truffelo Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Hi, I allready did my story a month ago, my gf (6 years together) broke up while she was abroad(semester exchange program-. Till she was here, we had a extreme good relation. We didn't had a lot of fights (and if we had, They really NEVER took longer than 1-2 hours) and it was obvious That both of us were still madly in love. She was really convinced I was her guy and she would never think about someone else. But, offcourse there's but The first month she was in Italy, she did contact me 10 times a day. We skyped, mailed, called, chatted etc... I was always glad because when we skyped she was just looking at me for half an hour and smiled with those "in love" eyes and couldn't stop staring at me. But after i visited her (nice weekend), she started to lose her attention and i noticed that, confronted her and suddenly she said we should take a break. She wanted to have her experience on her own and wanted to be absolutly free (with the excuse i was her first and only lover, but i can understand that excuse). She also said that our relation was too good to just give it up and that she knew she asked me something terrible but that she thought this was the best for the development of our relation. First i could live with that, but later she was more vague about the future, she said she doubted if i could make her happy and she needed time and space, she said she wasn't in love with someone else but she wanted to amuse herself and she wanted the same for me (yeah right ). It didn't seem that she cared and that was quiet hard. She didn't want me to go over there. After 10 days, I confronted her with the fact that i was pretty sure she had a lover and after some words she confessed. The same night she send me a message "I'm Thinking about you". But the distant was getting bigger and everyone adviced me not to contact her again and i tried but everytime she sent me something it was just too hard to refuse. Her parents, friends over here are worrieing a lot but she always tells them how happy she's now and she met the love of her life and blablabla. a few days ago she wanted to skype and i wasn't able to ignore it. She said she had a bad moment and that she felt alone (while she was always saying she had 100 supercool friends). She also said that no one has replaced me but that she didn't regret her choice. My feelings were changing from "i'll do everything to get her back" to " maybe i don't have to accept this and ignore her" So I decided to ignore her. But yesterday night, she started to send messages which i didn't respond. But after a message of 10 I thought... MAYBE I should. I begon to tell her i didn't think it was good to talk and to be friends and that she made her choice and that the first rule of making choices is that you lose the things you don't choose for. Suddenly she said: I just can't trust this new guy, I think the only thing he wants from me is sex. I tried to talk to her as a friend, (not as an ex who tried to get her back) and told her that she broke up with me because she wanted to experience new things and new people, so she didn't had to think now if someone is reliable and so on. I tried to explain her that she chose for a period where she could try people and she didn't had to expect the love of her life. But that she had to do whtat she thought and maybe this trust could grow within the next months, or she also didn't have to fixate on one person if she wanted to "experimentate. I told her it was not healthy for her to allready think she had to be with this guy for 100 years. She said i was right and she was very happy with my advice. It's so strange because 10 minutes before she told me her problem, she changed her facebook-status in "loving life" (she wasn't so silly when she was here). I ended the conversation by telling her i didn't want to talk to her the first months and i didn't wanted to be her friend because she didn't really had threated me as a friend and she was to much into herself to be a friend. I told her i hoped we could be friends later, if I and especially she was ready and able to be honest with me but that this probably will take rather months than weeks and rather years than months. She said she understand. Off course this morning i wanted to know how she felt ( stupid me) and i sent her a message "are you feeling better" she replied "?, i never felt bad, i never felt so good" I can only hope this is the moment that makes me able to be in NC for quite a time. But what is this? She's overwhelmed by the situation and I know i can still love her in the future with all my heart. But this is all so strange. " I don't trust the guy of whom i left you after six years and i think he only wants to have sex with me." while she's saying everyone she met the love of her life WTF?
Chi townD Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 DUDE!!!! You even said that she made this choice and it wasn't you! Therefore, she has to live with the conseqences. HOWEVER!! Anytime she contacts you, you jump threw hoops to talk to her. And she says to you that; yeah, we've had 6 years of a loving relationship, but I think that the guy I left you for only wants to continue to have wild monkey sex. But, I'll keep calling you for the emotional support that I need, because Antonio is only good for sex. She's cake eating you. Then she said to you that she NEVER felt bad, She never felt so good!! How cruel is that!!! Dude, stop being an emotional crutch for her. Delete her from your phone. STOP RESPONDING TO HER!!!! She whistles for the dog and you come running. How is that fair to you? Block her from FB. Just do it! Anytime you feel like contacting her, post here. Anytime she reaches out to you, ignore her and post here. She wants to talk to someone, all she has to do is roll over and talk to Antonio. Get a spine dude!! 1
Melbufama Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 O god I was once in this situation as a teenager, never again will I ever be an emotional crutch for anyone!. Look man its called friend zone, your never gonna get out. Who ****s someone they don't trust? she has to be retarded, then again that's a common thing among men and women. She obviously emotionally shallow, if she can't appreciate a good loving partner. What you should do is pick up a chick, get a blow job and send her pictures. BOOM owned.
facepalm Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Your ex has shown herself to be a hugely selfish, insecure biatch and an emotional child. The sooner you learn to hate her for how she treated you (and is still treating you) the sooner you will begin the healing process, until you just pity her and eventually forget her, shaking your head wondering why you ever thought she was attractive. Just go NC (or send her a final text about how you never want to speak to her again because of the way she treated you) and then watch all the crazy stuff she tries to do to keep you around as a friend, all the mad, confused texts and so on. She also sounds a little bit crazy. And yes I am a bit bitter! Good luck.
g450 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Man why do people keep doing this? The have the person they loved crap on them and they rush off to nibble on their breadcrumbs. Seems to happen every time. OP needs to block her number and get a life. One with her NOT in it. But here lately it seems that every time I and others give that advice the OP does the exact opposit and voluteers to be the betrayers emotional tampon and standby 2nd choice afterthought. Why do people want to be that? Truffello, leave her alone. Listen to what we are telling you. Have some self resptect man!
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