Els Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I already asked the mods to ban me, since I'm apparently a drama-seeking, bitter old b*tch who the entire forum hates. I came here to share and to express what I couldn't in real life, but apparently that isn't what this place is for. I think the vast majority of us simply expressed concern for you, and perhaps some frustration at that concern being taken the wrong way. Gross picking and choosing and extrapolation again, V. C'mon.
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Ouch. Portlandia has really painted us all with a brush. Yeah there are hipsters here, but we're not all like that Assuming you'd want a man your age or older, I wouldn't worry too much about that. The hipster thing is for the kids. *edit* stop calling yourself a fat nerd. If not for my sake than for your own. I saw your pic. You'd have no troubles up here, that's for sure. I need to see pics and if she isn't carrying her gut around in a deathstar wheelbarrow I am going to be very disappointed.
somedude81 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I already asked the mods to ban me, since I'm apparently a drama-seeking, bitter old b*tch who the entire forum hates. I came here to share and to express what I couldn't in real life, but apparently that isn't what this place is for. How do you expect anybody to like you with that attitude? Do you want a pity boyfriend or something?
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I need to see pics and if she isn't carrying her gut around in a deathstar wheelbarrow I am going to be very disappointed. There is a pic few pages back..
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 How do you expect anybody to like you with that attitude? Do you want a pity boyfriend or something? Ha ha ha. Somedude, have you asked yourself the same question?
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 There is a pic few pages back.. She's decent enough looking.
somedude81 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Ha ha ha. Somedude, have you asked yourself the same question? Do I even sound half as negative as V?
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Do I even sound half as negative as V? YES. You sound about the same. The only difference is that you fixate more on physical looks in females than V does in males. 1
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Ha ha ha. Somedude, have you asked yourself the same question? On that note, for myself it is hard to find someone who hasn't gone through similar experiences particularly the same troubles to be relatable.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 She's decent enough looking. She IS. She is even cute. I just wish she would see that
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 On that note, for myself it is hard to find someone who hasn't gone through similar experiences particularly the same troubles to be relatable. Do you relate to Somedude? (I am assuming you are a guy)..
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Also though she is a little thick her tits are pretty big so I would think that should be a huge plus especially when so few women have noticeable breasts. Some of that's due to so many women being rail thin today and some of it might be due to women with larger busts tending to always be a minority.
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Do you relate to Somedude? (I am assuming you are a guy).. I haven't read much in the way of his posts but I have probably had similar difficulties and it may have made me just as misogynistic and cynical. I was thinking more of a girl I met months ago who I could sense was damaged in some of the same ways I am but she wouldn't admit to it. It had been a long time or perhaps never since I could find a person irl I could relate to. Everyone else feels so distant and strange though I recognize them as normal or more normal than me.
kaylan Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 There ya go, hope ya have a strong gag reflex. Id smash...just sayin'. You got some tig ole bitties lolol And I find you to be cute. If you lived in NY you wouldnt be single for long. Plenty of dudes around here would go for you. And not straight up ugly loser guys either.i don't even... The only problem with the woman in that picture is she is fully clothed. This. tits or gtfo... lmao jk
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I haven't read much in the way of his posts but I have probably had similar difficulties and it may have made me just as misogynistic and cynical. I was thinking more of a girl I met months ago who I could sense was damaged in some of the same ways I am but she wouldn't admit to it. It had been a long time or perhaps never since I could find a person irl I could relate to. Everyone else feels so distant and strange though I recognize them as normal or more normal than me. I feel sort of similar. "Normal" people feel strange and distant. Like I could never relate to them or them to me. Occasionally (in real life), I would meet someone whom I could sense is "damaged" in similar ways to me. They would usually put up a wall and won't let me connect. Very few people will admit to being "damaged". I have no problem admitting it.
missyme04 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 My last ex is very similar. Under-employed, frequent pot smoker, biggest hobbies are video games and watching TV, never works out except the occasional bike ride. My ex too. LOL! But he's not a smoker at all. Just addicted to VIDEO GAMES [DOTA] nad he's unemployed. Maybe because his mother spoiled him too much. always gives him money, err! But I loved him so much though. He's a good man, sweet, caring. The only problem is he doesnt think of his future. Only stuck with games and games and games and games
Feelsgoodman Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Different experiences. I don't think our experiences are all that different. It seems we are talking about the same thing, except you are phrasing it differently in an effort to sound politically correct.
Author iris219 Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Iris, maybe that is the solution. Forget dating and just have kids on our own. I mean, I repulse guys anyway... not like being a single mother could hurt my chances anymore. I'm just always concerned about raising them on a single income. I've decided that being pregnant and giving birth by myself would be depressing for me. I want someone to share those moments with me. I will, however, look into adoption in about 10 years. Your logic is flawed. You are assuming that because guys who are losers have no problem attracting women, guys who are not losers are doing even better. This is often not the case. Many women are drawn to losers like flies to honey (on second though, like fliest to sh*t would be a better analogy). I know a guy who used to be a stereotype of middle class respectability: good education, solid job as an accountant, drove a nice car, had a nice house, etc. He also couldn't get a woman to date him if his life depended on it. A coupe of years ago, he suffered a kind of a breakdown and figured his whole life was a sham. At first he became very religious but gave up on that rather quickly. Afterwards, he essentially became a middle aged bum, started playing guitar and smoking a lot of pot, worked part time low stress jobs and moved into his parents' basement. Funny thing is, his appeal to women increased exponentially. Before, he would complain about being friend-zoned by some dumpy/overweight chick that he wanted to be in a relationship with. Nowadays, he seems to have an endless stream of cute girls vying for his attention. It's weird...being a loser seems to be the ultimate aphrodisiac for women. The normal, stable guys I know are married or in LTR. They easily found relationships. It not that women are attracted to losers (I’m not). The point of my thread is that there’s nothing else left after a certain age. How old is your friend? Over 30? He may have gotten to the age where women are dying for male attention. I have single female friends who haven’t been on dates in years. I actually do well compared to them and that’s not saying much. Verhrzn: Move up here to Portland OR. I can be your wingman, and you will literally be swimming in eligible bachelors. There are so many single men here it's ridiculous. If you really aren't as fussy as you say, I could probably get you into whatever type of relationship you desire. I definitely need to put Portland on my vacation list! I recently applied for a job there, but didn't get it. Let this useless thread die. How is this thread useless? Useless to YOU, you mean? From what I know about you, you go out to clubs and are surrounded by young, hot, single girls. I have never walked into any room and been surrounded by single men. Imagine, if everywhere you went there were only married women and women too damaged to have a relationship. I think you'd get frustrated too if you literally had no options.
kaylan Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 ^Oh please, its another thread about the same crap you people argue about all the time. It is very useless and circular and has gotten derailed with people talking to V about the same ole, same ole. As per usual
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I've decided that being pregnant and giving birth by myself would be depressing for me. I want someone to share those moments with me. I will, however, look into adoption in about 10 years. I fully agree with this. I think the experience would be so depressing, it would only highlight more that I am alone. I would probably cry while giving birth Adoption is more appealing from the humanitarian prospective - and there is plenty of time for that option.
kaylan Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 (edited) @Iris Also, I do bars more than clubs btw. I actually havent been to a legit club in a year or so. But the bars I go to tend to be more dancey. Maybe if you want to go out and be surrounded by single men than you need to go to those venues correct? They dont have to be bars or clubs either. Plenty of places have attractive single folks in them. And about the adoption thing you mentioned...look at the upside. Many kids out there need good homes, so adoption is a great thing. Plus it saves your body from what pregnancy does to it. Tbh, if I was a woman, and if the natural momma instinct wasnt super strong, knowing me, Id forgo pregnancy. I know a couple women who say they wont get preggerz because of what it does to the body. Edited May 8, 2012 by kaylan 1
Oksana Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 V, I hope you don't get discouraged and leave the site. I am mainly a lurker here and this is my first post. But I am in the same boat as you and empathize with your struggles. I've read your threads, and as a below-average looks female myself, I know where you are coming from. One of these days, I might get the courage to post my own story, but in the meantime I want you to know that some of us ugly gals here who are lurkers relate to and understand what you are going through. I hope you don't quit the site!
sid3 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 ^Oh please, its another thread about the same crap you people argue about all the time. It is very useless and circular and has gotten derailed with people talking to V about the same ole, same ole. As per usual How true, there's not nearly enough " what I'm going to try and do about it" threads. Its so much easier to whine apparently.
Author iris219 Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 @Iris Also, I do bars more than clubs btw. I actually havent been to a legit club in a year or so. But the bars I go to tend to be more dancey. Maybe if you want to go out and be surrounded by single men than you need to go to those venues correct? They dont have to be bars or clubs either. Plenty of places have attractive single folks in them. And about the adoption thing you mentioned...look at the upside. Many kids out there need good homes, so adoption is a great thing. Plus it saves your body from what pregnancy does to it. Tbh, if I was a woman, and if the natural momma instinct wasnt super strong, knowing me, Id forgo pregnancy. I know a couple women who say they wont get preggerz because of what it does to the body. I go out A LOT. I'm going out tonight to see a friend play (singer/songwriter stuff). I'll be there with him, his wife, and another married couple. There aren't places here that are full of single men my age. There are dance clubs full of single 22 year old boys, but I don't go that route. I know you're trying to be helpful, but most women who really want children aren't concerned about what it does to their bodies. I have a good body; I'm very much into fitness, so I have no doubt I'd look similar after giving birth.
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