StephEd Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 So, I've been dating this guy for about a month and a half, but we only see each other like every 2 weeks. This is partly due to both our busy schedules, and in the beginning I was also dating another guy. However, I stopped seeing the other guy, and haven't met any other men I find interesting. I actually have started to really crush on the guy I'm still dating, and he's a total gentleman with me and definitely focused only on me when we are together. However, when we are not he kinda disappears. I know it's largely because he is in super crunch time at work (works 6 days a week and 5 of those are 12 hours days) because a deadline is coming up, so I have been totally understanding. However, my problem is that I really like him now and it's very hard for me to hold back my feelings and wants with him. I can tell he isn't quite where I'm at with the relationship, and doesn't want to rush into anything. That's actually good for me because I've never had a slow relationship, and feel I should work on that. However, how do I slow down my emotions?? I kind of freak out now since he doesn't contact me until like a week or so when he asks me out on our next date. Is this 2 week thing normal? Lol, I've only ever been with guys who contact me at least several times a week in the beginning, but I also have only become committed to guys who really like me instantly and I really liked them. Lol, I'm so lost here. Help would be greatly appreciated!
TheFinalWord Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 So, I've been dating this guy for about a month and a half, but we only see each other like every 2 weeks. This is partly due to both our busy schedules, and in the beginning I was also dating another guy. However, I stopped seeing the other guy, and haven't met any other men I find interesting. I actually have started to really crush on the guy I'm still dating, and he's a total gentleman with me and definitely focused only on me when we are together. However, when we are not he kinda disappears. I know it's largely because he is in super crunch time at work (works 6 days a week and 5 of those are 12 hours days) because a deadline is coming up, so I have been totally understanding. However, my problem is that I really like him now and it's very hard for me to hold back my feelings and wants with him. I can tell he isn't quite where I'm at with the relationship, and doesn't want to rush into anything. That's actually good for me because I've never had a slow relationship, and feel I should work on that. However, how do I slow down my emotions?? I kind of freak out now since he doesn't contact me until like a week or so when he asks me out on our next date. Is this 2 week thing normal? Lol, I've only ever been with guys who contact me at least several times a week in the beginning, but I also have only become committed to guys who really like me instantly and I really liked them. Lol, I'm so lost here. Help would be greatly appreciated! You're been dating a month and a half but only see each other every 2 weeks. What is that 3 dates? I think you are falling so fast b/c he isn't acting that interested. "I want what I can't have" effect. Slow down. Someone made a good comment on here one time, "never take any one too seriously unless you've had a good 8 to 10 dates with them". You don't even know this guy! Guard your heart 1
Author StephEd Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Hmm, that's great advice! I am used to finding guys who really like me, so we tend to jump to relationships quickly. However, that is what I also now am trying to work on, and just wasn't aware of how to. This totally helps! Thanks!
surferchic Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I agree, relax a little and don't rush things and especially try avoiding fishing him into moving faster than he appears to move without your prompting. Not sure if you're aware, but the menfolk also have a "rules" book. We'll never know for sure if our guys are reading it or not, but based on what you just said almost sounds like it. Their rules book or talk w/ the boys tells them (among other things): ~not to see HER more than once every two weeks! ~dont give her too many compliments ~let her be the first to say "I luv u" ~dont let her have her way too often ...yep...isn't that crazy. But yeah, that's the kin of stuff some of these guys are following...RELIGIOUSLY. My recent guy was doing all this stuff yet I could see in his eyes that I melted his heart and he would end up doing things that I wanted to do rather frequently. Then he pulled back and his game playing caused a kneejerk reaction in me. I've pulled back a lot...a lot. You should do the same.
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