. Best of luck to you. Hugs 1
xxSRMxx Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Im sorry you went through that, Well done for keeping your composure and dignity...You should be v proud of yourself I wouldve launched a drink in his cold insensitive face...but thats just me.
Author Chacha8 Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Im so sorry This sounds so miserable. At least you can recognize this as a fault of his Clearly this man is a cold and selfish individual. I hope and know you will find someone who would never treat you or anyone else this way. Best of luck to you. Hugs Thank you:) I needed that. It's just hard when you go from being number 1 in someone's life to not even registering on their number scale. Nevertheless, I am learning that I am much stronger than I thought I was, even on my bad days. And thank God that our son is so resilient and strong, too. This whole thing absolutely shocked and devastated him.
Author Chacha8 Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Im sorry you went through that, Well done for keeping your composure and dignity...You should be v proud of yourself I wouldve launched a drink in his cold insensitive face...but thats just me. LOL, let me tell you....the thought crossed my mind MORE than once.
marqueemoon4 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Went to lunch with coworkers today. Shortly after we were seated, the waitress seated another couple directly behind us, but I couldn't see them at the time. After a few moments, I heard his voice and realized it was him. I didn't know at the time who he was with, because I was too afraid to turn around. My coworkers knew what was going on, and in an attempt to spare my feelings, they tried to keep various conversations going so I wouldn't get upset. At one point, I turned around and saw that he was with HER. He saw me, and immediately looked away. They were seated in the booth directly behind ours, so he was just a few feet away. At that point, I started shaking inside and could not eat, but being the composed woman I am, I simply continued on with conversations with my coworkers and didn't let on like I was too upset. Once we finished our lunch, we stood up and walked past their table, because there was no other way out of the restaurant. He never acknowledged or even looked at me again. That was the hardest part for me. Seeing them together has been inevitable, and I already knew that I would eventually run into them somewhere, but just the simple fact that he acted as if I didn't even exist is what hurt the most. Maybe she is not aware that he is still married....I don't know. About 4 hours later, he sent me a text that said he was sorry he didn't acknowledge me, but he didn't want to make things awkward for HER. Make things awkward for HER?? Are you kidding me? I am the mother of his child and still his wife. I didn't respond to his text, because I knew I would just end up feeling worse later. Just knowing that he didn't even care about how it affected me really shows me alot about his character. So cold and dismissive. I can't believe this is the same man I was in love with and married to. Okay, enough of that. I just wanted to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening/reading Thats a REALLY tough situation but it sounds like you handled yourself with dignity. Give yourself some credit, you did good!
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 why is he dating while still married to you?
Author Chacha8 Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 why is he dating while still married to you? EXACTLY! I think it is so disrespectful to our family that he's out with this other woman in public before we are even divorced. He obviously feels there is nothing wrong with it. Even though we all know he's moved on, you would think he would have some decency and show respect to me and our son....but I guess he doesn't feel as if he owes us anything.
marqueemoon4 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 EXACTLY! I think it is so disrespectful to our family that he's out with this other woman in public before we are even divorced. He obviously feels there is nothing wrong with it. Even though we all know he's moved on, you would think he would have some decency and show respect to me and our son....but I guess he doesn't feel as if he owes us anything. I know how you feel.. my exW moved our son and her in with OM no more than 6mos after we were separated. I'll never understand.
Author Chacha8 Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 I know how you feel.. my exW moved our son and her in with OM no more than 6mos after we were separated. I'll never understand. He claims he met her one week after we seperated and has been pretty much living in her home ever since. He has not called or come by to see our son, who was completely blindsided and devastated over all of this. It has been a little over 6 weeks now since he left, and although it is slowly getting better for my son and me, it's definitely been the absolute hardest thing I have ever dealt with in my life. You know, if I could just feel like this was difficult for him too, I might be able to deal with it easier. But he has moved on and left us in the dust so easily, and it just seems that our marriage never mattered at all. Maybe it didn't, and I just have to accept that.
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