My bestfriend is an attenion seeker. Hard for me to talk to women around him

[drewdude]

Hello LS. Single guy here. I was just curious about a problem I have with one of my best friends who i constantly hang out with. And wondering if anyone has been in this situation?

 

I am in my late 20s and he, mid 20s. I really respect my friend to the fullest but ANYTIME it comes to women he is always on top of it and to the point. He is pretty much a womanizer(I wont lie, hes also not a bad looking guy). It is just hard for someone like me since I like to take regular approaches when it comes to women and he flirts from the beginning. Anytime I mention I am going to hang out with a girl or girls he ALWAYS wants to come along and/or make himself known. Even telling me to bring them over but I know his hidden agenda

 

It really bothers me at times, he even Cblocked me once last year with a girl i really liked but we got talked and came to terms over that. We have clashed a lot but he always comes back for my friendship. He was from a broken home so I guess I can see why he wants attention but I really need help. How do you match up with a friend who is always flirty and out there with the ladies? I am a confident and decent looking guy but I am not all out flirty from the start

[KathyM]

I know the female version of your friend. She is a huge flirt who tries to steel other women's bfs, husbands, and every man that shows an interest in other women she is with. She is there flirting up a storm every chance she gets. She seems to think every man is fair game, and she has no boundaries. Even though she has a long term bf, she still goes after any good looking guy she can get her hooks into. She has a hoarding mentality and so she wants to have as many men interested in her as possible. Do yourself a favor and drop this "friend" from your friend list. You don't need that kind of pirhanna as a friend.

[drewdude]

I wish it was that easy. I have known him for years and he usually comes to hang out a few times a week. He already claimed how much of a best friend I am to him etc. At his core, he is a good person but throw a few girls into the fray anywhere he is at and he totally changes. I try not to bring him around when me or other friends in our circle are going to be hanging out with girls(even all the guys know how much of an attention seeker/flirt he is)

 

He can get the average ho easily. And for the women that aren't he steps up his game and trys to act like a bigshot(when he has nothing big going for him). I just wish there was a way for me to counter this when me and him are with a few girls, it gets really annoying.

[darkmoon]

if he is best friend then he should say okay to you when you ask him to stop, really, i do not see a friend in him, go out on yor own, men do

[KathyM]

I wish it was that easy. I have known him for years and he usually comes to hang out a few times a week. He already claimed how much of a best friend I am to him etc. At his core, he is a good person but throw a few girls into the fray anywhere he is at and he totally changes. I try not to bring him around when me or other friends in our circle are going to be hanging out with girls(even all the guys know how much of an attention seeker/flirt he is)

 

He can get the average ho easily. And for the women that aren't he steps up his game and trys to act like a bigshot(when he has nothing big going for him). I just wish there was a way for me to counter this when me and him are with a few girls, it gets really annoying.

We had a similar situation with this female "friend", where she's been a long time friend of my older sister since grade school, and a friend of the family because of that, so she's invited to a lot of events that my family goes to, and it was hard to drop her as a friend because she has been a life long friend of my sister. She's an extremely outgoing, friendly woman, but we decided to drop her as a friend after she got involved with a MM who is a cousin of ours. But every time my sisters (and even my neices) brought a guy around, this woman would try to flirt, and we finally had enough. She still comes to visit my mother, but we don't see her otherwise. We had enough.