silvteg98 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Shes a co-worker of mine. Shes been working where I work for about 4 months now. Since I saw her I thought she was really cute. Anyways, I recently had a birthday party but unfortunately she couldnt make it. Shes the one who basically set up the first date at work. She said we should go out and dance so we did that friday. The date went really well, we danced almost all night and ended up holding hands. I dropped her off at home but didnt go in for the kiss. I didnt want to come out too strong on the first date. She told me she had a good time and that we should definitely go out again. We went to the movies this friday. Everything went well like in the first date. I noticed her playing with her hair, biting her lip, and laughing at a lot of things i said that werent particulary funny. I guess these are indicators of interest. I pulled up to her place, opened the door for her, and then leaned in for the kiss. She turned away so I kissed her on the cheek. She looked at me and said she didnt know if she could do this because we work together and it could be awkward, but as soon as she said that she leaned in and we kissed. I was only going for a peck on the lips but she prolonged it so we ended up making out. Felt kind of awkward after because of what she said. Gave her a hug and said goodnight before she walked in. I texted her when I got home and told her that it doesnt have to be awkward, that we can be professional at work. She said that I was right. The fact that she was at first reluctant to kiss has been on my mind but then again we did end up kissing. We text often but I am the one who usually initiates communication. The fact that shes gone out with me twice is a good sign but i dont know, i tend to over analyze things and think too much. What do you guys think, is she interested? How long should I wait before asking her out on the third date?
lmarie737 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 I only dated one coworker and he was actually my boss. I don't want to answer based on my experience because well I didn't like him at all but I was new in town and needed friends. I flirted, kissed did all those things. I am the master at fooling people. We ended up moving in together really fast he actually dumped his girlfriend of 2 years for me. But in the end it didn't work out. I quit my job so we can work on things although I didn't need to we were very professional. All I can say is don't over think it. I would just keep things casual. The only thing I did like about our relationship which was a turn on was knowing that no one knew and we hid it so well. Keep things casual. Don't over flirt of pay her to much attention. Only address her during group conversations. Don't pull her aside. I would do this for about 2 weeks. Don't text her either. But because your not texting her be nice when you see her at work. She'll wonder why you wont contact her especially when your still be so nice to her at work. Let her text you. Keep it casual. I would say do this for 2 weeks if she text you first. Let he initiate communication first. But if she doesn't at all then after a week text her and keep it casual. If she doesn't reply then text her one more time acknowledging what you did and simply say "Hey I know I haven't texted you in a few days. I've been a little busy (women like to know you have a life outside of work and them) and I also just wanted to give you some space. I didn't want to come off to strong. If that doesn't work then IGNORE her and MOVE ON! Be nice to her at work and nothing more. In most cases women fear that if they date you and it doesn't work out it will breed a hostile environment. Prove to her that her rejection didn't upset you too much and be nice. She might have a change of heart once she realizes this. My biggest fear with my ex was that it would be awkward at work. I actually rejected him a few times to see how he would conduct himself at work. when he didn't conduct himself badly I saw that and gave him a chance. That is all worse case scenario. Your probably overthinking all of this. anyway good luck!!
Author silvteg98 Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 You're right.. Ill wait and see if she texts me first. She has before so im hoping she will again. I didnt find anything awkward between us last week at work after our first date, hopefully things seem normal this week. Ill probably ask her out during the week at work. I've never dated a co-worker before so this is all new to me!!
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