jay111111 Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I've been with my boyfriend for a year. We were a long distance couple before I moved here 8 months ago and we have been living together since. Lately I've been noticing some strange things. his last relationship before me was 2 years before we met, he was with the girl for 5 years and she dumped him and he was very badly hurt. He told me he was over her and that he realized that she had problems - she cheated on him. Anyway over the last 2 months he has been acting very strange. He always liked to drink but he has been excessively drinking, he told me this was pressures at work and He also hid his facebook friends list from me. One night he didn't come home and he seemed to have had a bender because he was posting drunk facebook messages that whole night. I did some digging and I found out that the ex moved far away around the time that he started behaving this way. I also found out lately that places he has been taking me to were places they went to, a few blocks from where they lived together and she no longer lived in the neighborhood before she moved so we could have gone to these places all along and never ran into her. This kind of freaked me out since we never went to these places before, and now all of the sudden he wants to go there and when we go, he drinks excessively. Im sorry if im rambling, but this has really freaked me out because now im wondering if he was never really over this ex and is just using me and i am a rebound even though they werent together for so long before we met. does anyone have any ideas, i feel really sick about this and any ideas would be much appreciated, but I think that i might be right and he never was over her and this is doom for me. Tonight he took me to one of these dive bars they went to and I left him there because he was getting really drunk and embarrassed me. I feel like a fool even writing this...
TaraMaiden Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 No you're not a fool. But you can't see the wood for the trees, because you'd rather hope to see the truth you want to see, rather than the truth that is. Ok, little exercise for you. Your BFF has just spilled all of the above, to you. She's written the above, not you. ....What would you say to her? 2
writergal Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I agree with TaraMaiden. You know the truth. Question is, what will you choose to do about it now that you know?
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