dsw31 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Well... I broke nc again. I had a set back yesterday. My ex jogged past my car. He tapped on my window & asked if I wanted to go 1/2 on a stick of ganga butter. I've been pissed all day today! So I decided to text him ME You know what? I'm infuriated that you knocked on my window yesterday. What gives you the impression that you could have the luxury of talking to me? I've been doing so great without you lately, and then Boom..... you pop up & ruin sh*t! You are so f*ck#n toxic! Next time you see me, please act as if I don't exist.Thx HIM It's funny you just text me cause I just picked up the butter ME Yeah, that's hilarious HIM You know what I meant ME Yes- you meant the same thing you always mean.That you can pretend like nothing happened & we can be friends. HIM Come on maaaannnn! ME Go crawl under a pu$$y & die. (By this point I'm really angry & sent this too) ME Oh by the way..my therapist said he can't diagnose you but, he's guessing that you probably have bipolar.Good luck with your drug test next month...loser! (Fyi - I don't even have a therapist! Lol! I clearly need one though!) HIM Nice Okay...who wants to talk some sense into me? Or did I do a good thing? I just want him to know I'm not his puppet anymore & he can't assume we can be friends.
Exit Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 What's done is done, no point in analyzing it really. On one had I think it gave him a bit too much satisfaction to have such a strong reaction, you might have been able to tone it down a notch and just have calmly said "hey I'm not really cool with being friends so if we ever cross paths again let's just pass on by ok?". But, on the other hand, if you wanted to send a clear message that you want nothing to do with him, I would think/hope that message got delivered. So hopefully he leaves you alone from now on and that's that.
gibson Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 (edited) You are a Hot Mess and I absolutely love Hot Messes so per your request, I am about to slap you! (I must warn you though, you probably are not going to enjoy it!) You need an alpha male "good" guy that has a little "bad boy" / wild side streak in him. Not a loser who is hooked on drugs, has no respect for women and their life is going nowhere. Your issue... You take your "wild side" to an extreme to where a guy like me can't be with / get involved with you. You have been doing the same thing and dating / being in relationships with the same types of a-holes for a long, long, long time now. You are in your early 30s now, enough is enough! Below is my advice... 1. Ditch the zero 2. Stop stalking the Ex 3. Stop with the drugs 4. Don't drink so much 5. Stop with the hook ups 6. Etc. Take a self proclaimed timeout from dating, rebounding, relationships, sex, etc. and get your sh*t together! No guy that has any values, morals, character, integrity, honor, class, etc. is going to pursue a relationship with you because of your lifestyle, surrounding yourself with bad influences, "good time" friends, drugs, excessive drinking and all baggage you haven't dealt with. Become the type of person that you want to attract! Edited May 7, 2012 by gibson 3
Author dsw31 Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 You are a Hot Mess and I absolutely love Hot Messes so per your request, I am about to slap you! (I must warn you though, you probably are not going to enjoy it!) You need an alpha male "good" guy that has a little "bad boy" / wild side streak in him. Not a loser who is hooked on drugs, has no respect for women and their life is going nowhere. Your issue... You take your "wild side" to an extreme to where a guy like me can't be with / get involved with you. You have been doing the same thing and dating / being in relationships with the same types of a-holes for a long, long, long time now. You are in your early 30s now, enough is enough! Below is my advice... 1. Ditch the zero 2. Stop stalking the Ex 3. Stop with the drugs 4. Don't drink so much 5. Stop with the hook ups 6. Etc. Take a self proclaimed timeout from dating, rebounding, relationships, sex, etc. and get your sh*t together! No guy that has any values, morals, character, integrity, honor, class, etc. is going to pursue a relationship with you because of your lifestyle, surrounding yourself with bad influences, "good time" friends, drugs, excessive drinking and all baggage you haven't dealt with. Become the type of person that you want to attract! Ouch! That slaps hurts...but it feels so good! Thanks for the advice Gibson. Even though I'm bad mouthing my ex.Besides the fact that he dumped me,he's really not a loser.(He just smokes weed)Has a good job & almost done getting his masters degree.Okay-I'll stop praising him but,he's not the typical "loser". Now about me... 1.I've ditched him (had no choice cause he ditched me) 2.I honestly do not stalk him.I work in his neighborhood & he jogged past me 3.I will not stop smoking weed (I funtion very well under normal circumstance,when my heart hasn't been stomped on) 4.I only drink 2-3 times a year 5.I have stopped w the hookups.No more rebound sex ever! (I even took down my dating site profile 2 weeks ago) 6.Etc...I am a hot mess! I am beginning to think I'm nuts! I just got so angry because I couldn't believe how he thinks he can just walk up to me & try to act normal.I know I was harsh but I want him to know I am angry.I can't control myself when it comes to him.Maybe I'm bipolar? Whatever it is..I am losing it!
Author dsw31 Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 What's done is done, no point in analyzing it really. On one had I think it gave him a bit too much satisfaction to have such a strong reaction, you might have been able to tone it down a notch and just have calmly said "hey I'm not really cool with being friends so if we ever cross paths again let's just pass on by ok?". But, on the other hand, if you wanted to send a clear message that you want nothing to do with him, I would think/hope that message got delivered. So hopefully he leaves you alone from now on and that's that. Damnit Exit! Why didn't I ask you guys this first? You are so right! I should have just kept it simple. Damnit! Damnit! F*ck!
gibson Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Even though I'm bad mouthing my ex.Besides the fact that he dumped me,he's really not a loser.(He just smokes weed)Has a good job & almost done getting his masters degree.Okay-I'll stop praising him but,he's not the typical "loser". I agree. I jumped to conclusions based solely on your posts of your Ex and your interactions with him since the break up. My bad. Now about me... 1.I've ditched him (had no choice cause he ditched me) 2.I honestly do not stalk him.I work in his neighborhood & he jogged past me 3.I will not stop smoking weed (I funtion very well under normal circumstance,when my heart hasn't been stomped on) 4.I only drink 2-3 times a year 5.I have stopped w the hookups.No more rebound sex ever! (I even took down my dating site profile 2 weeks ago) 6.Etc.. I am a hot mess! I am beginning to think I'm nuts! Indeed, you are a hot mess and all the other steps you have taken are great to hear! I just got so angry because I couldn't believe how he thinks he can just walk up to me & try to act normal.I know I was harsh but I want him to know I am angry. I can't control myself when it comes to him. Maybe I'm bipolar? Whatever it is..I am losing it! I only play a Doctor on the internet but you seem like a person going through all the feelings and emotions from a painful break up (Stages of Grief). Have you made some mistakes? Sure, we all do. Just keep pressing forward, posting here and stick to the break from men until you get over your Ex. It will take some time and work on your part but in the end, you will get there and find the happiness that you deserve.
Gulf-Delta Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Don't sweat it. I'll probably be contacting my ex in within the next couple days. People have slip ups...things happen...since you hate his guts (at least it seems so), then ignore his existence.
Author dsw31 Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 Thanks again gibson. I really appreciate that! I'm going to keep on keeping on. That's all I can do, I guess. Oh yeah...I play a doctor on the internet too! Watch out everyone! Lol!
Author dsw31 Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 Don't sweat it. I'll probably be contacting my ex in within the next couple days. People have slip ups...things happen...since you hate his guts (at least it seems so), then ignore his existence. Thanks to you too, Gulf Delta. I'm not sure of your story(I apologize for that) but, if there's one thing I can say-learn from my mistakes! Let your ex come to you! I hope you don't contact her.You can't be emotionally ready yet.Atleast sit on your thoughts & really think things through before deciding on doing anything. I did have a slip up.I'm trying to control myself.Honestly, I really don't hate my ex.I still LOVE the crap out of him! That's just how I hide it...with hate. I guess somewhere deep down-I hope he'll feel bad for hurting me & realize he made a mistake. Ok-now I need to be b*tch slapped!
ToyWithMe812 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 it is ok, and also natural, to be consumed with hate for those that have f'd us over. Honestly, they are probably doing just fine without us, and loving it. That's ok. You will rock and roll when you are ready. In the meantime, consider yourself slapped... 1
Gulf-Delta Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Thanks to you too, Gulf Delta. I'm not sure of your story(I apologize for that) but, if there's one thing I can say-learn from my mistakes! Let your ex come to you! I hope you don't contact her.You can't be emotionally ready yet.Atleast sit on your thoughts & really think things through before deciding on doing anything. I did have a slip up.I'm trying to control myself.Honestly, I really don't hate my ex.I still LOVE the crap out of him! That's just how I hide it...with hate. I guess somewhere deep down-I hope he'll feel bad for hurting me & realize he made a mistake. Ok-now I need to be b*tch slapped! I'll give you some advice based on my experience as a pilot. EVERYONE has slip ups. Even pilots. Pilots make mistakes EVERY TIME they fly. There is ALWAYS something you wish you'd done differently. The thing one of my flight instructors told me was this, after I almost landed on an incorrect runway once: "Yes, that was a mistake. But you moved past it. Don't focus on it, it already happened. Do not let a mistake put your head in knots and jeopardize the rest of the flight. You made a mistake, you know what you did wrong. Move past it." Another similar one is "if you're gonna panic, panic when you're on the ground." This gem might seem a little odd in a relationship context, but what it means is, things happen in flight. You could almost hit a bird. A gust of wind could hit you hard. You could screw up a call to the control tower. The point is, don't let it frazzle you, and soldier on, because if you panic in the air, you are endangering yourself. Same thing applies here. You talked to your ex. You know it was a mistake. Don't dwell on the mistake. Don't panic. It will only make you feel worse and hinder your recovery. Move past it. As for my personal story, I love my ex still. The thing is, as I'm starting to heal, I have good days, like today. On good days I feel awesome, confident, and I feel like I look pretty dang good. The sad thing is, the first thing I thnk of is "The dark cloud is gone today, I look great, I bet I can win her back." Today I felt great and that's what I thought. 1
Gulf-Delta Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 You should get a therapist, you have issues Oh no, she's human! She didn't do anything wrong.
Author dsw31 Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 Thanks again Gulf Delta. I'm not offended ny Wilson. He's just afraid of intimacy because he's knows we'd be a perfect couple. 1
whichwayisup Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Well, you made your point by texting him. From now on, ignore and do full on NC. If you see him, ignore him. If he walks or jogs by, talks to you - Ignore him. Knocks on the window, don't look at him and drive off. 1
Professor X Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 No offense, but you need to get pounded, preferably hard. 1
Gulf-Delta Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Thanks again Gulf Delta. I'm not offended ny Wilson. He's just afraid of intimacy because he's knows we'd be a perfect couple. My ex is the same way. She wants to "have fun". She knows I'm not about that (clubbing, drinking, etc), so she's torn. She knows I'm the "perfect" man emotionally and stuff...I just don't fit with that lifestyle, so she's avoiding me, because being with me will interfere with that.
Author dsw31 Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 No offense, but you need to get pounded, preferably hard. Don't I know it! It's a catch 22 though- I have to stay away from guys for a while.
windmask Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 omg i read the conversation you typed between him and you..and i was down laughing your ex bf is awesomeee lol...hey kept it so simple and made you look bad without even doing anything.. omg i forgot slap slap they with love so dont hate.. it seems you got some feelings for him or just hate the guy and break his neck every time u see him. lol either way we cant undue whats done i did the same after my gf broke up with me. but over time i got so upset with her i was like god damn it leave me alone your always been so rude dont talk to me ever again you low life..trust me she deserves it because am the hardest person to upset ever. anyhows listen me lady stop confronting this ex of yours because it makes you act stu@id. either you be civil or avoid the as@hole if u can. because u feel bad after or annoyed with urself for letting yourself act that way. i cant exactly blame the guy on the text you sent because he didnt exactly say anything bad it was just you getting upset..so gud luck keep urself busy. and calm ur crazy tiger like anger lol god bless
Professor X Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Don't I know it! It's a catch 22 though- I have to stay away from guys for a while. Hmm, yes, I think you need anal sex.
Author dsw31 Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 Hmm, yes, I think you need anal sex. Again... I know I need it but...how? I'm staying away from men
Author dsw31 Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 good thing professor x is a boy, you should go for it. Haaaa! Not into boys! (No offense professor x)
Professor X Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Haaaa! Not into boys! (No offense professor x) Afraid my years as a boy are long due. But I'm not into messed up women, so none taken.
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