PoppyLove89 Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Okay so for the past 3 weeks I've been texting this guy I met and we get on really, really well! He's always been the first to text me and initiate the contact - I'm not coming off as the needy girl messaging him constantly before anyone comes to this conclusion haha. Anyway, we had our first phone call on Saturday 28th March and it went well too; no awkwardness or anything - laughing along and chatting away. He messaged me straight after and we continued talking. As we entered last week he kind of fell off the radar a little but I have no idea why. On Monday he text me as normal, like he'd always done but then I didn't hear from him again until Wednesday morning and even that was just one text; "Hey mrs sorry I didn't text yesterday, I stayed over a mate's and my phone died. Anyway how are you gorgeous? x" Okay, that's fair enough, Monday and Tuesday were his days off. I replied in my usual cheerful and friendly way. I haven't heard from him since. I don't know what's going on; I did message him on Friday referencing an insider joke of ours but nothing came back. I'm not going to text him again because frankly, being ignored is embarrassing (if I am) Shall I chalk this one up to the 'Missing without a Trace' board and forget about him? Or am I reading into 3 days of silence too much? I guess when you spoke every day without fail for 3 weeks, it's bound to make you wonder what's going on if the conversation stops for an unknown reason. Advice?
persevere Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 He's playing games. Phone died, so no text? Ok, maybe. He could have used his 'friends' phone to text you. I know when I am dating a gal, or interested in one, I have a hard copy of their number in my wallet, just in case (most may not do this). But, to not have texted you over those other days? It only takes a second, right? Unfortunately, I would have to say he's found someone else, or he may not be interested upon meeting you. I know it's frutrating, as this very thing has happened to me. 2 week banter. meet..nothing.. Good luck.
Author PoppyLove89 Posted May 6, 2012 Author Posted May 6, 2012 I figured as much lol. Ah well it's always the ones that are all "I've been screwed over before....don't play me...blah blah blah" - it's the double bluff right? God people can't just be open and honest? If you met someone else have the decency to say so and we'll leave it at that. Well I'd let a guy know anyway, it's only polite to let them know where they stand.
persevere Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I figured as much lol. Ah well it's always the ones that are all "I've been screwed over before....don't play me...blah blah blah" - it's the double bluff right? God people can't just be open and honest? If you met someone else have the decency to say so and we'll leave it at that. Well I'd let a guy know anyway, it's only polite to let them know where they stand. So, he told you that? Don't play me? Blah blah. Perhaps not the best person to quote, but a good quote nonethelss... Vladimir Lenin: "Accuse others of what you do" I hate the lack of honestly. "It's been nice getting to know you, however I am looking elsewhere". I think that's less damaging to a person than floating away.
Author PoppyLove89 Posted May 6, 2012 Author Posted May 6, 2012 That is a pretty good quote and it fits the situation perfectly! I guess he just doesn't have the backbone to tell a woman he is no longer interested (for whatever reason) Big enough to play around but not big enough to clean up after himself...typical 'player' syndrome lol! The worst part isn't the rejection, it's the being ignored and left with nothing but your imagination. You conjure up all sorts of reasons for yourself and most of them end up in it all being your own fault (even though 99% of the time it isn't). I just always feel like there's something wrong with me when this happens even though I did nothing wrong. 1
persevere Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 That is a pretty good quote and it fits the situation perfectly! I guess he just doesn't have the backbone to tell a woman he is no longer interested (for whatever reason) Big enough to play around but not big enough to clean up after himself...typical 'player' syndrome lol! The worst part isn't the rejection, it's the being ignored and left with nothing but your imagination. You conjure up all sorts of reasons for yourself and most of them end up in it all being your own fault (even though 99% of the time it isn't). I just always feel like there's something wrong with me when this happens even though I did nothing wrong. I feel your senitments exactly. Player..who needs 'em. In dating, we all go through this. The pain of rejection. I always try to look at it as "it's them not me". Unless you show up wearing burlap, having been sprayed by a skunk, all you can do is be yourself. Attraction is funny. I have a good job, good life, pretty polished. Yet, it hurts when I see a gal I was interested in dating someone with a perceived lesser caliber and less to offer. They may like taller men. Shorter men. Mean, "challenging" men. Who knows. They just didn't like me. So don't be too hard on yourself. There are probably plenty of guys who would look at you and think "wow..I bet she's taken" and love to get to know you. He'll come along.
chimneychamp Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 (edited) That is a pretty good quote and it fits the situation perfectly! I guess he just doesn't have the backbone to tell a woman he is no longer interested (for whatever reason) Big enough to play around but not big enough to clean up after himself...typical 'player' syndrome lol! The worst part isn't the rejection, it's the being ignored and left with nothing but your imagination. You conjure up all sorts of reasons for yourself and most of them end up in it all being your own fault (even though 99% of the time it isn't). I just always feel like there's something wrong with me when this happens even though I did nothing wrong. Women do this to me all the time. I'm excited and think everything is going great, and then the rug is pulled from under me. No explanation. Then I'm saddled with feeling slightly creepy or something just for trying to contact her a few more times to try and see what's the matter... Why can't people just say "Sorry, not interested anymore." It is WAY less hurtful than being non-responsive! Edited May 6, 2012 by chimneychamp
Author PoppyLove89 Posted May 6, 2012 Author Posted May 6, 2012 Exactly! Do they not get that, sure it will be awkward when you initially tell someone you aren't interested anymore or that you've simply met someone else, and YES they will feel embarrassed, jilted, sad...whatever but at least they can move on a lot quicker this way. They aren't left wondering "ah yeah but maybe..." It's selfish is what it is. You're keeping someone on the back-burner and I can guarantee you, if he is seeing someone else and that goes down the pan, I'll get a message with some lame-ass excuse in tow. He isn't anything special physically; I'd even go as far as saying I'm the better looking of the two but I really started to like his personality (or what I thought was his personality anyway). More fool me, I mighta known he was too good to be true! haha
Author PoppyLove89 Posted May 6, 2012 Author Posted May 6, 2012 Which leads me to another good quote: "If he seems too good to be true...he usually is!"
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