metalambience Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Like at bars, girls are never just sitting there. They are constantly talking to their friends they came to the bar with, or listening to music on the train, reading at the coffee shop, etc. Plus waiting for a break in their conversation will make it look like lingering which is creepy (hence 3 second rule). So what's the best way to interrupt a never-ending conversation between a group of girls without pissing the girl's friends off?
zerovandez Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 This scenario happened to me twice... A group of girls were having a conversation that I overheard and I thought was funny. So I smiled to myself and laughed. Doing this actually caught their attention and sparked a conversation and now I'm in their group talking about whatever it was that caught my genuine attention.
Author metalambience Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 great suggestion as long as they don't go off on you for eavesdropping, thank you
Author metalambience Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 Chose either the Paragon or Renegade option. I'm guessing you're referring to the point scales in Mass Effect?? Great game, but in reality reputation is skewed towards Renegade value by a log ratio. When have you ever heard positive gossip? And Just look at cable news, a murder story gets harped on for weeks while a hero story is 30 secs mid day as a space filler. Though i'm not sure how any of this is relevat. Or are you saying there is no way out but to be a jerk?
zengirl Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Honestly, in many situations, it's helpful to learn to read if an interruption is actually appropriate. Generally, I'd say if two people look very engaged in conversation, DON'T go over there and interrupt them. It varies, of course, and there are many chances socially to speak to people when they are not deeply immersed in something, IME. Granted, if they're lightly chatting, while looking around the room, that's a different story. Same thing with books or headphones. If someone never looks up from her book, she doesn't want to be interrupted. If she's been looking around occasionally, she's more open to it. If someone does the headphones and zoned out look, your attention is probably unwanted, but if someone has earbuds in (or better yet only one!) and is looking around, socially, it's a cue that interrupting MAY be more welcome. As to how to interrupt, when you do. I'd say with a book or music, you could ask about what she's reading/listening to, but it's trickier to ask about a conversation others are having. If they were having it loudly and seem open to social interaction (i.e. less in their group, more looking around the room), then maybe, but probably not to be safe. How you approach should say something about who you are and why you're approaching. Most cold approaches fail for several reasons, but one of them is people approach with no idea why they're approaching.
zerovandez Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 great suggestion as long as they don't go off on you for eavesdropping, thank you Yeah, I think you already know how to not act like a creepo. Key is that you have to be knowledgeable of what they're talking about if you were put in my scenario, otherwise, you would look like a fool lol. I was at a shopping mall this weekend in the womens section, with a female friend of course, when I came upon this candy, GoDiva. I asked the clerk if it was a "girls" only candy and explained my reasonings. They thought it was hilarious and they came up with their own explanations. Mind you, these clerks were hot! I didn't care, I honestly and genuinely wanted their take on this candy. I made them smile, giggle, and laugh. I think I made their day more enjoyable. Did I get a number? No because that wasn't my point but I'm sure they wanted mine ;-) Just practice as I do and forget the pressure of gettin a number or a date. You have to learn to crawl before you walk, and walk before you run. Have fun with it!
somedude81 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 I'm guessing you're referring to the point scales in Mass Effect?? Great game, but in reality reputation is skewed towards Renegade value by a log ratio. When have you ever heard positive gossip? And Just look at cable news, a murder story gets harped on for weeks while a hero story is 30 secs mid day as a space filler. Though i'm not sure how any of this is relevat. Or are you saying there is no way out but to be a jerk? Just a little joke as in Mass Effect, the player is sometimes given the choice to do a Paragon or Renegade interrupt mid-conversation.
Author metalambience Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Is there a subtle way to talk to girls? I used to try to engage every girl that walked into my local coffee shop, even though it was always a fail people that knew who I was saw it and I developed a reputation as a huge player that's slept with tons of girls (still a virgin though hahaha). How do you do it so people around you don't notice since this is a huge gossip town and there is a possibility of running out of girls to hit on?
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Is there a subtle way to talk to girls? I used to try to engage every girl that walked into my local coffee shop, even though it was always a fail people that knew who I was saw it and I developed a reputation as a huge player that's slept with tons of girls (still a virgin though hahaha). How do you do it so people around you don't notice since this is a huge gossip town and there is a possibility of running out of girls to hit on? People will believe whatever they want. I have one woman I work with thinking I'm a player simple because I talked to her and another thinking I'm the sweetest gentleman since all I've done is exchange greetings with her. I'm neither. In high school they thought I was the next columbine since I wasn't the life of the party type. Treat people whatever way you want without reservation and without it being some silly little endgame stratagem which gets batted about around here so often. You can't outfox true love and ensnare it in your cardboard box-stick tethered with string trap which is what all this nonsense comes down to.
FrustratedStandards Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I do have one idea, but I don't think most guys in this country would do it. If I was a guy and I really really liked a girl, and she in return was friendly, I would ask her group of friends if I could buy all of them a round of drinks. A girl will never say no to a free drink unless she is driving. I suppose after that, they would be more open to you. Even if they are rude, cocky, stuck-up b*tches, buying them drinks would give you the excuse to talk to them, and if you would offer more afterwards, they would warm up to you because you are treating them. I, personally, think this is a grand gesture and I find it very attractive, but I know most men won't want to do this. After all, from what i've seen on LS, "she has to show her worth, i'm not spending my money on a girl just because". In that case, I don't see any other way to approach a girl who is already too entertained to pay attention to you.
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I do have one idea, but I don't think most guys in this country would do it. If I was a guy and I really really liked a girl, and she in return was friendly, I would ask her group of friends if I could buy all of them a round of drinks. A girl will never say no to a free drink unless she is driving. I suppose after that, they would be more open to you. Even if they are rude, cocky, stuck-up b*tches, buying them drinks would give you the excuse to talk to them, and if you would offer more afterwards, they would warm up to you because you are treating them. I, personally, think this is a grand gesture and I find it very attractive, but I know most men won't want to do this. After all, from what i've seen on LS, "she has to show her worth, i'm not spending my money on a girl just because". In that case, I don't see any other way to approach a girl who is already too entertained to pay attention to you. That might work in the pub culture of jolly old England where everyone walks, bicycles, or takes a cab home, but here there would be one friend who would pretend she has to be the designated driver so she can remain stuck up the entire evening and raise a big stink even after you part from the girl you were aiming for.
FrustratedStandards Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 That might work in the pub culture of jolly old England where everyone walks, bicycles, or takes a cab home, but here there would be one friend who would pretend she has to be the designated driver so she can remain stuck up the entire evening and raise a big stink even after you part from the girl you were aiming for. :S Women really suck these days.
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 :S Women really suck these days. My theory is the problems men and women go through today aren't any different than the difficulties every previous generation has had to deal with since humanity has existed.
FrustratedStandards Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 My theory is the problems men and women go through today aren't any different than the difficulties every previous generation has had to deal with since humanity has existed. I strongly disagree. I think the problems today have to do with the following: 1. Different expectations, different "gender roles" 2. Everything is skakified, slutified and emphasized on sex 3. There are no REAL men anymore 4. There are no REAL women anymore 5. Everyone is ugly, fat or aesthetically unpleasing all because they don't make taking care of themselves a priority How many of these were present back then? Well the fact that each gender was expected to fill certain roles made it easier to find a partner, because at least then you knew that the man would be the breadwinner, the woman would cook, each would care about how they presented themselves and the only thing you had to worry about was how to talk to each other. Since sex was more on the down-low back then, men didn't have to worry about sluts and diseases, women didn't rely on how many men they could get to measure their self worth, and people actually wore clothing and not strings and cloths.
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