arcaedge Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Hello- Ok- I am a guy and one of my best friends is a girl- we fooled around over new years at a house a bunch of friends rented for the weekend- it was great and when we got back i told her so and that i wanted a relationship and she said "it feels right but im scared"...then she moved to chicago. She sent me a CD once she was in Chi with a note saying she really missed me and specifically included her favorite song, the last song on the mix, which was a love song with many lyrics that I thought pertained to us...but i asked her if she was trying to say something that she couldnt say herself with that song, she said no and that i was reading way to much into things because i want to be in a relationship with her. I was hurt by this, and thought what was the point of sending me a mix CD telling pointing out how important the last song was, when it had nothing to do with me? Am I reading to much into this?
Author arcaedge Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 Also, do women think about what they are putting on a mix cd? Or is it random? if i was making a mix cd for someone i would definitely think about the lyrics and the message i was sending, but maybe that is just me? Thanks everyone for any feedback.
wwwjd Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 - it feels right but I'm scared - we fooled around - I miss you, here's a MIX CD with my favorite song - last song important The signs line up. Sometimes women don't admit they want or that they want to be wanted. To cut through that warm buttery mess, man up, lay it down, and if she bites, you are in. If not, stop punishing yourself, cut the net free and sail on. If it were me, I'd say, "I miss you too. Let's get together next weekend. I'm coming to Chicago to see you. Can't wait!" BTW if you are permenantly separated, Long Distance Relationships are not really relationships at your stage. Just fantasy.
dasein Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Was the song "Careless Whispers" by chance? With a preexisting friendship where you fool around, you have to decide whether you can truly put your feelings aside and continue the friendship, or whether you can't. If you can't, the friendship is essentially done, until you can overcome the feelings. Suggest not dwelling on what the CD means, getting out and cultivating other options without preexisting strings involved. Good luck.
Author arcaedge Posted May 14, 2012 Author Posted May 14, 2012 No...i wish it was though...instead it was quite the sappy song. Thanks for the advice, told her I didnt want to speak anymore, too confusing...been 3 weeks
Joaquin Posted May 14, 2012 Posted May 14, 2012 Wow. You skipped the whole relationship thing and went straight for no contact (with your best friend). Your a fast mover. Hope it feels better now.
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