username10 Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I can usually talk to girls well and become friendly with them, but I am usually bad at finishing the deal on how to find a way to ask them out on a date. Any suggestions or advice?
yongyong Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 'so how are we going to set this up in terms of coffee?' shut up and look her in the eye.
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 You need to add more flirtation and compliments to show that you are interested, something more direct and goes across the line of what a friend would say. By you just being buddy buddy with them they don't understand what you're interested in either, or they might not altogether be interested and just think you're just trying to build a friendship. So stop trying to use the friendship angle to get closer to women, It's ok for the initial process but you should be trying to connect and engage these women on a more personal level and keep a romantic streak to your demeanor that shows that you are actually attracted to them. Stop treating them like friends, when you meet them, get to know them, be friendly then take it to the next level...you can't just sit around and bide your time, you've got to make a move within a certain window If you're being passed over and show that you are interested, engaged in learning and getting to know them and seeing how they respond to your advances...If they like you they'll reciprocate and give you the time of day easily, If not they'll make excuses not to meet you and talk to you. So get their number, have a conversation and get to know them, then initiate a day and time to meet up together while displaying a level of interest beyond friendship.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Don't allow yourself to think too long without acting. That includes putting her at ease with appropriate humor, a smile, w/e. When you have to part say I'd love to chat some more, would it be possible for me to call you? (Not can I have your number like your a number collector.) Make it fluid and don't think about it too much. It also works the same for females too who want to connect. Staring glibly into space goes nowhere. And if nothing happens after a few seconds then it seems like a weird contest of wills as to who'll blink first. Git'er done in a hurry and don't seize up like you need divine intervention to tell you what to do.
sid3 Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I think you're wasting your time if you don't have the right attitude going into it. Picture yourself succeeding.
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