Gulf-Delta Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Lately, my bad/depressed days are becoming less frequent. Most days, I wake up, take a shower, and feel down right awesome. I feel great, look great, confidence, etc. Sadly, the first thing my brain usually does is say "Wow gulf, you look great today....you can totally win your ex back!" WTF? WHY?!?! I don't want that, for some reason my confidence makes me wanna chase down/win my ex. :mad:
windmask Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 maybe you should realize she screwed you over and if you guys were meant to be together you already would be.....SIGNNN someone better out there maybe... stop wasting time show all the other girls out there how awesome and confident you really are expect your ex gf. if you truly feel this confident lets find a new girl or a new circle of friends with lots of girls..time to become popular sir lol 1
Author Gulf-Delta Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 (edited) maybe you should realize she screwed you over and if you guys were meant to be together you already would be.....SIGNNN someone better out there maybe... stop wasting time show all the other girls out there how awesome and confident you really are expect your ex gf. if you truly feel this confident lets find a new girl or a new circle of friends with lots of girls..time to become popular sir lol I don't want any other girls... And she didn't really screw me over...:/ My urges to call her, make amends and everything are getting worse every day. I get close and closer to it everyday. Edited May 7, 2012 by Gulf-Delta
Philosoraptor Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 How about trying to turn that thought into "Hey Gulf, you're awesome and you can make your own dreams come true!" 1
Author Gulf-Delta Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 How about trying to turn that thought into "Hey Gulf, you're awesome and you can make your own dreams come true!" My dreams are already on their way to becomeing true.
LogicallyIllogical Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I don't want any other girls... And she didn't really screw me over...:/ My urges to call her, make amends and everything are getting worse every day. I get close and closer to it everyday. Time for some tough love: She dumped you. She basically said "I don't want to love you anymore. I'm going to find someone else to love and sleep with." Why would you want to call or make amends with someone who did that to you?
Author Gulf-Delta Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Time for some tough love: She dumped you. She basically said "I don't want to love you anymore. I'm going to find someone else to love and sleep with." Why would you want to call or make amends with someone who did that to you? Because that isn't really how it happened?
windmask Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 it seems like at this rate u will never get over her. u refuse to blame her u refuse to let her go. in that case well good luck and keep hurting yourself and maybe one day u will see yourself that you should have given up a lot sooner on her. until then i guess good luck keep telling yourself shes not to blame at all and make amends or w.e. i say if u want to make amends so then do so and move on but i dont think it will stop there. but w.e helps you do it...
jennisfora Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 it just takes time, Gulf. you will get there at your own pace. right now you are still in the denial stage. i was there, after that comes the anger stage, when you get there you will know it, and you will such a rage, that she didn't try harder to make things work, that she isn't there for you right now...but you will get there when you get there. and, after you have simmered down, you will go back to hoping, and wanting to reconcile. you kinda get these schizo moments where you go back and forth between total adoration and total hatred. i am now getting out of both, and feeling very neutral, and drained of feeling. i don't hate him, still love him, but it feels distant now. i can see myself getting over him, when before i couldnt imagine it. i think i am nearing or approaching acceptance. once i get there, i will be in a healtheir frame of mind, and can judge the relationship objectively and decide more clearly if i would take him back. right now it isnt an option because he has to want it, and i have no evidence that he does. and, i am past trying to sell the idea. you will get there. and she will be doing her own journey, and she will be able to look back and if she wants to try again, she will reach out, if she doesn't, you have to be prepared to go on with your life. *hugs*
Author Gulf-Delta Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 it seems like at this rate u will never get over her. u refuse to blame her u refuse to let her go. in that case well good luck and keep hurting yourself and maybe one day u will see yourself that you should have given up a lot sooner on her. until then i guess good luck keep telling yourself shes not to blame at all and make amends or w.e. i say if u want to make amends so then do so and move on but i dont think it will stop there. but w.e helps you do it... There's nothing to blame her for. What is the purpose of being bitter over a mutual growing apart. We grew apart. That isn't anyone's fault it just happens.
Author Gulf-Delta Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 it just takes time, Gulf. you will get there at your own pace. right now you are still in the denial stage. i was there, after that comes the anger stage, when you get there you will know it, and you will such a rage, that she didn't try harder to make things work, that she isn't there for you right now...but you will get there when you get there. and, after you have simmered down, you will go back to hoping, and wanting to reconcile. you kinda get these schizo moments where you go back and forth between total adoration and total hatred. i am now getting out of both, and feeling very neutral, and drained of feeling. i don't hate him, still love him, but it feels distant now. i can see myself getting over him, when before i couldnt imagine it. i think i am nearing or approaching acceptance. once i get there, i will be in a healtheir frame of mind, and can judge the relationship objectively and decide more clearly if i would take him back. right now it isnt an option because he has to want it, and i have no evidence that he does. and, i am past trying to sell the idea. you will get there. and she will be doing her own journey, and she will be able to look back and if she wants to try again, she will reach out, if she doesn't, you have to be prepared to go on with your life. *hugs* Oh yea, I know all about the schizo moments lol. And I was upset about her "giving up" but after this much time, I've realized we just grew apart, romantically. If something happens between us again, ok. If not, whatever. That's no reason to hate her. Hugs to you too
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