Els Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Sort of what I'm trying to say. I don't think he is just planning it but maybe his tastes are a little rigid. I don't understand how HIS tastes are more rigid than the majority of male posters'. In fact, it's one of the few refreshing posts I've seen that don't go 'slim body, preferably brunette, long hair, shorter than me'. In fact, I think in essence the OP seems to say that he mostly just wants an intellectually compatible girl whose personality he also admires, and is open to dating a relatively wide range of ages and such. I don't see how that is any more rigid than having a long list of physical requirements. 3
d'Arthez Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Some of the most traditionally brilliant and intellectually stimulating people I know are in psychology. I am just stating my experience. It may be different where you are. Most psychology students I had the pleasure of interacting with were more interested in partying than studying. I'd be more inclined for the Arts, Theology or Philosophy departments. More intellectually stimulating people there.
ThaWholigan Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 I am just stating my experience. It may be different where you are. Most psychology students I had the pleasure of interacting with were more interested in partying than studying. I'd be more inclined for the Arts, Theology or Philosophy departments. More intellectually stimulating people there. In my short experience at University, I had the pleasure of interacting with intellectuals from across a broad spectrum of subjects, including psychology. Even intellectuals like to party too
zengirl Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 I don't understand how HIS tastes are more rigid than the majority of male posters'. In fact, it's one of the few refreshing posts I've seen that don't go 'slim body, preferably brunette, long hair, shorter than me'. In fact, I think in essence the OP seems to say that he mostly just wants an intellectually compatible girl whose personality he also admires, and is open to dating a relatively wide range of ages and such. I don't see how that is any more rigid than having a long list of physical requirements. Agree, entirely. He wants an intellectually compatible, reasonably attractive girl who is within a fairly flexible age range and has a compatible personality! I think his tastes are excellent -- picky in the right ways for a lasting R but open to possibilities. I'm sure he'll find his gal. It does take awhile to find someone who works for an R --- that's just reality.
Els Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 In my short experience at University, I had the pleasure of interacting with intellectuals from across a broad spectrum of subjects, including psychology. Even intellectuals like to party too Oh so true! But I think the OP specifically said that he preferred the non-partyish sort of intellectual, which describes the majority of my circle of friends. Agree, entirely. He wants an intellectually compatible, reasonably attractive girl who is within a fairly flexible age range and has a compatible personality! I think his tastes are excellent -- picky in the right ways for a lasting R but open to possibilities. I'm sure he'll find his gal. It does take awhile to find someone who works for an R --- that's just reality. Me too. I'm sure it isn't easy, because requiring compatibility naturally excludes some people, but it's well worth the wait even if there is one IMO.
TheFinalWord Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 What I'm looking for is someone 20-25 who isn't really into the party scene. An intellectual with a good sense of humor but also outgoing and active. I've always had the same problem. Two recommendations: 1) Channel that energy into graduate school, i.e. PhD. I pretty much get paid to think for a living. It's pretty fun once you jump all the hoops of degree requirements I have found that I kind of get my intellectual "fix" at my job and actually want a woman that isn't so serious to help balance me out. You still want someone with a brain, but you have to have fun too! 2) I have found most of the intellectual girls are in leadership roles at universities. President of this organization or that organization (not sororities lol). They are usually driven women because those are things that aren't required for the degree. Just don't be intimidated when they whip out a mile long resume. These women are smart, maybe smarter than you so be careful what you wish for
matte123 Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Hmm maybe expand your social circle? A lot of people seem to meet through mutual friends. One guy I know met his gf online since his friend is friend with a friend who's friend with another friend, etc. until it got to her. The number of friends it took for them to know each other was pretty large but eventually they were introduced to each other. I'm sure you will eventually find someone. You seem like a good guy and you don't have strict requirements
ThaWholigan Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Oh so true! But I think the OP specifically said that he preferred the non-partyish sort of intellectual, which describes the majority of my circle of friends. Yeah, I know too many party animals, and I'm not really a partying guy although I do enjoy parties a lot. I tell you what I love in a girl. I love a girl who reads . I like to have intellectual debates with girls, I find them calming (and arousing sometimes ). So yeah, I get where OP is coming from, the kind of girl you'd meet at Waterstones or something .
jennisfora Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 good luck with the early 20's set. i am not a partier, but i partied the most at that age. 25 to 30 girls are more mature. if you want someone you can talk with, i would set your age range at that, and if you find an amazing 21 year old, that isn't into partying, and is intellectual, congratulations, but, more likely, you will find people that have dabbled in it, and decided it isn't their bag by 30. plus, if you date an early 20s person, they may decide they haven;t lived enough, or partied enough, and dump you to go play around. why bother? i would just go 25 and up, but that's me. im 33 and i have tried to date late 20s and they are still too into partying for me.
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