Women are like parasites

[mortensorchid]

I was reviewing something that I had posted several weeks/months ago here on this forum, when someone (I will not name names) said something in the thread that made me think:

 

The fact that you weren't shacking up and leeching off of him after a whole six months earns you hardcore props from me. Most women are like parasites that way.

 

I was thinking about this today, how a lot of women really are like parasites. I had two former women friends who were very much like this, both were completely vicious and greedy. The first was in a LDR with some guy she'd met at a former neighbor's wedding, six months later she quit her job and moved in with him. She told him if they were not engaged to be married within 6 mos of her living with him, she was moving out and back home. After 6 mos came and went, she DEMANDED and DEMANDED and DEMANDED until he gave it to her. Then she DEMANDED they get married. And they did. It's now 13 years later, she's divorced.

 

The second would not strike you as such should you first meet her, but she proved otherwise. She used to constantly juggle boyfriends from the time she was in high school. Keeping them seperated from each other was almost hysterical, with all the lies she told them. Especially when one drove in EVERY WEEKEND to see her from his hometown, the second bf caught her with the first bf, and she introduced her second bf to her first bf as "her friend". The second bf stormed out and drove back home, the first bf was like "WTF just happened?". Eventually she lost both of them, they caught onto the fact that she was with both of them at the same time. But this gal was selfish and greedy from the time we were kids, this did not surprise me in the least (since she never shared with the other children when we were kids). And she was not sweet and innocent by any means, nor was she a mild tempered person. She threw tantrums, screamed and fought with everyone, demanded things from others (and usually got them). Now she is alone too.

 

I am out of my mind when I think back on these stories or hear stories today of women who demand things out of others and get them. I learned the hard way that it must be the man's decission to do most things. If he wants to see you, talk to you, let alone marry you, HE has to ask it. I am not about to demand things, but do others find that women act like parasites? That's a shame if so.

[SmileFace]

Oh brother....

[Sid6.7]

To a large extent it is true what you write. Women like to try and widdle us down and bend us until the poor sap of a man gives in. Stamp their feet and whine until they get what they want and over time the relationship breaks due to all the previous bending. Unfortunately, some men are stupid enough to put up with this.

 

Women have this internal need to nest and some will try to achieve this goal at any expense, even the man's at her own detriment and she is later found to be left out in the cold once the man wakes up and realizes he was a chump. A sucker who snapped out of it and became wise to her ruse.

 

At the end of the day she is left on her own wondering where all the good men are.

[Woggle]

Before anybody starts calling men misogynists remember the OP is a woman. Some women are like this but some aren't.

[gaius]

The first woman sounds like my mother, she found a Jewish guy who was used to being bossed around by women and she bossed him into marriage too. He could have always said no. To each his own. 13 years actually sounds like a pretty successful marriage.

 

As for the second woman, I could match every psycho user woman story you have with a psycho user guy story of my own.

[Sid6.7]

Before anybody starts calling men misogynists remember the OP is a woman. Some women are like this but some aren't.

 

Yeah I had an I idea she was female. Do we really have to have a disclaimer when we post to say "not everyone"? I would like to think most people already know this. Are people on this site that sensitive we can't speak in generalities?

[SmileFace]

As for the second woman, I could match every psycho user woman story you have with a psycho user guy story of my own.

 

shall the duel begin!!!

[DarkPrince]

I read something like that a long time ago, but they can only be like that if you let them. I know plenty of women that pull more than their fair share of weight in a relationship.

[Woggle]

Yeah I had an I idea she was female. Do we really have to have a disclaimer when we post to say "not everyone"? I would like to think most people already know this. Are people on this site that sensitive we can't speak in generalities?

 

Yes. They are that sensitive.

[Sid6.7]

Yes. They are that sensitive.

 

Huh, welp glad it's not my problem.

[sid3]

Huh, welp glad it's not my problem.

 

Stick around long enough and it just may be.

[Sid6.7]

Stick around long enough and it just may be.

 

Hey, another sid. Hi there.

 

I doubt it, but how so?

[sid3]

You have to hand over your balls after a certain number of posts.

 

 

*Sorry for the thread jacking, had to warn the new guy!

[Kamille]

You have to hand over your balls after a certain number of posts.

 

 

 

Yes. I'll take them now. Thanks.

 

 

 

 

To OP: different folks, different strokes. Why focus on this? If you yourself have your own moral standards, you'll be a diamond to the man who finds you.

[gaius]

shall the duel begin!!!

My favorite would be the guy I know from high school who's perfectly capable of working but weaseled his way onto disability. Occasionally convinces some poor woman he meets online to come see him on her dime, usually to have the relationship end when she gets called a nasty slur and told to fu*k off. Did I mention he's in his 30's and still has his mom do all his food/clothes shopping for him? Almost never leaves the house.

 

Talk about parasitic. Really though, it's not like the partners of these people got sneezed on and found themselves stuck with something they can't get rid of. They have a choice in the matter.

[gibson]

Sure there are SOME women like your "friends" you posted about above. I have had the misfortune of running across women like them from time to time.

 

Having said all that...

 

Parasite women are very, very easy spot and just as easy to avoid.

 

All the men in stories above are total and complete idiots.

[johan]

My issue with this thread and others like it is I have a hard time seeing what it is about these things that is distinctly about women. I've known selfish, demanding guys. Soserious will be glad to tell you about the parasitic men she was involved with who took so much when they left the she was left feeling insecure about her own future.

 

These are human traits.

[Sid6.7]

You have to hand over your balls after a certain number of posts.

 

 

*Sorry for the thread jacking, had to warn the new guy!

 

Thanks for the heads up. My balls are firmly in place and will continue to be in tact for the duration. I catch your drift, though.

 

Carry on.

[dasein]

Yeah I had an I idea she was female. Do we really have to have a disclaimer when we post to say "not everyone"? I would like to think most people already know this. Are people on this site that sensitive we can't speak in generalities?

 

The placard waving via "generalization calling" used to be much worse, has gotten better. It's a dating board, people will generalize, and adults understand that a generalization isn't to be taken personally.

 

To the topic, women are parasitic to the extent men allow that treatment, ask for it even. I bet the abused BFs in question had plenty of signs, just ignored them due to wanting to "keep the girl" or salve their own egos. Most gender problems are a product of equal bad behavior and fault. I'm happy to admit that.

[Sid6.7]

My issue with this thread and others like it is I have a hard time seeing what it is about these things that is distinctly about women. I've known selfish, demanding guys. Soserious will be glad to tell you about the parasitic men she was involved with who took so much when they left the she was left feeling insecure about her own future.

 

These are human traits.

 

I really found no issue with it, it is after all, specific. Much like the other topics I have ran across here are male specific. Is there a double standard I am missing out on?

Of course there are selfish demanding guys, just like there are selfish demanding women. Am I to understand the topics in regards to selfish demanding women are off limits? If so, I would like to understand why this might be the case.

Please correct me if I am wrong.

[The Humbler]

The problem with people like the creator of this thread is that they foolishly base their beliefs and life philosophies on anecdotal incidents from there depressingly small, meaningless, dull, little lives. It's the mark of a simpleton to see a few examples of something and then be forever convinced that it's the way things are. Some woman are parasites, some men are parasites...and some people live a pathetic miserable existence focusing on the worst in people.

[Sid6.7]

To the topic, women are parasitic to the extent men allow that treatment, ask for it even. I bet the abused BFs in question had plenty of signs, just ignored them due to wanting to "keep the girl" or salve their own egos. Most gender problems are a product of equal bad behavior and fault. I'm happy to admit that.

 

Good point. You know why many men want relationships with women, or even propose to them? To keep them from sleeping with someone else.

[dasein]

Is there a double standard I am missing out on?

 

Welcome to LS.

[Sid6.7]

The problem with people like the creator of this thread is that they foolishly base their beliefs and life philosophies on anecdotal incidents from there depressingly small, meaningless, dull, little lives. It's the mark of a simpleton to see a few examples of something and then be forever convinced that it's the way things are.

 

I happen to disagree kind sir. She shared a life experience that you yourself may not have had. Just because you may disagree with it does not make your life experience de facto. It was a sharing of opinion which you disagree with and decided to ridicule. Much like your opinion, yours is no more valid than hers. It's just conjecture.

[soserious1]

My issue with this thread and others like it is I have a hard time seeing what it is about these things that is distinctly about women. I've known selfish, demanding guys. Soserious will be glad to tell you about the parasitic men she was involved with who took so much when they left the she was left feeling insecure about her own future.

 

These are human traits.

 

This thread is not about my experiences, per forum rules we must stick strictly to the topic as posted by the OP.

 

OP, I've known some women who are parasitic but I also know a great many, hardworking, giving women who aren't demanding.