lmarie737 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Now I don't have the "normal" baby daddy situation in the sense that he's a dead beat. In fact the opposite. My sons father and I met 6 years ago when we were 18. He was a freshman at an Ivy league and I was just a poor girl from Philly. We met and fell in love. Six months later I got pregnant. That is where it went down hill. The next four years was all down hill with cheating, lies, black mail. The hostility came because of the pressure his wealthy parents put on him. Did everything he could to tear us apart. It worked. The cheating happened once and after my pregnancy. We haven't been together since. Fast forward 5 years later and my sons father finally graduated. His parent's asked to have my son for the summer. My son's father and his family lives in Texas and at the time I lived in PA. After my sister moved to Texas she asked me to move down there. With my son in the state I agreed. My sons father was more then happy with the idea and helped me all he could (without his parents knowledge) and paid for me to move to Texas. Fast forward 8 months later I am living on my own. I get my son on the weekend. My son still lives with his grandparents because they are rich and are giving me a chance to get my life together. The same way I raised my son while their son attended school they are doing the same. Situation is only temporary. I am very sick with a lot of health problems and during one of my visits to the hospital in which I had to get minor surgery my sons father SHOCKINGLY asked me if I wanted to get a 2 bedroom apartment with him. I was shocked because not once in 3 years has he shown any interest in me. He had a girlfriend that whole time but they broke up a few months back. I said yes because my financial situation is not all that great and the location I will be living in I can be closer to my son. My sons father went through hell and back to get me this amazing apartment. He will remain living with his parents but paying half my rent and all the bills. Since I've been down here he has given me thousands of dollars on top of paying all my bills in my last place and $5000 for my surgery and $1500 for my place. He was always giving but never to this extreme. I got over him for years now. But lately I am getting my feelings for him. We hooked up a few times where in the past 3 years we hadn't. He is doing so much for me which everyone hates because since I've met him they've called me spoiled. He has a lot of money and a great job. I cant help that but I consider myself blessed. Tonight tho was different. It was my second day in my apartment and he hung out with me. I decided to swallow my pride and confess how I felt. He was more affectionate then usual and I wanted an answer and I told him I know he wants this but something is stopping him. He didn't deny it just stood quiet. He told me he needed some time and I told him that was fair. I dropped it. Do I let it go? I feel like if I bring it up too much I will sound naggy. I don't want that. I want to prove I am different the same way I see he is. We were great together 6 years ago and we are best friends now. We've been thru hell and back and I just want us to try one more time. To at least see if it's meant to be if it's not then I can finally let go. Question is how do I make him see? What are ways I can make him love me? His pride won't allow him to forget the past but he's slowly seeing it. I need him to see no one could ever love him to the extreme I have. Thanks! Lou
TaraMaiden Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Just carry on the way you have been; be pro-active, try to be as independent as possible, and give him time. If he's come round to this on his own, so far, just be patient, be good, (by 'good', I mean, do the right things in his eyes, your son's and his family's) and understand things take time. to all intents and purposes you are 'together'. you just want to proclaim it. Let it happen in its own time. 1
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