Grahwell Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Hi, I've recently been informed by my partner of 7 years that she wants to separate. It's come as a shocking blow because I wasn't expecting it and I was away working whilst she came to this decision, which was presented to me as a "done deal". We have a 3 year old son, which makes it even worse. She cites the main reason as not feeling the chemistry with me anymore, which came like a bolt out of the blue. Now, I was very much in love with this woman, she's 34, very sexy, very intelligent and i was thrilled she was my partner. However in the cold light of day I can't deny that there have been times when I was suspicious about her behaviour. Once when I was away I Discovered she had been having sexy chats with another guy online, then on another occasion I saw she had invited a former boyfriend to visit her whilst I was away. I don't think either of these came to anything physical, but it was alarming nonetheless. The thing that makes it even worse is that she had these flirtations while simultaneously spending most of my wages, which she has always done without apology and which like a lovesick fool I never challenged. I think at times I felt guilty leaving her alone, but then again she never had any work so we needed the cash, which as I say she spent happily. But now I wonder did I overlook certain behaviours which may make this a lucky escape for me, heartbroken though I am? Any thoughts welcome. It hasn't always been easy because I was away a lot, but that was mainly because she had no work and my job pays well.
Philosoraptor Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 No chemistry with you in this case likely means she's found chemistry with someone else. Don't worry though as she will make all the effort in the world to negate the truth and inform you that it had zero to do with this new person. This time around it is a blessing as her past has already shown you that she is not as committed to you as you are to her.
Author Grahwell Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 I think you might have hit the nail on the head. The truth is I'm a very constant kind of guy, I like the familiar, whereas she has always seemed to like the new. Bit of a mismatch...?
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