Newmgb Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 So I met a guy (on line), we shared a few brief emails and both preferred to meet sooner rather than later. We planned to meet for drinks, but when I arrived, he suggested we have dinner and that was fine by me. The date was great and I felt a connection nearly instantly. By the end of the date, we had planned our second date. The evening ended with a great kiss....very respectful, but a bit more than a peck. :-) The next morning, he sent an email saying he had a great time and was looking forward to our next date. Thereafter, there were a few texts back and forth, with him initiating. Our second date was as great as the first. There was a definitely I would say a mutual connection. The date ended with a bit more kissing than the first date. We also planned our third date but didn't settle on a day. The email came the next morning, this time saying he was looking forward to many more great times. So far, so good, I'm thnking.... Second date was mid week, and that Sunday morning, he sent a text asking if I'd be up for a movie that night. I was free and wanted to go, so I said yes. A few hours before we were going he left a voice mail to please call him, which I did, and he said something came up with his son and he had to cancel our plans. No problem...said he would make it up to me but didn't say when. I sent a random text late this week, telling him if he was still interested in seeing the movie, to let me know, and if not, no worries. He immediately texted back that he "definitely" wanted to see me and the movie, but has yet to make a plan. He's not a guy who is into talking on the phone a lot, nor texting. I am not a multiple dater, though I have no problem if he's dating others. I'm fairly certain he knows I am interested in seeing him, but I'm not sure what's up on his end. I know one of his sons is still young (8) and has a lot going on, but I'm not sure if he is a take-it-slow kind of guy, or it' just plain lack of interest. Kind of thinking actions speak louder than words.... Anyway, in case it isn't painfully obvious, I'm new here. I appreciate any input, especially from a guy's perspective.
NateC Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 It seems like he's just busy, although I do find it odd that he hasn't really explained why he hasn't been able to follow through with plans or make them at all. Be a bit more "pushy" about getting plans set up. Usually it's the guy's job to set up dates, but maybe you'll get more out of him by suggesting times or just asking why.
GildedLily Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 It's hard to tell if he's just busy with his kids or if he has low level interest. I signed in to tell you NOT to do what the commenter above advised. The las thing you want to do is push him if he's not truly interested; let him come to you and make him plan IN ADVANCE, don't jump at last minute plans. I would give him till Thursday at the latest to make plans for this wknd.
louise_23 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 So I met a guy (on line), we shared a few brief emails and both preferred to meet sooner rather than later. We planned to meet for drinks, but when I arrived, he suggested we have dinner and that was fine by me. The date was great and I felt a connection nearly instantly. By the end of the date, we had planned our second date. The evening ended with a great kiss....very respectful, but a bit more than a peck. :-) The next morning, he sent an email saying he had a great time and was looking forward to our next date. Thereafter, there were a few texts back and forth, with him initiating. Our second date was as great as the first. There was a definitely I would say a mutual connection. The date ended with a bit more kissing than the first date. We also planned our third date but didn't settle on a day. The email came the next morning, this time saying he was looking forward to many more great times. k So far, so good, I'm thnking.... Second date was mid week, and that Sunday morning, he sent a text asking if I'd be up for a movie that night. I was free and wanted to go, so I said yes. A few hours before we were going he left a voice mail to please call him, which I did, and he said something came up with his son and he had to cancel our plans. No problem...said he would make it up to me but didn't say when. I sent a random text late this week, telling him if he was still interested in seeing the movie, to let me know, and if not, no worries. He immediately texted back that he "definitely" wanted to see me and the movie, but has yet to make a plan. He's not a guy who is into talking on the phone a lot, nor texting. I am not a multiple dater, though I have no problem if he's dating others. I'm fairly certain he knows I am interested in seeing him, but I'm not sure what's up on his end. I know one of his sons is still young (8) and has a lot going on, but I'm not sure if he is a take-it-slow kind of guy, or it' just plain lack of interest. Kind of thinking actions speak louder than words.... Anyway, in case it isn't painfully obvious, I'm new here. I appreciate any input, especially from a guy's perspective. call me suspicious but is he definitely single?? doesnt like talking on phone.or texting. cant make a solid plan or explain why its so hard..may be wrong but just a thought. ummmummm
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