samslick Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Im in process of divorcing my wife right now, I filed 7 months ago, paperwork is almost done. When she moved her furniture out at the beginning of this year, we slept together that night. Didn't plan it, we just had been crying a lot and got caught up in the moment. I regretted doing it immediately afterwards, as did she. Fast forward to this past friday, she calls me desperate to loan her some money as her rent is due and shes broke til her next check which is mid-next week. Im a total idiot and felt bad for her and loaned her $200. I was even more stupid to drive it over to her place which is 20 mins away and we end up sleeping together again. The sex was great (as it always was), but we both are totally aware that our marriage is dead and we are 2 very incompatible people when it comes to having a relationship. Whats weird is I don't feel so bad about sleeping with her this last time, but Im more mad at myself for bailing her out once again and being weak. Until our divorce is final, I still have to communicate with her once in a while and I hate it. Im just now starting to get out of the massive greiving period I was in, and it seems like she is just starting her phase of it and shes very depressed and telling me how much she misses me. So I doubt im the only one to fall for the physical urges of sleeping with your ex, so if anyone else cares to share their story or how they dealt with it, please post.
CarrieT Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 I remember having break-up sex with my husband before our divorce was final. Yes, it felt very weird but also gave me this odd sensation of closure; it confirmed that the decision to end the marriage was the right one.
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 if you are having sex after a breakup, maybe there is something still there?
xxSRMxx Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 me and my ex have slept together on a few seperate occassions since we have been split up in the month.... Yesterday it happened several times in the night that i spent there, Felt great at the time and i lay there as we both fell to sleep and thought i wish i could just never leave here and stay like this forever....but thats not reality, and when i got home i felt horrendous..the way i felt afterwards when i got home, it wasnt even worth the great sex.
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 me and my ex have slept together on a few seperate occassions since we have been split up in the month.... Yesterday it happened several times in the night that i spent there, Felt great at the time and i lay there as we both fell to sleep and thought i wish i could just never leave here and stay like this forever....but thats not reality, and when i got home i felt horrendous..the way i felt afterwards when i got home, it wasnt even worth the great sex. But wouldn't that mean that there is something there? There is still love there and maybe it can be rekindled? What I am getting is that, I wouldn't want any of my ex's to come near me. When they say it's over, it's over. In your case, you have quite a history together and you laid with her not wanting to leave; you felt awful when you went home. I wonder if this is the person you are meant to be with. There is a connection there. Whatever the case is, I hope that your heart heals and that you are happy again.
xxSRMxx Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Yeah.........I didnt wanna leave him and when we was lying together kind of sleeping he was holding onto me like we were back together again and nothing had even happened... There is definately still something there.. My ex before this one who i broke up with about 4 yrs ago, we had been together 3 yrs and i had zero feelings for him, therefore zero desire to even be his friend... My recent ex still bangs on about being friends etc, Right now though... he can go away. I dont want to keep having sex with him, I want to heal from it. Its his loss after all. 1
Author samslick Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 if you are having sex after a breakup, maybe there is something still there? Here's my story if you are interested in a long read...http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/305379-i-gave-too-many-chances I gave it my best shot, tried every possible thing I could to make it work, and she didn't care enough to try or compromise. In the end, I had to end it, and it was by far the worst thing I've gone through in my 28 years on this planet. I think she still has some weird twisted hope that she can keep me from moving forward with my life, and she knows im an emotional guy and how to push my buttons. She even said the other night that she doesn't want me to ever sleep with anyone else except her. The reality of the divorce almost being final is just now sinking in for her, so she's been very weird, emotional, and depressed. Her ego is too big to let her guard down in front of her friends or her family.
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