amw2536 Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 my boyfreind is driving me crazy. his clingyness is pushing me away. he is so needy. he cries because he hasn't seen me in two days. i used to like him until he started pushing me away. im going to college in 12 days, and he has moved out of his home so he could move with me. i dont want him to come. im scared if i tell him he can't move with me, he will crack up. i really want to dump him, but i know he would have a breakdown. i can't babysit his emotions anymore, and i can't keep telling him i love him back, when i dont. i dont want to lead him on anymore. i have enough to deal with without him. what do i do????
msrealdoll Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 You aren't responsible for his emotional reactions, so tell him the truth. How he chooses to deal with it is his problem. Don't allow yourself to be held hostage by him. But, how long have you been lying to him about loving him, and how badly have you mislead him? Purposely misleading someone that trusts and believes you can back-fire. It just makes it harder for you to get out of the relationship.
ntovrhm Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 . . . him any favors by staying with him, and it will just be ten times worse if he moves out to school with, especially is he is not going as well. It will just make him need you more. Be strong, be honest, cut deep and then pull out. You deserve to be happy, and he deserves someone who will appreciate and want him the way he wants you.
Author amw2536 Posted June 23, 2004 Author Posted June 23, 2004 i forgot to mention that we've only been dating for 2 weeks now. i have known this guy for 2 weeks!! i love him, but im not in love with him. i was just on the phone with him and he said i miss you 16 times in 5 mins, randomly throughout our quick conversation. he is going through a lot of problems at home, b/c his parents are getting divorced. so he moved out. he is 17 years old. his twin brother uses him for money. his brother kills his self esteem b/c he walks all over him. i want to help him. it just hurts me. i donno....
ntovrhm Posted June 23, 2004 Posted June 23, 2004 There's got to be someone esle he can turn to. . . moving out with you while you go to school is not the best thing for you or him, and pretty crazy considering you've only known him for two weekes. Be there as a friend, but otherwise, you will not be helping him in the long run . . .
unreal Posted June 23, 2004 Posted June 23, 2004 Originally posted by amw2536 my boyfreind is driving me crazy. his clingyness is pushing me away. he is so needy. he cries because he hasn't seen me in two days. i used to like him until he started pushing me away. im going to college in 12 days, and he has moved out of his home so he could move with me. i dont want him to come. im scared if i tell him he can't move with me, he will crack up. i really want to dump him, but i know he would have a breakdown. i can't babysit his emotions anymore, and i can't keep telling him i love him back, when i dont. i dont want to lead him on anymore. i have enough to deal with without him. what do i do???? You will realize some day whenever you are older how wonderful it is to have someone love you like that. Trust me! You had better think about what you are doing and make sure that is what you want. I've been down your road before and regret it.
unreal Posted June 23, 2004 Posted June 23, 2004 Originally posted by amw2536 i forgot to mention that we've only been dating for 2 weeks now. i have known this guy for 2 weeks!! i love him, but im not in love with him. i was just on the phone with him and he said i miss you 16 times in 5 mins, randomly throughout our quick conversation. he is going through a lot of problems at home, b/c his parents are getting divorced. so he moved out. he is 17 years old. his twin brother uses him for money. his brother kills his self esteem b/c he walks all over him. i want to help him. it just hurts me. i donno.... 2 WEEKS???? Jesus, that is it? Forget my post above on this!
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