CCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCC Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 It's been a little less than 2 months since she's broke my heart. Of course the first couple weeks hurt like hell but I gradually started to feel a little better and was able to get out and do stuff to take my mind off her. Now I guess im experiencing the ups and downs. Been absolute no contact for almost 4 weeks but today I'm feeling really down and there's no way I can get her off my mind. I want to text her, but I'm not going to. I feel like it would just allow her to think about me for a short period of time. I know I won't get anything out of it and therefore I won't do it. So many emotions running wild today.
speedycat Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 After 3 months you will get over her, time heals wound for sure.
Savage4 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Sounds like you're in the exact same situation as me. I'm a little over a week away from 2 months since she left me. I've been trying with all my effort to get back out there and work on myself - 3 days for me to go for a full month of NC. About a week ago I was doing really well and noticed that I could go for a couple hours here and there during the day without thinking of her. Now I feel like the emotions are constantly coming back again in waves and I'm trying to fight them off lol. It's kinda comforting in a sick way to know that someone else is in the exact same boat as me. I guess the saying is true: misery loves company. Trust me, I know it's not easy, but the only thing I can really suggest is to be selfish for once and think of yourself, and how you can make your life better. Find something that you like and put all your energy into that until you get really good at it. This will not only give you a confidence boost but will help take your mind off her. In my case I'm working on biking. It's something I used to love doing and it's great exercise. I also want to find new things to get involved in so I can start meeting new people. Remember to take it one day at a time. Eventually days turn to weeks, weeks to months, months to years... I'm sure just a few months from now you will look back on this with little or no emotion whether positive or negative. You may even realize that you dodged a bullet. Let us know how you're doing
Author CCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCC Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 Sounds like you're in the exact same situation as me. I'm a little over a week away from 2 months since she left me. I've been trying with all my effort to get back out there and work on myself - 3 days for me to go for a full month of NC. About a week ago I was doing really well and noticed that I could go for a couple hours here and there during the day without thinking of her. Now I feel like the emotions are constantly coming back again in waves and I'm trying to fight them off lol. It's kinda comforting in a sick way to know that someone else is in the exact same boat as me. I guess the saying is true: misery loves company. Trust me, I know it's not easy, but the only thing I can really suggest is to be selfish for once and think of yourself, and how you can make your life better. Find something that you like and put all your energy into that until you get really good at it. This will not only give you a confidence boost but will help take your mind off her. In my case I'm working on biking. It's something I used to love doing and it's great exercise. I also want to find new things to get involved in so I can start meeting new people. Remember to take it one day at a time. Eventually days turn to weeks, weeks to months, months to years... I'm sure just a few months from now you will look back on this with little or no emotion whether positive or negative. You may even realize that you dodged a bullet. Let us know how you're doing Thanks for the support man. These low times suck and I don't really feel like sharing my problems with friends as its been almost 2 months since. I've been building my car, working out, working, and going to school in the mean time, just taking it day by day. Im glad to know someone else out there can relate.
polish26 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 I can definitely understand what you are going through. May 1st was my two month mark, and I just had my birthday yesterday which made it harder as I had to deal with my bday party and my ex wanting to come because all of our friends are there... I am sure time will heal all wounds, but you have to give time for that to happen, I have been trying to keep busy with everything and it sounds like you are doing the same! Keep it up, and keep your chin up! Being busy is the best thing we can do for ourselves at this point! Be selfish lol
Author CCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCC Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 I can definitely understand what you are going through. May 1st was my two month mark, and I just had my birthday yesterday which made it harder as I had to deal with my bday party and my ex wanting to come because all of our friends are there... I am sure time will heal all wounds, but you have to give time for that to happen, I have been trying to keep busy with everything and it sounds like you are doing the same! Keep it up, and keep your chin up! Being busy is the best thing we can do for ourselves at this point! Be selfish lol Damn we are in very similar situations! My 21st bday is actually this month. Unfortunately this break up has been so hard on me that I'm not even excited for it. Normally I'd invite all my friends (which are all our mutual friends) but I don't think I even want to do it this year. Sucks that I can't even feel excited for my own bday.
Savage4 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Sounds like you have a lot to keep yourself busy which will be really beneficial. It's much more painful and hard to get over someone when you have nothing to do but sit around and think about them and what happened. I lost a couple other activities that took up a bunch of my time just a couple weeks after my break up. I suddenly found myself with so much free time that I didn't know what to do with myself. I fell into a terrible habit of drinking to the point of blackout almost every night to ease the pain. Of course the hangovers only exponentially multiplied my pain and delayed any chance of healing. This resulted in deep depression and I could see my life going down the drain. I hit rock bottom and decided that I was so sick of feeling sad and depressed that I couldn't take it any longer. I felt like such a loser and was ashamed of myself for giving my ex that much power over me. I realize that I'm the only person that can decide whether I want to be happy or not. I started eating super healthy and exercising constantly to work off the stress and make myself feel better. I feel much better about myself now and resort to exercise anytime I feel the urge to grab a drink. As far as your birthday I would encourage you to invite some people, maybe ones that won't remind you of your ex and have as much fun as you can. My ex's birthday is coming up this month as well and I have no idea how she, or I, am going to approach it.
Author CCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCC Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 Sounds like you have a lot to keep yourself busy which will be really beneficial. It's much more painful and hard to get over someone when you have nothing to do but sit around and think about them and what happened. I lost a couple other activities that took up a bunch of my time just a couple weeks after my break up. I suddenly found myself with so much free time that I didn't know what to do with myself. I fell into a terrible habit of drinking to the point of blackout almost every night to ease the pain. Of course the hangovers only exponentially multiplied my pain and delayed any chance of healing. This resulted in deep depression and I could see my life going down the drain. I hit rock bottom and decided that I was so sick of feeling sad and depressed that I couldn't take it any longer. I felt like such a loser and was ashamed of myself for giving my ex that much power over me. I realize that I'm the only person that can decide whether I want to be happy or not. I started eating super healthy and exercising constantly to work off the stress and make myself feel better. I feel much better about myself now and resort to exercise anytime I feel the urge to grab a drink. As far as your birthday I would encourage you to invite some people, maybe ones that won't remind you of your ex and have as much fun as you can. My ex's birthday is coming up this month as well and I have no idea how she, or I, am going to approach it. Thanks. Im going to try my best to have fun on the bday. As for drinking, I learned the hard way too. It blocks everything for a little while but when you wake up you're even more depressed than you were before. I just plan to finish building my dream car and get in the best shape of my life. Started a good diet and working out whenever I get the chance. We'll get through this eventually. Appreciate the support.
Report This User Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Hey man, after 3 months itll be gone for real with VERY little to no love left. After 6 months you should DEFINETLY be ok and realize how much of a b she was
Svet74 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Yes that's if you keep nc! By the third and 4rth month you will feel better. I'm on month two. But feel like I'm starting all over again cuz I herd my ex still has feelings for me. Would have been better off not knowing
Author CCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCC Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Im pretty sure I can maintain no contact. Only thing that sets me back is seeing her driving since we live sort of near eachother. I get really tempted to look around and in the last month I've seen her driving at least 3 times. My heart stings everytime that happens yet I still try and look for her. I blocked her on all social network sites to be able to heal but this is one thing I'm having trouble doing. I've been trying my best to keep my eyes directly infront of me while I drive.
Chacha8 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I can completely relate to what you are going through. It's been about 2 months for me too, and I am going through the same emotional ups and downs as you mentioned. NC has been a challenge, but I find that I actually feel worse after I speak/text/email him, so I just avoid it all together. Hope your situation continues to get better.
Svet74 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I have to see my ex at church and all his family still talk to me. That's even harder We just avoid each other. And I try not to look at him. I didn't go to church for a month at times just so I don't see him. But I've gotten stronger
Author CCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCC Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Thanks for the support everyone. We'll all get through this. NC is the only way right now, but we'll find happiness in the near future. We just need to stay strong minded.
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