Bob_Funk Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 If you fall outside that age range, you're not even in the running. Don't believe me? Go to any dating site and look at girls' age preferences. Or better yet, set up a profile for a 32 year old male model and see how far you get. I'd trade it all to stay looking 21 forever.
persevere Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 If you fall outside that age range, you're not even in the running. Don't believe me? Go to any dating site and look at girls' age preferences. Or better yet, set up a profile for a 32 year old male model and see how far you get. I'd trade it all to stay looking 21 forever. I hear ya. I would say there's a larger proportion of single women on OLD, mid - late 20's than anyone else. They usually don't look for anyone older than early 30's. Lol...16? Um...no good trying to date from the state penn. Have faith though. There are a lot of older 30-40 women on there. They are harder to find. No kids. Non-psycho. In my experience they are more fun to be around anyway. Maybe not quite the hard body sultry sex godesses. like the 20 somethings, but fun nonetheless. Fewer games. More generous. Much easier to talk to. Much better return on investment.
Radu Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 No, your issue is the fact that you bother with internet dating where you will have succes only as the prototype douchebag. You want to have succes, you need to communicate stuff to her that would be otherwise impossible over the internets [body language/tonality]. Add to this the fact that women treat internet dating as shopping for shoes and you are really wasting your time. You miss that period of time because highs-chool and college were in it where you forced up against girls/women quite frequently. No woman in her right mind is going to say 'no' because you are 32 and not 28, when there isn't such a huge agegap between the 2 of you and you got your **** together [looking good at this age is a matter of gym/eating right].
Stupid Girl Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 16??? What in the world are you talking about? Lol for real. I love threads like this - because YOU don't have any success at that age, no man is allowed to? Better go tell my 31 year old boyfriend we have to break up because he's not allowed to have a relationship after age 28... I agree with Radu, your problem is likely that you're relying on online dating. Step into the real world and you'll probably have a lot more success.
udolipixie Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 If you fall outside that age range, you're not even in the running. Don't believe me? Go to any dating site and look at girls' age preferences. Or better yet, set up a profile for a 32 year old male model and see how far you get. I'd trade it all to stay looking 21 forever. That's a bit of a logical leap as there are plenty of older guys in relationships, older guys in relationships with younger/much younger gals, the average relationship has the guy being 5 years older than the guy, more gals can find older guys who look their age attractive than vice versa, and guys have generally had a far easier time getting younger/much younger gals. I'm guessing the gal's age preferences aren't the only one at play likely the age preferences of said 32 year old guy is 18-21 years old. While some gals at that age may stick to their own age many don't as guys over 30 generally date gals 10 years younger than themselves over gals their own age.
sid3 Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I have to strongly disagree. I've gotten far more attractive as I've gotten older. The attention I get is much greater too. My best memories are still being made. 1
Art_Critic Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I have to strongly disagree. I've gotten far more attractive as I've gotten older. The attention I get is much greater too. My best memories are still being made. Same here Sid... My best memories started at the age of 44
sid3 Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Same here Sid... My best memories started at the age of 44 I'm really glad to hear someome else say that. At 42 I'm much happier about the state of my dating life.
manup Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 In my experience I've seen many of the LTR minded women on OLD who have a preference for guys older and up into their 30's.
ThaWholigan Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Seems like I have a lot to look forward to as a young man
persevere Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I'm 41, and the skies are opening up. Still learning some things, as we all are. I've pretty much learned my limits and where to be realistic. For the most part, to stick with my age group 35-44.
sid3 Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I'm 41, and the skies are opening up. Still learning some things, as we all are. I've pretty much learned my limits and where to be realistic. For the most part, to stick with my age group 35-44. That's a good point. I think having learned is what really makes the difference, aside from the supply and demand aspect of it. Although I'm not so focused on being realistic, instead I approach it somewhat fearlessly. I realised I've never been disappointed when I've really gone after one that I really wanted. I think confidence is thrown around too much, its more a combination of many things. Intuition is probably one of my best dating tools.
gibson Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 My friends and I had no problems dating throughout our teens and twenties. Let me connect the dots for you.... I will let you color it in. 1. Stop online dating if it doesn't work for you. All my friends that have tried it said it was full of rebounders, married people, people that are desperate, socially awkward, etc. Note: These are friends that have NO problems getting dates in the "real world" with very attractive, quality men / women. 2. Always be working on yourself (inside and out) and make you the best you. 3. Ask women out. Problem solved!
persevere Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 That's a good point. I think having learned is what really makes the difference, aside from the supply and demand aspect of it. Although I'm not so focused on being realistic, instead I approach it somewhat fearlessly. I realised I've never been disappointed when I've really gone after one that I really wanted. I think confidence is thrown around too much, its more a combination of many things. Intuition is probably one of my best dating tools. True. Intuition and experience. I know my limits, yet I still mistakenly push them from time to time. When you've seen things many times, you learn. Don't shoot too young. Been there, done that. Tried it again recently, and I was brought back to the very same feelings (and experiences) I had in my 20's. It's interesting. Many women do like older men. However, you get to where you cautiously screen them out..ie "let the games begin". Perhaps that's why they like older men? Women my age, or a bit older? Much more in common. Much more to talk about. They've seen the games too. So, if you are honest with them, they are usually honest with you. Also, I am set in my career with much less personal uncertainties.
Author Bob_Funk Posted May 6, 2012 Author Posted May 6, 2012 My friends and I had no problems dating throughout our teens and twenties. Let me connect the dots for you.... I will let you color it in. 1. Stop online dating if it doesn't work for you. All my friends that have tried it said it was full of rebounders, married people, people that are desperate, socially awkward, etc. Note: These are friends that have NO problems getting dates in the "real world" with very attractive, quality men / women. 2. Always be working on yourself (inside and out) and make you the best you. 3. Ask women out. Problem solved! As horrible as online dating is, the real world's even worse. Girls don't want to be pestered by some stranger on the street or at a club. With all due respect, you're very out of touch when it comes to getting with girls from my generation. Nothing's ever good enough. If you're not in that top 20% in looks and status, even fatties won't have you. This has been my experience, as well as the experience of most of my male friends and acquaintances.
Author Bob_Funk Posted May 6, 2012 Author Posted May 6, 2012 Lol for real. I love threads like this - because YOU don't have any success at that age, no man is allowed to? Better go tell my 31 year old boyfriend we have to break up because he's not allowed to have a relationship after age 28... I agree with Radu, your problem is likely that you're relying on online dating. Step into the real world and you'll probably have a lot more success. Actually, I'm in my mid 20's. Which makes it even more depressing. As barren as my sex life is now, I can only imagine how much worse it will get as I age.
Radu Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Stop the internet dating thing. In their minds, women who do internet dating couple the guy [who they criticize a lot] with the perfect mental image they have of themselves ... guess what, you will lose.
gibson Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 (edited) As horrible as online dating is, the real world's even worse. Girls don't want to be pestered by some stranger on the street or at a club. With all due respect, you're very out of touch when it comes to getting with girls from my generation. Nothing's ever good enough. If you're not in that top 20% in looks and status, even fatties won't have you. This has been my experience, as well as the experience of most of my male friends and acquaintances. The last girl I dated was 20 when I met her and we were in a relationship until she was 23. I was around her and her friends all the time. I am very familiar with girls of your generation. They are no different than my generation. I have read your posts / threads and your view, attitude, approach, mindset, etc. with women is your problem. My advice: 1. Get your self-worth, self-esteem, confidence, "mojo", identity, validation, approval, etc. from within. 2. Have a life / adventure / passions / goals / dreams / etc. of your own instead of trying to make a women your EVERYTHING. 3. Learn how to date / ask women to share / be a part of your life / adventure / passions / goals / dreams / etc. 4. Volunteer, Community Service Projects, Charity Events, Church, etc. are a great place to meet women and men (new friends for you who also will know women). These type of things attract people who are giving, caring, compassionate, selfless, etc. They will be a lot less superficial than the ones you meet in bars and clubs. Once you do that, you have my kind of success. Example of my success: I just did a Habitat for Humanity project and I would say 40% of the women were smoking hot. We ate together several times as a team, we all got to have fun, get to know each other, make a difference in someone's life, etc. I exchanged contact information with several of hot women (20s and up). My problem, which one do I want to date first. Edited May 6, 2012 by gibson 1
Mr Coach Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 The 'Age Preferences' that women set up on dating sites are not written in stone, I've got a friend who's close to 50 and he have dated lots of 20-25 year old girls he met online (and most of them had their "max age preference" set to around 30). Also, don't forget that there are lots of different dating sites specifically targeted to older men/women.
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