persevere Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 What do you ask, on a first date, that gives a bit of clarity to the person you are meeting? I think asking how the relationship they have/had with their father is a good one.
The Humbler Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 If you want a true insight into what a person is actually like pay particular attention to how they interact with everyone, severs, bus boys, coat check girl, etc. I've walked out on dates when the woman I'm with has treated the above mentioned poorly. It disgusts me when people treat those they believe to be below them disrespectfully. It's a clear sign of low character. 2
HeavenOrHell Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Some of your remarks are very sexist, I find them insulting. thats pretty much most women unfortuantely
SJC2008 Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Personally, sounds a little heavy to ask that on a 1st date ir even on the 1st few.
Emilia Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 What do you ask, on a first date, that gives a bit of clarity to the person you are meeting? I think asking how the relationship they have/had with their father is a good one. I would say on a first date if you asked me that question my response would be that it's none of your business. Opening up about personal and family values takes trust and trust has to be earned. Wishing to protect yourself so early in the dating process is a sign of insecurity.
joystickd Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 asking about their father is not necessarily a great indicator. There are people that are bad that have fathers in their life and there are people that are healthy well adjust people that had an absent father. Its just a matter of personal beliefs and values. 1
KathyM Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 What do you ask, on a first date, that gives a bit of clarity to the person you are meeting? I think asking how the relationship they have/had with their father is a good one. That's too invasive of a question for a first date. But you could find out about her relationship with her family in general by asking if she has lived in the area for a long time, and then she'll talk about places she's lived. Then you could ask if her family lives in the area, and she'll start talking about them, and you may get to know how close she is emotionally to family. That would be a good start. Don't ask questions that are too nosy on a first date. Don't talk about your past romantic relationships in detail, and don't ask her about hers, except to ask if she's ever been married, and more general questions.
FitChick Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 Asking about family can be tricky. What if a guy said he hadn't seen his family in years? It could mean he was a horrible, selfish person ostracized by his family or that his family members were horrible, selfish people so he left to save his sanity. If a woman said she was very close to her family, it could mean she was very dependent and involve them in every relationship decision, valuing their opinion above yours or she was a just a family oriented person. You don't know until you get to know someone.
dasein Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 I prefer to find out how their mind works and their basic intellect and repsonsiveness with light flirtation, joking etc., on the first couple of dates rather than getting into 20 relationship questions interview type deals. If you are doing OLD, there is already a tendency for popular women to turn early dates into HR type interviews. Defusing that tendency makes for better dates IME.
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